15-year-old left-behind boy commits suicide on New Year\’s Eve: My child, I hope you have a warm home in heaven

On New Year\’s Eve, January 27, when thousands of families were reunited to celebrate the New Year, Xiaolong (pseudonym), a 15-year-old left-behind boy in Zhenxiong County, Yunnan, did not usher in the dawn of the New Year, but decided to commit suicide by drinking pesticide. . Why do other people have good families? I don\’t! Others had a wonderful childhood, but I only spent it in the dark sunshine. My death is a relief for myself, thereby reducing the burden on my family and (saving) money for them. Dad, if I die, you will be happy because nothing will bother you. These are the last words Xiaolong left in the world, the contents of his suicide note. Although the handwriting is crooked, every word is filled with blood and tears. The reason for suicide is heartbreaking. I long for a happy and warm home, a good childhood, and my father with a hot temper can be gentler. This was the boy\’s wish when he was alive. In his wish, there is no fine clothing, food, and good material conditions. He only wants happiness and warmth, which is the happiness and warmth from family that many children are enjoying but take for granted. However, for him, it is luxury. Xiaolong is a typical left-behind child. In recent years, Xiaolong\’s parents have been working outside the country all year round due to the pressure to make a living. However, his development has not been very good and his life has been tight. Xiaolong\’s father was in a bad mood and had a bad temper. I can\’t take care of Xiaolong at home, and I have no time to ask about Xiaolong\’s study and living conditions. I often vent my anger on Xiaolong. In this way, due to the long-term lack of communication between father and son, coupled with Xiaolong\’s relatively withdrawn personality, strong self-esteem and rebelliousness, the relationship between father and son has always been tense and often noisy. These can be seen from Xiaolong\’s suicide note. He wrote: For this reason, I must declare: My death has a lot to do with my family, because my father always puts pressure on me and makes me sad… At the same time, I will no longer be angry with my father. He kept mentioning his father in his suicide note. It was his father\’s words and deeds that pushed him to the brink of collapse. It can be imagined that this is a \”big boss\” who works hard, is depressed, has a bad temper, and does not understand education. He can only educate his children in a simple and rough way. For education, simplicity and crudeness are undoubtedly terrible, destructive and fatal. Although Xiaolong\’s father had to leave his children to work in other places due to livelihood problems. Although his life was tight and he did not have good financial conditions, he could at least often greet his children on the phone and comfort Xiaolong who was in the period of physical and mental development. and encouragement, filling his heart with sunshine and happiness, and moving forward strongly and positively on the road of life. He can also have a heart-to-heart talk with his child during the Chinese New Year, learn more about his thoughts, and let his child understand how difficult it is for him to be away from home. Mutual understanding is the cornerstone of the healthy development of all relationships. And what is the actual situation? \”Everyone celebrates the New Year with laughter and joy, but I didn\’t get a good life last year and this year. Last year (my father) beat me, scolded me, and forced me to ask about my accounts. Just because of a trivial matter, I cried during the New Year.\” Beaten, scolded, and forced to ask questions. . Rude and distrustful. Destroyed the last trace of warmth in the child\’s heart. Some people may say that this child is too fragile. butReading between the lines, it can be understood that he was really desperate. \”I\’m still very young and don\’t want to die that much, but I can\’t stand my anger. Don\’t take it out on your children. They are innocent. God sent them to you in the hope that they will receive love, not the anger of their parents.\” Strongly agree with the above point of view. Children do not have the right to choose their parents. Children are what we want. Children are the most precious gift God has given us. Since we have given birth to them, we should love them well instead of treating them as a punching bag. Anger is a sign of incompetence. Why not find the reason within yourself? change yourself? If life is difficult, then work hard to earn money and change family conditions. If your child is disobedient, then communicate with him more calmly, understand his thoughts, guide him more, encourage him more, and be friends with him. Not having company is already a lack of love. Blaming and scolding makes it worse and violates a taboo in education. If the concept of education is not changed and the simple and crude education methods are not completely changed, it is difficult to say that such a tragedy will not happen again. In fact, similar tragedies happen every year, but this time, because it happened on New Year\’s Eve, which symbolizes joyous reunions, it caused such a huge response and sighs. The tragedy has happened and the deceased is gone. The living should cherish it and still live well. There is no need to condemn Xiaolong\’s father. He was filled with regret and grief, and his eyes were swollen from crying. But we all have to reflect on ourselves from this tragedy: Do we really understand our children’s needs? Is there enough care for children? Does it make them feel the warmth and happiness of family? Is the way to educate children appropriate? Are you working hard enough? Have you set a good example for your children? Aren’t we running around all day just to bring happiness and warmth to our families? What\’s the point of everything you do if your family isn\’t happy? A happy and warm home is more important than anything else. There is an old song \”I Want to Have a Home\”, which sings the aspirations of the \”little dragons\”: I want to have a home, a place that doesn\’t need to be gorgeous, and I will think of it when I am tired. I want to have a home, a place that doesn\’t need to be big, where I won\’t be scared when I\’m scared. Who doesn’t want a home, but there are people who don’t have it, and have tears streaming down their faces, and they can only wipe them gently by themselves. I envy him so much that he can go home after being injured, but I can only look for my home alone… Xiaolong, my dear child, I hope you have a warm home in heaven. I hope every dear child can grow up happily under the care of his parents.