These five types of children will be most promising in 10 years. Do you have any of them?

In \”The Story of Youth\”, a passage written by Lu Rong Dolma, a girl in the first year of high school, made me feel sad. Mom, when you were by my side, I always felt that life was very easy and very happy. It wasn\’t until one day when I came to this school thousands of miles away from home that I discovered that I didn\’t know anything. As soon as the girl finished speaking, the relatives in the audience had mixed feelings and burst into tears. Like Lu Rong Dolma\’s mother, we all want to give all our love to our children, but we never thought that too perfect love would hinder the growth of our children. We cannot complete the journey of our children for them. The only thing we can do is to cultivate good habits and excellent qualities when they are young. Children with these five excellent traits will be better than their peers and will be more likely to stand out in future competitions. Children who can manage their own emotions A few days ago, something happened in a Nanjing subway station that made people laugh or cry. A 23-year-old man refused to cooperate with the police\’s routine inspection. After being stopped, he became angry and threw a cup and pushed the police. After being subdued, he lay on the ground and cried. It turned out that this dramatic scene happened because he got up late that day and had \”wake-up anger\”, which caused him to lose control of his mood. It’s really hard to imagine that a 23-year-old adult would be “as angry as a 200-pound child” in a public place because of such a trivial matter. In fact, the final analysis is that the ability to manage emotions is too poor. A person who cannot control his emotions is very terrible. He does things regardless of the consequences and relies entirely on his emotions to control his behavior. He may hurt himself at least, or hurt others at worst. Napoleon once said that a man who can control his emotions is greater than a general who can capture a city. Emotional management is an important manifestation of a child\’s overall development. Children who can manage their emotions do not mean that they cannot be angry. On the contrary, he can be sad, sad, lose his temper, and cry, because only by experiencing emotions can a child truly understand emotions and then learn to control and vent them. But be sure to tell your children that releasing emotions cannot harm others. A child who can manage his emotions must be a thoughtful person when he grows up. He can accept and manage his own emotions, neither wronging himself nor harming others. He is steady and generous, making people feel like a spring breeze. Children with high adversity quotient have watched such a touching video. In Japan, there was a 6-year-old boy named Ling. Because he was about to transfer to another school, the kindergarten held a graduation ceremony specifically for him. At the ceremony, he challenged an event that he had never succeeded in before – 10 steps of box jumping. He started again and again, bounced again and again, but failed again and again. Although every time he failed, he would go back and try again without hesitation, but he always fell just a little short. Seeing Ling crying because of his failure, the teacher suggested, \”Let\’s lend our strength to Ling.\” The children rushed together, formed a circle side by side, and shouted, \”You can do it! You can do it! You can do it!\” Then something incredible happened. Ling rushed out as if his small universe exploded, jumped up, and jumped over the box. There were cheers and cries in the audience. Hayao Miyazaki said in \”My Neighbor Totoro\”: Many things will come to pass if you persist. The little boy persisted until the end and succeeded in the challenge. His persistence is actually his ability to withstand pressure in the face of setbacks, also called \”reverse business\”. General Patton said: The measure of a man\’s success is not how high he reaches the top, but how well he rebounds when he falls to the bottom. Children with high reverse quotients are perseverant and tough. They never give up easily. They can face setbacks and find new breakthroughs and opportunities. Children with high adverse quotients have vigorous vitality and are the ones who can never beat them. A child who falls down can always make a comeback despite setbacks! In the book \”Rich Dad, Poor Dad\”, Robert summarizes four problems that children without money awareness will encounter when they grow up: No sense of restrained consumption, no sense of need prioritization, no sense of investment, no sense of risk. Recently, a child secretly spent 7,000 yuan at home because of his lack of money awareness, and suffered \”skin and flesh pain.\” The father beat and scolded his son because of this, and the mother even took a video and posted it online. This kind of education method sparked heated discussions. However, I feel sorry for this child even more. Because he doesn\’t know how to get money, otherwise he wouldn\’t \”steal\”; he doesn\’t know how to have money, so he spends it uncontrollably. After all, 7,000 yuan is not a small amount. Money education is essentially about teaching children how to correctly treat \”acquisition\” and \”possession\”. Morgan, the founder of the American Morgan Consortium, had very strict requirements for his children. He stipulated that children\’s monthly pocket money must be obtained by doing housework, so every child rushed to do the work. Of course, old Morgan is not stingy. He wants to let his children understand through labor that pie will not fall in the sky and every penny is hard-earned. The family motto of the well-known wealthy Rockefeller family is, \”Treat all your money as hard-earned money.\” Only when children first learn to cherish money can they know how to spend money correctly and buy appropriate and worthwhile things instead of squandering them carelessly. Child psychologists point out that children’s money concepts are established during childhood and will benefit them throughout their lives. Tell your children that only by giving first will there be rewards. Earnings from hard work and labor should be respected and cherished, regardless of whether they are rich or poor. A child with a correct concept of money will be able to withstand all kinds of temptations when he grows up, will not be blinded by money, will spend money if he can earn it, and will also know that \”a gentleman loves money and gets it in the right way.\” A confident and determined child, my friend’s son was admitted to a key university this year. My friend cried with joy. She had been waiting for this day for too long. When my son first started school, he was particularly sloppy. He was nicknamed the \”King of Wrong Questions\” and was often laughed at by his classmates. As a result, children become more and more timid and unsure of themselves, afraid to speak loudly or even approach children. The teacher invited her friend to the school to talk and gently suggested that she take her child to take an intelligence test. After returning home, she felt heartbroken when she looked at the little man with his head lowered and leaning against the corner, as if waiting for scolding. However, she did not scold her son. Instead, she touched his head and told him gently: \”The teacher said you are very good at sports. If you can do the same in studies, it would be even better.\” The child\’s eyes suddenly lit up. Nod hard. From then on, whenever her son made a small progress, she would recognize his efforts. My son\’s self-confidence has come back little by little. Not only does he dare to raise his hand to speak, but his grades are also slowly improving.Get better. On the day after checking the college entrance examination results, my son said with tears in his eyes: \”Mom, thank you, your encouragement and affirmation have helped me regain my confidence.\” In psychology, self-confidence is a child\’s belief in his or her ability and value. Objective understanding is a healthy and upward psychological quality and an important part of personality. It affects the healthy development of children\’s personality and is a sign of the continuous maturity and development of children\’s self-awareness. Parents\’ encouragement and affirmation are the initial source of children\’s self-confidence. It is like a beam of light that can penetrate the darkness and illuminate a child\’s life. Confidence is a powerful aura that can inspire children\’s unlimited potential. Confident children have smiles on their brows and light in their hearts. They are decisive in doing things. Most of them have leadership skills. They are courageous and determined in their hearts. They will have unlimited possibilities in the future. An independent child. A 48-year-old returnee master\’s degree student in Shanghai graduated from school 6 years ago. He did not go out to work. Instead, he stayed at home every day, sleeping during the day and playing games at night. He relied on his 82-year-old mother with uremia to support him. . When his mother tried to force him to go out to work through legal means, he complained that it was all her fault. \”I ruined your future, I am guilty…\” The old lady\’s \”confession\” made people feel sad. All love in this world has the ultimate goal of coming together. There is only one kind of love that has the goal of separation, and that is the love of parents for their children. To truly love a child is to let him separate from our lives as an independent individual as soon as possible and face the world with an independent personality. Mr. Yang Jiang’s father once said: It is better to educate children to be independent than to be number one. I deeply agree. In the early years, my family raised pigeons. Once I discovered that a pair of old pigeons teamed up to \”bully\” the little pigeon. They pecked it hard, beat it with their wings, and drove it out of the cage. My father told me that when the old pigeon raises its children until they grow wings and can fly, they will drive them away and will not feed them again. Because the mother pigeon understands that only by forcing the little pigeon out can it have a chance to fly. It turns out that this is a kind of love! The same goes for raising children. Only by boldly letting go, giving the child a chance to be independent, and being willing to use the child can he grow. Only independent children can go further and more steadily in the future. Excellent and independent children are every parent’s most ardent hope. What parents can do is to give their children the right guidance at the beginning of their lives and light their way forward. Cultivate your child into a person with independent personality, independent thinking, confidence and strength. I hope that every child can have a rich and determined heart, be natural in good times, be calm in adversity, be forgiving of oneself and others, and not be surprised by favors or disgrace.