11 signs of a bad parent. Raise your hand if you didn’t hit any of them. It’s not easy.

A recent CureJoy comic listed \”11 Signs of Bad Parents,\” and it is said that Facebook boss Zuckerberg even liked it. Come and see if anyone has been tricked? 1. If your child always deliberately disturbs you, it is actually because of the lack of physical contact and intimacy between you and him. Children are insecure and need companionship, especially for only children. They have no brothers or sisters, and no one else at home to play with except to disturb their parents. It is for this reason that many American families keep pets to accompany their little owners. But remember, mom and dad are always the most important. 2. If your child lies, it actually means that you have overreacted to the mistakes he has made. Children in the younger age group mostly lie to avoid blame and punishment. Overreacting to a child\’s mistakes can easily cause him to lose confidence and the courage to face mistakes. Usually, children who lie often lack confidence and courage. 3. If children lack self-confidence, it is actually because you give them more advice than encouragement. Self-confidence means not doubting yourself. The essence is actually the belief in one\’s own abilities. Giving more advice may help children make fewer mistakes, but it is not very helpful in cultivating children\’s confidence, because it can only prove that you are right; instead, encouragement, especially the encouragement given when children make mistakes, can prevent them from expressing doubts about mistakes. Doubts about one\’s own abilities are particularly critical to building self-confidence. 4. If your children cannot insist on themselves, it is actually because when they were young, you always educated and criticized them in public places to insist on themselves. Just like the previous self-confidence, it needs to be gradually established after being recognized. When children are very young, they are often criticized, which not only makes it difficult for them to insist on themselves, but also makes them prone to develop low self-esteem. Criticize less and encourage more, not only in public but also at home. 5. If you buy everything for your children but they still take things that don’t belong to them, it’s actually because you don’t let them choose what they want. Giving is not a gift. The prerequisite for good giving is that you know what the other person wants and needs. When buying things for your child, don\’t let him choose what he wants. Just like in a restaurant and bar, you want to have a drink, but the waiter keeps recommending various red wines to you. What will be your reaction? He must be furious to look through the drink list ^_^6. If the child is cowardly, it is actually because you help them too quickly. Don\’t help your children clear every obstacle on their path to growth. Cowardice is a trait, but it\’s actually a habit. A behavioral habit of choosing to retreat and wait for help when faced with difficulties. The development of this habit often stems from the fact that you helped him too much and too fast on his growth path. Let go of your hanging heart, let go of your pointing hand, the child\’s path will always be his own. 7. If your child is very jealous, it may be because you always compare other children with them. Children can be jealous, and so can adults. The difference is just in quantity. An important factor that affects this amount is the number of comparisons. The less you compare with \”other people\’s children,\” the less jealous your own children will be. 8.IfChildren get angry easily because you don\’t give them enough praise. They only get attention when they misbehave. Being angry is a way of venting and a sign of low satisfaction. If a child gets angry easily, it means he is dissatisfied with all aspects of himself. Why? Because you didn\’t praise him, you weren\’t satisfied with him enough. Not to mention that if you don\’t even get enough attention, the child\’s satisfaction will of course be even lower. There is no other way but to vent his anger… 9. If the child does not respect other people\’s feelings, it is because, you Always giving them orders and not respecting their feelings. Children are the best at imitating. If you always listen to his voice, respect his feelings, and respect his choices, he will naturally apply what he has learned and respect the feelings of other children. 10. If your children are always mysterious and don’t tell you anything, it’s because you always love to attack them. Who do you want to tell if you have something? You would say that it depends on the situation, and you will choose different people to talk to about different things. But one thing I dare to say is certain, that is, no matter how different things are, you will not tell someone you don\’t believe, someone who always beats you. What you need is to listen, not to criticize. . Do unto others, do not impose on others. 11. If your child always behaves rudely and rudely, then he actually learned the same courtesy and respect from his parents or people around him. It does not depend on what you say to your child, but on how you behave in front of him. We can\’t control other people, but at least we can control ourselves so that we are not rude and polite first. necessary! (Picture from curejoy.com) Some people say that 99% of children’s problems are actually their parents’ problems. Although the proportion may not be that exaggerated, when a child is young, his parents are the people closest to him and have the most contact. Our words and deeds, whether good or bad, will have an impact on the child. Therefore, when you see problems in your children, first look for your own problems. Those students who failed to hit a single move, please raise your hands. It’s not easy!