Saw a post on Zhihu. The poster was a mother who claimed that as her son grew up, her temper became worse and worse, and she often lost control of her emotions. She gets particularly angry when her son disobeys even a little bit. She would yell at him, even twist his face and ears, and use cold violence on the child without speaking or paying attention to him. She said: \”I knew what I was doing was wrong. After beating him…
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When I let go of my anxiety and became a \”positive\” mother, my adolescent daughter\’s dislike of studying and rebelliousness disappeared.
My daughter has not been going to school since last year. Like many children who don’t like to study, she has a lot of problems. The main reason for suspending schooling is that the child is excluded in the class. Her classmates always beat her up and the teacher does not recognize her. When I go to school, she always complains that her stomach hurts and asks me to ask the teacher for leave. I usually have trouble concentrating in class, and I procrastinate on my homework. And learn…
Is quarreling in front of children the worst thing a parent can do? Psychologists tell you not to be so nervous
Ever since I became a parent, it seems that quarreling has become a serious matter. It is no longer the incarnation of \”disagreement\”, but a weapon to \”hurt children\”. I got emotional and had a quarrel, but I regretted it afterwards. Ten thousand voices floated through my mind, including the voices of parenting experts, the accusations of relatives and friends around me, and the internal questioning of myself: \”Don\’t be a child. ..
Children who are constantly entangled with their parents and find it difficult to become independent, have a low sense of security and are anxious.
Are you unknowingly making your children lose their sense of security? When you tell your children to be careful over and over again, have you ever thought that this might be conveying your anxiety? Every \”don\’t talk to strangers\” and \”be careful\” will make teenagers more afraid of the world and lose the courage to explore and be independent. As a mom, have you realized that sometimes your overprotectiveness can…
Less \”reasoning\” with children and more \”building relationships\” with them
Rousseau once mentioned in his book \”Emile\”: \”Talking to children is the most ineffective education.\” Children are most afraid of their parents nagging them endlessly. And parents who are keen on being reasonable will only make the relationship between their children and themselves further and further away. Psychology professor He Lingfeng said: \”The first priority of parents is to maintain a good parent-child relationship, so that your influence on them is; if…
10 characteristics of children with low IQ
Every parent hopes that their children will be smart, but some children may have some problems while growing up, making parents worry about whether their children\’s IQ is normal. So, what are the characteristics of children with low IQ? Today, we will summarize the top 10 characteristics of children with low IQ. 1. Slow response: An obvious characteristic of children with low IQ is slow response…
When faced with disobedient children, this \”empathy technique\” is 10,000 times more effective than reasoning
To be honest, what is cut off is the parent-child link. A few days ago, I took my son to the supermarket to buy things. Suddenly I heard a burst of crying. It seemed that the situation was probably that a little boy really wanted a car toy, but his mother refused to buy it. At first, the mother was quite patient and patiently reasoned with the little boy: \”We have so many small cars at home, we can\’t buy any more.\” \”Look at how small this car is…
Who raises smarter children? Not the mother, research confirms: If this person takes care of the baby, the baby will have a higher IQ
Who is taking care of the children in your family? When I talked about this topic with my friends, I found that in most families, the mother takes care of the children, while the father rarely takes care of the children. On the one hand, the father may be more busy at work and have no time to take care of the children. On the other hand, it is really unreliable to let the father take care of the children. The \”perfunctory way of raising children\” mentioned on the Internet actually refers to the father taking care of the children. Dad takes care of the baby…
After witnessing the other side of a top-notch mother and son, I completely reconciled with myself!
My problem is: I always feel that I am not self-disciplined enough and emotionally stable enough. Therefore, I have a natural respect for people who are self-disciplined and emotionally stable, and I often feel inferior to them. After becoming a mother, I met many excellent mothers because of their children. Every time I see these \”perfect\” parents, I feel ashamed and feel that it must be because I am not good enough and my children are not good enough. This may…
Keep in mind 5 reasons you must consider when choosing a kindergarten
In the process of children\’s growth, kindergarten is the first step for them to contact society, and its importance is self-evident. Choosing a suitable kindergarten is crucial to the development of a child\’s character, habits and even future learning and development. So, what reasons should we keep in mind when choosing a kindergarten? Next, I will give you an in-depth analysis of the five must-haves for choosing a kindergarten…