Retired Tsinghua professor: It’s hard to control your children even if you don’t think about these three things.

Education has always been an ever-changing topic. Many parents believe that education starts from school and that children should have an unfettered childhood. In fact, this is not the case. There is an old saying that goes, \”Three years old, you are older, and seven years old, you are older.\” Educating children should start from an early age. Family education is very important for children. Education is an essential experience for growth that each of us cannot live without. Everyone has to experience family education from birth, learning and growing under the influence of mother and father. And family education is closely related to the educational outlook of the entire society. \”If you raise a child for one hundred years, you will have ninety-nine worries.\” From the moment a child is born, every parent worries about their child\’s growth and education. When I was a child, I was worried that my children would not grow tall and have good nutrition. When I grew up, I was worried that my children would be bullied outside. As long as the children are around, parents can\’t help but meddle in things, and in the end they end up with a thankless result. But in my opinion, as long as you keep these 3 things in mind, your child’s failure will not be your fault! Control your children\’s desires. Nowadays, everyone\’s living conditions have improved a lot. Parents have begun to meet their children\’s various requirements. As long as the children feel happy, it is worth the investment. As everyone knows, it is this kind of thinking that makes children get lost in their ever-expanding desires and ultimately achieve nothing. A very good friend in college had a difficult and dangerous labor, and it took 12 hours to give birth to a son. For this reason, the couple doted on the child, who was a domineering figure at home, and was like a \”little bully.\” When the child was 8 years old, he fell in love with Taekwondo and insisted on asking his friends to take him to sign up. At that time, my friend was quite happy, thinking that the child had finally found a talent that interested him, so he immediately took the child to participate in a Taekwondo training class. But the good times didn\’t last long. Within a week, the child shouted not to go, saying that his back was sore and his hands were swollen. Seeing the unhappy look on the child\’s face, his friend followed him. A few days later, I saw some friends I was playing with learning hip-hop, and I begged my friends to sign up. Unexpectedly, during the practice, I moved too violently and broke my hand. After a few months of rest, the child who was supposed to continue practicing turned to painting again. A few years have passed in the blink of an eye. Children of the same age have their own strengths and skills, but my friends\’ children are still picky… Children\’s desires are always numerous and complex, and they are impatient and uncertain. This requires parents to control and manage. If children are allowed to develop freely, they will end up doing nothing. Isn\’t there a saying like this: \”Things that are obtained easily will never be cherished; but things that are obtained with hard work will always be taken into consideration.\” Keep your children\’s mouths in check As a parent, you must have had this kind of trouble! \”Mom, I\’m going home to watch TV!\” \”Wait a minute, Mom has something to tell Aunt Zhang.\” \”No, I have to leave now, the TV has already started.\” \”Why are you so annoying, kid? Can you?\” Can\’t you be quiet for a while?\” Especially when you are talking about something important with others, your child always interrupts or loses his temper, which seems very rude and ruins the atmosphere. In the past, when I was in class, when it came to the climax, some children would always want to extend the topic. In a few minutes, the wholeThe whole class was booed by this kid who talked casually, which completely disrupted my thoughts. It can be said that teachers do not like children who interrupt and cause trouble in class, even if the child is a top student. Children\’s habits will follow them for a long time. If their interruptive temperament does not change, it will be very detrimental to their future careers. I would like to ask, which company boss would always want an employee who likes to interrupt, wants to show off, and doesn\’t know how to respect others? Control a child’s laziness. A person’s success is no accident, but rather a person’s willingness to work hard and study. On the other hand, the vast majority of children nowadays are lazy by nature and are good at everything, including eating, drinking and having fun. This is really terrible. ! One time, my aunt suddenly called me and said that she was traveling out of town and asked me to cook breakfast, lunch and dinner for her grandson, so that the child would not have to order takeout all the time, which is not good for his health. This was not difficult, so I agreed. I rushed over after hanging up the phone. As soon as I entered the door, I saw socks scattered on the ground, rancid takeout boxes, and a thin layer of dust on the ground. My aunt has only been out playing for two days, and the children have already made a mess in the house. They have not cleaned the house, and they have not even opened the curtains. In the dim light, you can vaguely see the children covered with quilts and playing games. I asked him, why don\’t you open the curtains and play games? And the answer he gave me was: too lazy! I really feel that the living conditions of children today are much better than when we were children. They are picked up and dropped off when they go out, their books are packed when they go to school, their clothes are washed, and their beds are taken care of. As long as they open their mouths, they are helped with everything. They are extremely happy. But is such a lazy child really okay? Can that child who doesn\’t even bother to open the curtains open his own glorious life in the future? Impossible. In a recent mid-term exam, he was caught cheating because he was too lazy to think about his answers. He was severely warned and punished by the school. And he was already in the third year of junior high school. This punishment is likely to follow him for the rest of his life! Therefore, parents, if you want your children to be successful, you must stop being lazy! Parents always hope that their children will become successful and their daughters will become phoenixes. They hope to train their children to become talents. However, for children to become talented, it is by no means something that happens overnight. It requires accumulation over a long period of time. Smart people know how to break things into pieces and accomplish their goals step by step. To achieve the big goal of children becoming talented, you can first set a small goal that is achievable, such as letting your children develop good habits. The following good habits that will benefit you for life must be developed by your children! Go to bed early and get up early. High-quality sleep is crucial to your child\’s physical development. Going to bed early and getting up early not only has great benefits for children\’s physical health, but also keeps children energetic throughout the day and full of energy to do everything well. Keep exercising: running, football, basketball, rope skipping, gymnastics… These various forms of sports can not only exercise and make children grow taller and stronger, but also enrich children\’s lives and bring them a good mood throughout the day. Therefore, it is important to let your children develop at least one exercise habit. Read more and read good books. Reading and fitness are the most valuable investments! Reading can make children\’s minds broad, their horizons broad, their thoughts profound, and their vision long-term; it can help children understand the truth, understand right and wrong, and be a good person! Let your child take an hour a dayReading is more effective than any other education. It is worth noting that good books can make a child successful, and bad books can also destroy a child. There are always some bad books on the market that are not good for children\’s physical and mental health. Parents must help their children to check carefully and choose good books that are suitable for their children, that they are interested in, and that are beneficial to their children! Study first, play later. They say that when doing things, you need to balance work and rest. This is of course no problem. However, children must remember and resolutely implement the saying \”learn first, play later\”. A relaxed and comfortable life is based on a strong economic foundation. People who put entertainment first and work last will definitely be miserable. Unless you are wealthy and confident that your children can live comfortably without doing anything, you must let your children develop the habit of learning first and playing later. Education is a long-term process, and children at each stage face different problems. As a parent, you must pay attention to the changes in your children in a timely manner and adjust your education methods in a timely manner so that your children can grow up with correct education methods.