\”Mom, can you wait for me to die together?\” When my sister Xiaoxi was in the kindergarten class, one day she heard that a small animal died in a storybook, so she asked me: \”What is death?\” To be honest, this question is really real. It was difficult to answer, so I struggled to explain to her in a way that she could understand and accept: \”To die is to lie there motionless, as if asleep…
Tag: Early childhood
There is a boy in the family, and dad has a long road ahead…
From the direction of my childhood, what I see is always your back… You called me to be a son, and I followed you to become a father. This is a poem from Bei Dao\’s \”For Father\”. These two poems tell the true meaning of the relationship between father and son: the father brings his son into this world, no matter how picky and challenging the son is, one day he will suddenly discover that his father\’s characteristics are also hidden in himself…
Respecting children too much is a dereliction of duty on the part of parents
One afternoon last week, I went to pick up my children from kindergarten. When I went there, the gate of the kindergarten was not open yet, and the parents were waiting outside. I also joined the waiting army. Next to me, several parents stood chatting and overheard their conversation. A mother expressed her frustration. Her son goes to bed too late at night and can\’t get up in the morning. Every day…
This kind of behavior of parents will leave a lifelong shadow on the children
I saw a topic on Zhihu that exposed scars: \”What is the one thing that hurts you the most about your parents?\” Many people mentioned their parents\’ verbal violence. One Zhihu friend even summed it up with a slightly ironic sentence. Words: No one is more gifted with words than parents when it comes to hurting their children. Why do so many people hold back the verbal abuse they suffered as children? Probably because…
What\’s so annoying about second-born kids fighting? It\’s your own wrong mentality
Fighting between the eldest child and the second child is an unavoidable problem in families with two children. Whether there are two sons, two daughters, or one son and one daughter, all kinds of fighting and fighting are inevitable. Some people say that if the age difference between the second child is large, there will be no fighting. In my opinion, unless the age gap is so big that the eldest child is already an adult when the second child is born, fighting will still occur. Our older sister is older than our younger sister…
Your \”good intentions\” are killing your children\’s creativity
I had a dinner date with a friend two days ago, and the conversation turned into a \”psychological consultation.\” My friend works in a university that is envied by many people. She has winter and summer vacations every year, but she says she is extremely anxious. She is more tired than anyone else. Lectures, scientific research, administration, and further studies all have to be compromised, and she may not be able to succeed. Well done. What made her even more uncomfortable was that with this step-by-step rhythm, she simply couldn\’t…
If my child has a fever, do I need to wake him up at night to give him medicine? Will it burn out the brain?
Let science answer it. Under normal circumstances, there is no need to wake up children to give medicine. The seasons have changed recently, and the temperature has been hot and cold. There are many children with colds and fevers. There are also some infectious diseases that make us more worried and anxious. Especially at night, once the child\’s temperature is measured and he has a fever, we start to struggle with whether to wake him up and take antipyretics. After checking a lot of information, I found…
Whether a child loves reading or not, choosing the right book is the key
A mother said, \”My child doesn\’t like reading. Even if I take him to the bookstore, he only reads weird comics. What should I do?\” Every parent hopes that their children will fall in love with reading. Because the way a child reads is really beautiful. Hold a book, sit on the bedside, or lean on the sofa. The little mind is already flying in the vast expanse…
The biggest generation gap in the world is between those with children and those without children
There are two types of women: one has children, and the other does not have children. There is a galaxy between them and it is difficult to have fun. Never say to a mother: \”Why don\’t you just raise a child~\” \”Raising a child is about the same as raising a pet.\” Believe me, Sister Zhiling could explode when she heard it. After she gave birth to a child, she realized how difficult it is to raise a child. She goes to bed later than a ghost and wakes up 3 hours earlier than a chicken…
What should I do if my husband’s parenting philosophy conflicts with my own?
Some time ago, a reader left me a message and talked about the conflict with her husband. She was very distressed. She said: Recently, my husband and I have been quarreling a lot because of the education of our eldest son. To make a long story short, for example, tonight the child had to serve the meal by himself. Just now. The cooked porridge was a bit hot, but he insisted on serving it to us. My approach was to stand in front of him to ensure his safety and let him try it once, but my husband was very fierce…