The hand that moves the world is the hand that holds the cradle – On the importance of mother

I remember there was a saying before: Why do Japanese products like to use children’s voices when advertising, even if the products are not sold to children? The reason is: to pave the way for the market in twenty years. I have to say that the Japanese are really good at marketing. Many of the Taiwanese marketing training institutions that were popular in China in the early days borrowed Japanese methods for marketing. It is precisely because of the emphasis on the future and children that Japan, including South Korea and Taiwan, encourage women to be full-time wives after marriage so that they can take care of their children. How much influence mothers have on their children is an important issue that the world is paying attention to. In China, everyone is increasingly aware that a mother’s outlook on life determines the atmosphere of a family and the happiness of her children. So the essence of the problem is not whether the mother is a full-time housewife to take care of the children, but whether the mother is a mother with enough positive views, because a mother who is mature enough is more likely to raise a happy child. There are many explanations for my mother’s three views. Someone on the Internet summarized it as follows: First, I believe that knowledge can change my destiny and value the education of my children; second, I believe that a family that accumulates good deeds will be blessed, consciously do good deeds and cultivate children to maintain a kind heart; third, be tenacious and He has a strong heart, can endure hardships, and can be decisive. Having such a mother is a blessing for the child. In her eyes, such a mother: 1. People are different, and children are also different. She will not talk about \”what about the child next door…\” She understands that if you raise a fish, He shouldn\’t be expected to climb trees. She will not make unnecessary comparisons with others, nor will she compare her children with other children. She understands the value of recognizing the uniqueness of her own child, no matter how eccentric, unusual and unsocial the child may be. From the mother\’s perspective, this is because the child already has his own independent understanding and judgment of the world, and she will respect and care for the child\’s understanding and judgment. 2. Loving children means respecting their strengths and weaknesses. Some people don\’t grow well because they lack calcium when they were young, and some people don\’t grow well because they lack love when they were young. This lack of love is not a lack of food and clothing, but more of a lack of spiritual nourishment, which manifests itself in adulthood: not respecting the advantages of oneself and others enough, being too harsh on the shortcomings of oneself and others, and being unable to be tolerant. Mothers know how to give their children enough love and respect so that they can learn to respect themselves and respect others. The most important thing is to make children understand that once a person who originally loved them no longer loves them, it is not necessarily because they are not good enough. They do not have to rush to deny themselves and lose their self-confidence. It is most likely because of the other person. The mentality of the person has changed, and the external environment the other party is exposed to has changed. Love between adults who are not related by blood is inherently accidental, not inevitable. The love a person can get is limited and random. This is due to fate. The other person may love you, or he may not love you. When the other person\’s love no longer exists, you should cherish yourself instead of denying and giving up on yourself. 3. Teach your children to have ideals, but don’t try to live an ideal life. idealIt is not just a beautiful and publicized word, but a real belief that every child keeps in his heart. Mothers give their children ideal abilities. Such children will be more able to take action, work hard, and continue to learn, think and practice their ideals when they grow up. Therefore, the mother herself also needs to be an ideal person and maintain a positive and independent mental state. Life, however, is plain and concrete and cannot be idealized. There will be setbacks, hardships, sadness…it doesn\’t matter, it\’s all training. At different stages of life, there will be different trainings. After going through the training, you will have different gains and experiences, and Happiness. Life is a spiral process. You don’t have to judge by temporary gains and losses. Learn to enjoy every moment, every gain and loss. 4. Believe in children, do not pretend to be strong in front of children, and do not force the way for children. The child raised by such a mother will become a self-reliant, confident person who can take care of himself. He likes and accepts himself and will not easily deny himself because of the eyes of others. A child\’s growth is like a bamboo that grows quietly and has nodes. When a child breaks through obstacles, it is the node of his life. Mothers need to give their children the opportunity to face and overcome difficulties. They need to let their children come into contact with actual problems and solve them instead of doing everything for them. When encountering problems and dilemmas, mothers are also ordinary people. They will also feel worried and helpless. It is easy to retreat. But once they retreat, their children will instinctively choose to retreat when they encounter similar situations in the future, because that is what mothers do. Therefore, do not pretend to be strong, but you must also teach your children to work hard and work hard to make themselves stronger. The way a mother works hard to move forward is the best role model for her children! The hand that moves the world is the hand that holds the cradle. Mothers play a very important and critical role in the growth of their children. The greatest significance of being a good mother with three upright views is to be able to help her children in their future lives. Better seek your own happiness, better adapt to and perceive happiness!