The child stole and lied, and she used these four words to change him

As soon as I walked into the classroom in the morning, Xiaowen couldn\’t wait to complain to me: his calligraphy practice sheet had been stolen. The person who stole the things was his deskmate Haohao. He secretly changed it into his own name and handed it in his homework. He also changed his dirty calligraphy practice sheets into Xiaowen\’s name. I can recognize my handwriting. How is it possible? My handwriting is so bad? After finishing speaking, Xiaowen was still panting angrily. Oh my God, a child who is only seven or eight years old can actually do such a thing as \”a civet cat for a prince\”? Xiaowen is a famous \”calligrapher\” in the class. His pencil writing is horizontal and vertical, which is very beautiful. The word \”Haohao\” is exactly the opposite, so why is the word \”Dirty\” so bad? Often asked to redo it. The classmates all flocked to complain. Some said they saw Haohao change his name, some said they saw him looking through his desk drawer for homework, and some said Haohao would never admit it… The crowd was excited. I was also very angry. It was so outrageous that I could steal other people\’s things at such a young age. Haohao came, and I asked: \”Xiaowen\’s calligraphy practice sheet is missing. Did you take it?\” \”No. I didn\’t take his.\” He said it confidently, without any hesitation or excuse. The classmates started shouting, and Xiao Wen became even more angry: \”You\’re lying. It was obviously you who stole it when someone saw it.\” Haohao still insisted that he didn\’t take it. No matter what everyone said, he just didn\’t take it. The case has reached a deadlock. Is it possible that I need to ask the school for surveillance? Suddenly, a flash of inspiration occurred to me, and I remembered the scene I saw yesterday, so I waved everyone away, leaving only Haohao. Haohao, after school yesterday, I saw you handing the remaining milk in the classroom drawer to the podium before leaving, because you were worried about being eaten by mice at night, right? He nodded, that would make our drawers wet. I praised him hard for doing good things for the group. He is such a good boy. Haohao\’s tense expression just now relaxed. I casually asked Xiaowen about his calligraphy practice sheet. Unexpectedly, this time he nodded quickly: \”I took it.\” He admitted it so easily? Why did you admit it so easily now when you refused to let go of the same thing two minutes ago? In the middle, it was just because I praised him. I used \”positive education\” to discover the bright spots in him, and sincerely affirmed and appreciated him. It was like a warm sun that melted the barriers between us and the \”enemy\”. The tense situation a few minutes ago turned into a friendly appreciation between friends. A good friend asks whether he made a mistake or not. It\’s just a small thing, no big deal. In fact, if you calm down and think about it, how wrong is it? It was just a little kid who was envious of his deskmate\’s beautiful calligraphy and wanted to make it his own. He couldn\’t help but change it into his own name. He dreamed of pretending and getting a few star stickers from the teacher. That\’s all. Looking at the root cause, doesn\’t it mean that he has a heart that yearns for improvement and is eager to be praised? Thinking of this, my anger melted like ice and snow. Reflecting on what I just did, I am glad that I used \”positive education\”. If you criticize harshly, or even notify parents to punish and warn, it will only push him further and further, and he will grit his teeth and refuse to admit it. I chatted with him for a few words in a chatting tone, and he readily returned the calligraphy sheet to Xiao Wen and apologized, and Xiao Wen also beamed. The uproar in the class was calmed down, and everyone ended happily. I reflect on it, and I have to attribute it to the \”positive education\” I used.The so-called positive education means not being eager to criticize when children make mistakes, but exploring more of the child\’s strengths, sincerely affirming and praising him, using sunshine-like care to guide the child to grow in the direction of positive energy, and using affirmation to inspire more and more good qualities in the child. Lots of positive energy. I once observed an open Chinese class by a nationally outstanding teacher. It was the first time that she met the whole class and was taking a new class. In class, the teacher is amiable, which is nothing special. The most special thing that touches me is that the teacher can find out the valuable qualities of all the children who raise their hands to answer questions and actively praise them. For example, the teacher asked: When the sun comes out and the fog in the city disappears, where has it gone? Yisheng’s answer: It ran into the woods and hid. The teacher nodded: You are a child who loves to hide and seek. Lifetime answer: It followed the river. Teacher praises: Your language is as beautiful as poetry. Yisheng\’s answer: It was actually evaporated into the sky by the sun. The teacher laughed: You have a lot of scientific knowledge, which is really good! Yisheng\’s answer: I guess the fog has gone to heaven. This is a bit sensational and deliberately funny. But the teacher said: Maybe it is like what you said, it went to heaven to find Sun Wukong and the Jade Emperor. Someone\’s answer was even more outrageous: The fog has gone into the gold and silver treasures. Someone else would be angry about this. Isn\’t this a deliberate attempt to cause trouble? But the teacher joked with him: It seems that you are a naughty little money addict. Hundreds of spectators listened to the class and laughed together with the children. The class atmosphere was relaxed and happy. That class was filled with laughter and laughter until the end of get out of class. The children were reluctant to leave. They held the teacher\’s hand and talked nonsense, unwilling to leave. Even the most naughty boy in the class, the \”little money addict\”, snuggled close to the teacher and held her hand tightly, refusing to leave. It can be seen that every child\’s heart is filled with sunshine when a teacher whom they have never met gives a warm class and affirms their strengths. Children know how to be grateful to those who sincerely give them sunshine. Zhu Yongxin, a nationally renowned educator, said: Education is a kind of touching. He also said: \”Education without emotion and love is like a pond without water. Without water, it cannot be called a pond. Without emotion and love, there is no education.\” This love is not about discovering the advantages of children. , illuminate it and make its advantages shine more? The advantages that others ignore and cannot see are discovered and magnified by you. This is undoubtedly a great encouragement to your children. No wonder a good education is a moving thing. It is the teacher who uses his discerning eyes to discover the positive energy in the child, activates it, and doubles the positive energy. A child under the care of this educational perspective will surely gather more and more positive energy in his body and radiate more and more positive energy. There is no doubt that he will grow into a sunny and cheerful young man. Smart mothers use positive education to bring more joy and laughter to their families. I heard my best friend tell her story: In the new semester, her son’s class was running for class president. The little guy told her that his classmates nominated three people to run for election, one boy and two girls, but he only had 4 votes, and the best girl had 28 votes. The child\’s father immediately raised his voice and criticized: \”How dare you say that? You don\’t even think about how many votes there are between you and others?\” His son immediately burst into tears. The smart best friend hugged her son and said softly: \”Baby, are you the only one who represents the boys in the class to run for election? Then you are the best among the boys.\”First place, mom is so proud of you. \”When her son heard this, he broke down in tears and laughed. Everyone knows that in primary school, girls are more mature and sensible than boys. No wonder it is easy for them to become class cadres. Naughty boys often make teachers work hard, so her son can be nominated as the only boy to participate in the election. It’s worth being happy. The child’s father only sees the shortcomings of the small number of votes, and the blunt ridicule undoubtedly pokes the child’s wound, which is like adding salt to the wound, making the son even more uncomfortable. The wise mother found another way to discover the advantages of her son’s nomination, which is enough. Sons encourage and praise. In fact, the younger children have not established their life values, the more they need affirmation from the adult world. Because they need to recognize themselves through the eyes of adults. They are innocent and naive and trust their parents and teachers. We are their Source of feedback. If children get mostly positive affirmation from us, then they will think that they are positive, full of hope, sunshine and pride. A child with abundant positive energy is like a tall and strong tree. Facing the The sun was shining brightly, and the breeze was filled with the laughter of leaves. My neighbor’s daughter learned calligraphy and had to take an hour and a half class every Sunday. When the little girl came back that day, she met me in the corridor and I asked her how her calligraphy went. The girl was unhappy. She shook her head and said she didn\’t like it, she wasn\’t interested, and she couldn\’t write well. After that, she handed me the two articles she wrote today. The handwriting was immature, which didn\’t matter, but there were only two pieces of paper the size of a newspaper, and the articles were full of ones and twos. Simple words like three. Just write these two words in an hour and a half? It seems that the playful little guy is really not the material for practicing calligraphy. I shook my head inwardly, but on the surface it was hard to say anything. Her father seemed to know what I was thinking. , took the two pages, pointed to one of the circles and asked his daughter: \”Is this written by you or the teacher? \”The girl said she wrote it. Her father immediately praised loudly: \”That\’s great, my child. You can write such beautiful calligraphy after only two lessons. Your father and I can\’t write calligraphy yet. \”The daughter looked at him in surprise, and her gray face suddenly shone. The father continued to point, and praised loudly: \”This word is good, this word is also great, the longer the word is, the better…\” Little The girl nodded frequently as she listened, and her face seemed to bloom like a delicate flower. My father also told me that his daughter was very studious. The calligraphy teacher lived in Jiangbei. Every time she went to class, driving was the most congested. It took almost two hours to go back and forth, but her daughter Listening to music quietly in the car, I never complained. Did you know? He said loudly to me: The calligraphy teacher praised her for being so quiet, so she must be able to write calligraphy well. Because calligraphy can only be written by people with a calm mind. Art. The little girl couldn\’t believe her ears. She stared at her father intently until she heard the last word. It was as if a small fire was ignited in her eyes and burned. She said goodbye to me happily and left. I think this wise father has sown a seed of love into his daughter’s heart. The next time the little girl meets me, she might show me how her handwriting gets better and better. Coincidentally, there is an educator in the United States. PhD and psychologist, she founded the \”Positive Discipline Association\” in the United States and wrote a classic book: \”Positive Discipline\”. In the book, she said: \”Children need encouragement, just like plants need water.. Encouragement is vital to children\’s healthy growth and development. \”She also believes that the train needs two tracks, and the same goes for schools. The first track is academic learning, and the second track is the cultivation of social and emotional abilities. The method of positive discipline is to involve students in focused problem solving , rather than becoming passive recipients of punishment and rewards. In classrooms that implement positive discipline, students can feel treated with respect and have the courage and passion to love learning. The vision of positive discipline is: when children encounter failure, they will always You will not be humiliated, but in a safe environment, learn from your own mistakes, and feel empowered. Every life is worthy of awe, and every soul has quality. Every child has unique and irreplaceable qualities. value, and positive education can guide them with positive energy and let them discover more light in themselves. Isn\’t it the most noble mission of our education to let every child become a better self? Whether teachers or parents, Please try to use \”positive education\” to deal with your children, and you will definitely get surprises you can\’t imagine.