Raising children, in the final analysis, means fighting for the mother

When I hold parent-teacher conferences for my children, I find an interesting phenomenon. Most of the people who come to the parent-teacher conferences are mothers, and few fathers. Another time while watching \”Where Are We Going, Dad\”, my daughter asked: Why is this show called \”Where Are We Going, Dad\”? It\’s obviously \”Where\’s Mom?\” Later I realized that in most families, the mother takes care of the children, which is nothing unusual. Only having the father take care of the children is more challenging and eye-catching. It seems that mother is more important. Raising children requires more effort. Every mother and child are friends of life and death. There was an article not long ago, \”A 26-year-old girl was diagnosed with cancer in May of her pregnancy. Her choice made countless people cry: Every mother and child are friends of life and death.\” , causing countless people to burst into tears. It is about a 26-year-old girl Zhang Lijun who was diagnosed with advanced pancreatic cancer when she was 5 months pregnant. The doctor suggested that she remove the child for treatment, but she said: I have lived for 26 years, but the child has not yet come to the world to see it. No matter what, I have to bring her to this world to see. She was determined to keep the child. The child was saved, but she missed the best treatment period for cancer. When the child was 7 months old, Zhang Lijun underwent a caesarean section until her body could no longer hold on. On the 6th day after giving birth, Zhang Lijun began to undergo cancer testing and treatment, but she was diagnosed with a more malignant cancer, and surgery was meaningless. In the late stages of cancer, at the end of her life, she recorded 18 birthday wishes to her children. In her birthday greeting, she said to her child: No matter whether mom is by your side, in heaven, or anywhere, she loves you the most, cares about you the most, and will always protect you. Every mother and child are friends of life and death. I recall that when I was 5 months pregnant, I had a B-ultrasound examination. The doctor examined me for a long time, and then said to me seriously: \”I didn\’t see the baby\’s fingers, but it might be that the fingers were blocked. Come back next month.\” Check.\” The doctor\’s words made me toss and turn every night, and I often shed tears uncontrollably. What if the child really has no fingers? To stay or not to stay? He has been rooted in my belly for 5 months. I can feel him even when the baby moves. I have been with him day and night, and I have feelings for him when I talk to him every day. How can I be willing to abandon him? After a fierce ideological struggle, no matter what my husband thought, I decided that no matter whether he was healthy or disabled, I would risk my life to give birth to him. A month later I had a color ultrasound, which was supposed to check the child\’s heart and other organs. I specifically asked the doctor to check the child\’s fingers. During the examination, my husband was sitting next to the doctor. The doctor pointed to the color ultrasound image and asked my husband, \”This is the child\’s hand. Can you see the fingers?\” The husband said, \”Yes.\” I breathed a sigh of relief. The doctor asked again: \”How many fingers did you see?\” Sir: \”5.\” Doctor: \”There are not 5, they are obviously 4.\” My heart was hanging again, but fortunately the doctor immediately explained: \” Look, he\’s eating his hand, and he can\’t see his thumb.\” The stone that had been hanging for a month finally fell to the ground, and suddenly I realized that there is the most beautiful word in the world, which is \”a false alarm.\” Every child is the result of a mother’s hard work. Fighting for mom, fighting for mom, fighting for mom’s life, mom’sLove. My father makes money to support the family, but it is my mother who supports the family. Ni Ping, a host who was once popular all over the country, has disappeared from the CCTV stage for more than ten years. Because her son was diagnosed with congenital cataracts when he was only 4 months old. \”If it is not treated in time, the condition will continue to worsen, and it may become blind or even life-threatening.\” After hearing the doctor\’s words, Ni Ping\’s whole world collapsed. In order to save money, she took her child to the United States for medical treatment alone; in order to communicate with doctors and understand her son\’s condition in time, she began to learn English at an early age; in order to relieve her worries and calm her mood, she began to smoke cigarettes one by one; in order to Her child\’s medical expenses were high. In those years, as long as her income from work in China could exceed the round-trip air fare, she would fly back to China for more than ten hours. After the work was completed, she would fly back to take care of her son… But she did not expect that in the sixth year of her child\’s illness, she would The child\’s father filed for divorce. The family was broken up, and all the burden fell on Ni Ping alone. She hadn\’t had a good night\’s sleep in ten years. She gritted her teeth and persisted, enduring countless sleepless nights. Finally, during the last review, the doctor said to her son: \”Wang, please come back for a review when you get married. Everything is fine. I wish you good luck.\” At that moment, Ni Ping slumped in her chair and couldn\’t help covering her face and crying. . The world is too harsh on mothers. They have to give birth and take care of a baby, take care of the family and work at the same time. And too many fathers avoid family responsibilities in the name of career. I would like to ask, how many fathers do housework and take care of children? Occasionally, a father would take a bath or take a walk with his child, and he would be praised as a good father. Most of the time, they lie down, playing mobile phones and games, waiting to eat. Slowly, mothers were forced to become steel-framed, androgynous supermen who could earn money, take care of their children, do housework, tutor their children, work in the hall, and work in the kitchen… They fought hard to fight for their children, and they fought hard for their children. Fight hard. There is a very famous question about the mother\’s pattern that determines the child\’s future: If a family has two children, but only one education fund, who do you vote for? The best answer is: vote for girls. Because by educating a boy, you only educate an individual, but by educating a girl, you educate a family, a nation, and a country. The hand that moves the cradle is the hand that moves the world. The mother\’s pattern determines the child\’s future. In the movie \”Wonderful West\”, Shen Guangyao\’s mother heard that he was going to be an air force to fight against Japan, and rushed to the Southwest Associated University to see him and said to him: When you left home thousands of miles away to study here, your father Neither I nor I objected. Because we want you to enjoy the joys of life, such as reading thousands of books and traveling thousands of miles, or marrying the girl you like and having children. Note that it is not to add children and grandchildren to me, but to yourself, to be able to enjoy the joy of being a parent. The fame, fortune, and fortune you pursue in your life are nothing that your ancestors have not experienced. Those are just the illusions of life. I\’m afraid, before you figure out how to live this life, your life will be gone! I admire such a big-picture mother. Her expectation for her son is not fame, fortune, or honor, but to allow him to think carefully and live his life the way he wants, without having to live by his parents\’ expectations. Think about modern mothers, who are alsoDo your best to give your children the best education and life. But that phrase \”I\’m doing this all for your own good\” has caused so many children to either become giant babies that won\’t grow up, or have a bloody encounter with their parents. The mother\’s pattern determines the height of the child\’s life, and the child\’s growth depends on the mother. A good mother is better than a good teacher I heard a story from a reader. Her parents often quarreled when she was a child, and her mother vented her anger on her. As soon as she comes home every day, her mother will take out her homework book, carefully count the red crosses, whip her with a belt according to the number of red crosses, and then give her a question to do. If she does not do it, she will be beaten again. In this way, she, who originally loved studying, became frightened and confused when she saw her mother when she came home. She suddenly became so stupid and clumsy, until her mother beat her until she got cramps, so she reduced the frequency of beating her. Physical scars can heal, but psychological scars can never disappear. When she was in school, whenever she encountered criticism from a tough teacher, her mind would go blank; when she encountered criticism from a harsh leader at work, she became particularly nervous; when she encountered strong people, she just wanted to stay away; and later she My marriage is also deeply affected… In most families, the mother takes care of and accompanies the children. The mother\’s influence on the child will subtly affect his psychology, habits and way of thinking, and it will penetrate into his bones unconsciously. These will even accompany him throughout his life and affect him throughout his life. The famous \”Silicon Valley Iron Man\” Elon Musk has a good mother, Meyer. At the age of 31, Meyer ended her 10-year marriage and began raising three children alone. In order to pay for her children\’s tuition, she once worked five jobs at the same time. Facing all difficulties with a smile, the power of example allowed Musk to survive the difficult days when Space X failed three consecutive launches. Musk always goes out of his way to thank his mother. He said: \”I know she had a hard time when our three children were in college, but she never complained, and she was always smiling every time I saw her. This attitude is the best thing she gave us. Precious treasure.\” A good mother is better than a good teacher. The child\’s living habits, temperament, and gradually formed outlook on life and world are all hidden in the daily interactions with his mother. When your child calls you \”Mom\”, it means your eternal responsibility. He is your lifelong weakness, and you have to be his lifelong armor. Every mother is a superhero. However, I am also a mother for the first time. I hope all mothers in the world can be treated with tenderness.