What should I do if my child doesn’t want to go to kindergarten after the holidays?

School is about to start after the holidays. As a parent, are you a little excited? Finally, I can send my children back to kindergarten again, and my personal space immediately becomes wider. Finally, I don’t have to be called: Mom, Mom, Mom, Mom, Mom, Mom… Ba Academy will officially start tomorrow. The teachers are tidying up the inside and outside of the classroom today, and at the same time, they are organizing themselves. Adjust to the fullest state and welcome the children back. As parents and teachers, we all know: in the first two weeks of school, children may be reluctant to come to kindergarten and may cry when entering kindergarten. If you are a little worried about this, you can give yourself a few minutes to read quietly. This content comes from the thoughtful tips from Mr. Xiao Xing, the education supervisor of Ba Academy Wangfu Park. Possible situations for children ☞ Kindergarten anxiety starts with the first words they say when they wake up. Some children’s first words when they wake up in the morning are: \”I don’t want to go to kindergarten,\” \”Can I not go to kindergarten today?\” If the mother has a tough attitude, The children will cry to express their thoughts to their parents. At this time, if we do not practice properly, we will start to become anxious along with the children. ☞ I woke up fine in the morning, but halfway through I suddenly didn’t want to go to kindergarten. There are also some children who said during the holidays that they wanted to go to kindergarten. They missed their teachers or children. The day before going to kindergarten or when they got up in the morning, they were still looking forward to going to kindergarten. , but halfway through, he will suddenly cry: \”I don\’t want to go to kindergarten…\” Nothing the parents say will work. ☞ Some children who cling to their mothers and don’t let go, crying and clinging to each other at the entrance of the kindergarten are in slightly better condition. They arrive at the entrance of the kindergarten with their mothers, but when they say goodbye at the entrance, they will repeatedly say to their mothers: “Mom, please hug me again!” \”Mom, come pick me up early this afternoon!\” \”Mom, don\’t leave, I want you to stay with me in kindergarten\”… There are also some children who will desperately grab their mother\’s clothes when they see the teacher coming to pick them up. Angles or hair, I couldn\’t say a single sad word and just cried loudly. ☞ Daily life is irregular during the holidays. During the holidays, we often take our children back to our hometowns or travel. Some parents who are busy with work will send their children to different environments to spend the holidays. Under such circumstances, children need to constantly cooperate with adults\’ arrangements and constantly adapt and change. Sleeping when you should be eating, and driving when you should be sleeping; parents go to bed late, and the children also go to bed late; or children feel unsettled due to the new environment, all of which affect the children\’s established work and rest habits. Children need a stable and rhythmic rhythm of life, so that their inner and outer rhythms can be seamlessly connected. (Isn’t this true for adults~) After a holiday, children return to kindergarten and need to re-adapt to the regular life schedule of kindergarten. Children will resist it physically and psychologically, so they are unwilling to come to kindergarten. ☞ Children who have just adapted to kindergarten life before the holiday. Because the holiday is too long, the emotional connection they have finally established with the kindergarten gradually fades. The daily routine and living environment during the holiday are different from kindergarten life. with large differences. rightFor these children, when they return to kindergarten at the beginning of the new semester, many aspects need to be restructured, such as the connection with teachers, children, kindergarten environment, daily routine, and behavioral habits. ☞ Difficulties encountered before the holidays have not been completely resolved. These children are going through a period of deep friendship with a certain child before the holidays. For example, two children with different characteristics will encounter many difficulties in the process of establishing friendship, and they often Makes two people feel bad. The two of them didn\’t see each other during the entire holiday, and the child\’s memory was stuck on the difficult things before the holiday. The arrival of the new semester will continue to expand the difficulties in his heart, and he will not want to come to kindergarten. Difficulties at work mainly come from the fact that the child is in a breakthrough job for him. If this problem is not resolved before the holiday, it will also cause difficulties in the child\’s mind and make him unwilling to come to kindergarten. ☞ Insecurity caused by change Some children are more sensitive and slower to adapt to the environment. For such children, change is as painful as throwing a person who cannot swim into the water. Therefore, such children will react more strongly after a long holiday, but as long as they are given a week or more to re-establish their connection with the kindergarten, and adults provide corresponding help, they will quickly integrate into the new development process. . What parents should do: 1. Stay happy and calm when waking up your children. The children will absorb the feelings from their parents. On the contrary, if parents are worried before waking up their children, the children will definitely absorb it. 2. When a child expresses that he or she does not want to go to kindergarten, we must understand the child\’s emotion of not wanting to go to kindergarten and show appropriate empathy to the child. For example, respond: \”Well, mom/dad understand\” while insisting on sending the child to kindergarten. 3. When a child grabs his mother at the entrance of the kindergarten and refuses to let go, he can squat down and put the child\’s hand in the teacher\’s hand, and tell the child – \”Mom will pick you up early in the afternoon\”; or tell the child a definite time – \”Your mother will pick you up after dinner today (4:30)\” and then left decisively. The more time you spend struggling with your child, the longer your child will suffer. After the mother leaves, the teacher will soothe the child\’s emotions. When the child enters the kindergarten and sees the familiar teachers, children and objects, his emotions will slowly ease. As long as the child\’s feelings about kindergarten are reawakened before the holiday, his mood will stabilize accordingly. 4. Cooperate with the kindergarten\’s work and rest time to ensure that the children are full of energy every day in the kindergarten. 5. Prepare kindergarten-related work materials at home and do things with your child; you can also play kindergarten-related games with your child to help him regain a familiar feeling. 6. Invite familiar children to play at home to help the children establish emotional sustenance and help them resolve their anxiety after the holidays. 7. Insist on sending children to kindergarten every day. Let children see the calmness and determination of adults and feel that this is a normal thing in life. In the new semester, I hope we can all continue to work hard to become better versions of ourselves and give our children a better life atmosphere. Big hands hold small hands and grow together!