19 students were assassinated in Shaanxi | No matter how wronged you are, please let the children go!

Beijing, at three o\’clock in the afternoon, the temperature on the asphalt road under the scorching sun was definitely more than 28 degrees. I stood in front of my child\’s school, but every pore was filled with chill. In the assassination of students from Shaanxi\’s \”Mizhi No. 3 Middle School\”, the number of dead students increased to 9 (7 females and 2 males), and 10 seriously injured students (7 females and 3 males) are still being rescued. Looking at the dense crowd of parents, I couldn\’t imagine what would happen if there was a murderer hidden among them. According to an on-site visit by a knews reporter, Mizhi No. 3 Middle School was at the peak of school hours at the time of the incident. The incident took place on a slope less than 5 meters wide near the school, where many children who had just finished school gathered here. The assailant spotted this narrow road, held a dagger, and stabbed 19 students in a row within a distance of 100 meters. He fled nearly 300 meters and was subdued by the police who arrived with a steel fork. There are many related videos and pictures on the Internet, but I don’t dare to look at them in detail. The gravel on the concrete road is soaked with blood stains that cannot be washed away, and water bottles and snacks are scattered beside it. I can’t imagine that their owners have finally waited for school to be over. The biggest worry is that teenagers have a lot of homework. . The most chilling statement from an eyewitness is: Why are most of the victims killed girls? Because girls run slowly… What kind of person? Will he chase girls who are running away and pierce sharp daggers into their bodies? This person is 28-year-old Zhao Moumou. 28-year-old Zhao Moumou claimed that he hated the students at his alma mater because he was bullied in junior high school 10 years ago, so he stabbed 19 students who had nothing to do with him with a dagger. Being bullied? depression? The Japanese drama \”Unnatural Death\” said: \”The deprivation of life is an irreversible fact. We don\’t need to understand the prisoner\’s mood, and we don\’t need to understand you. We have no interest in the unfortunate life experience, and we don\’t care what the motive is!\” Maybe! You really suffer from depression, maybe you were \”bullied\” when you were a student, maybe you endured a lot of social injustice… But when you stab an innocent student with a murder weapon, any reason you have is \” \”There is no excuse for it.\” Any grievances you have are all your own fault, and your experience is not worthy of sympathy at all! What is the mentality of the perpetrator? We normal people cannot understand how someone can wantonly deprive others of their lives? We can only analyze the psychology of committing crimes from existing criminals. In the \”Round Table\” program, Professor Li Meijin of the People\’s Public Security University of China talked about such a case. The first person to slash an innocent child with a butcher\’s knife was Zheng Minsheng from the Nanping Health Station in Fujian. One morning in March 2010, Zheng Minsheng came to the vicinity of Nanping Experimental Primary School and suddenly stabbed unsuspecting students with a knife. In less than a minute, eight children died and five others were injured. Professor Li Meijin analyzed Zheng Minsheng\’s psychology and found that Zheng Minsheng fell in love with a girl. The girl didn\’t like him, so she politely refused him repeatedly. Zheng was unwilling to accept it, so he continued to stalk her. The girl couldn\’t bear it anymore and asked the head of the health station to tell Zheng Minsheng that she hoped he would stop calling. The webmaster said to Zheng Minsheng: \”Can you stop harassing others? They don\’t mean that to you. You haven\’t finished calling me yet.\”what! \”Because of this incident, which seemed to us to be extremely trivial, Zheng Minsheng felt very hurt in his self-esteem. He thought that the girl and the webmaster had teamed up to \”rip off\” him, and he couldn\’t do anything to them, so he went to kill the child. Killing the child is to tell everyone in court: \”They are both so bad.\” Zheng Minsheng\’s motive for killing is so absurd, unbelievable and outrageous! Let\’s take another two typical cases: Jiang Ge Case. Take the murderer Chen Shifeng of \”Jiang Ge Case\” as an example. He usually looks very normal, but when he gets anxious, he can be very vicious, swinging between two extremes. This kind of person belongs to borderline personality. When you encounter such a person, you must \”completely give in\”, do not give him more stimulation, and wait for him to regain his senses before staying away safely. Shanxi Boy\’s Eye Gouging Case In 2013, a 6-year-old boy in Shanxi had his eyeballs gouged out. As the boy\’s aunt, the murderer was usually very depressed. She clearly hated her younger brother and his family, but she put on a smile. Although everything seems peaceful on the surface, there are a lot of negative emotions accumulated inside. This kind of person has a passive-aggressive personality and will not betray someone in person, but will hurt others behind their back. How to prevent children from doing extreme behaviors when they grow up? Research shows that the two types of children may develop extreme behaviors when they grow up. The chance may be very small, but we still need to pay enough attention. One type is the \”little ancestor\” who is pampered and not restrained in the family. Freud believed that personality development has three levels: id, ego, and superego. To put it simply: I am what I want to do. Self is when a child\’s behavior is subject to external regulations and restrains his own behavior. The superego means that children will reflect and examine themselves more objectively and comprehensively, form their inner conscience and moral judgment, and have a sense of expected punishment, that is, a sense of guilt, when they violate their own moral principles. Children who grow up in an extremely doting environment do not have sufficient restraint on their behavior and lack of frustration education. Therefore, they are prone to develop a \”self-centered\” character and believe that everyone should cater to their needs. Once they are not satisfied, they will feel that everything is wrong. People feel sorry for him. When you grow up, when this kind of \”obsession\” hits a wall in reality, extreme behavior will easily occur. Image source: \”Orphan\’s Grief\” Another category is children who have suffered severe psychological trauma but have not received treatment. When a weak person encounters evil deeds and does not receive fair treatment, and no one heals his inner wounds, the weak person will easily have evil thoughts and use the same method to seek for so-called \”justice.\” Therefore, you must pay attention when a child exhibits the following behaviors: 1. Resistance to going to school; 2. Frequent scars on the body, but can’t figure out the cause; 3. Frequent throwing or damaging things; 4. Frequent negativity and depression and other negative emotions; 5. A tendency to be physically or verbally violent towards family members; 6. A tendency to self-harm, etc. Image source: \”Black Mirror\” \”Bullying\” is not just the punching and kicking we imagine, but also includes blackmail, intimidation, exclusion, spreading rumors, indecent nicknames, ridicule, ridicule, etc. These behaviors will have a psychological impact on children. cause some damages. We always teach children \”don\’t be bullied\”, so when children are bullied, they will think that they have \”let down\” the expectations of adults and dare not express it clearly. But they hopeWith the help of adults, we will show clues, but these details are usually ignored or even blamed by us, so the children become even more reserved. Image source: \”Black Mirror\” Educating children requires us to build an independent and healthy personality through a benign family environment and positive parenting methods. Only in this way can children successfully face various social pressures when they grow up. . At critical moments, the first priority is to save lives. We know that there are still many good people in this world, and there are only a handful of devils. Even so, we must learn how to protect ourselves while also protecting our children and teaching them to protect them. Own. Who might be a danger? People with paranoid and weird personalities; People with gloomy eyes, evasive, and afraid to look directly at others; People with panicked expressions, abnormal words and deeds; People whose clothing and items they carry are clearly inconsistent with their identity, or inconsistent with the season; People who are impulsive, willful, and have extremely bad tempers Those who wait. What should you do if you encounter the murderer in the article? We can learn from two videos. The summary of \”Citizens\’ Preparation on Campus\” and \”If Violence Comes\” can be summarized in the following ways: Escape teaches children a nursery rhyme to guard against bad guys: \”If there is danger, you can run away first. I am more important than a toy!\” When encountering In case of sudden danger, children must learn to run to a safe place first. If you can\’t run away, hide first! In the murder case at Mizhi No. 3 Middle School in Shaanxi, there were several small shops on both sides of the narrow road. The injured students who fled to the shops were all saved. If you can\’t run fast, hide in a hidden place, stay quiet and calm, and wait for rescue. What should I do if I can’t escape the defense and have nowhere to hide? Use all available items around you to protect yourself, such as clothes, schoolbags, etc., while crying loudly and calling for help. If there is really nothing available, lie down on the ground and kick your legs to make it difficult for the murderer to get close to you for a while. When danger occurs, all our rational judgments will be suspended for a moment, but danger often occurs at that moment, which requires us to take our children to participate in more anti-terrorism drills, memorize self-rescue knowledge, and at the same time strengthen physical education Exercise, train reflexes, etc. Here, as a mother, I also call on all schools to incorporate safety drills into regular teaching and regularly organize children to simulate various scenarios of terrorist attacks and natural disasters. Only by turning self-protection into a conditioned reflex can we and our children rely on instinct to save themselves when danger comes. Many losers in life and people on the margins of society may not have any premeditation or intention to harm others, but we never know which complaint or look may irritate their already sensitive nerves. So when taking children with you, be sure to try to avoid serious conflicts with others. Teacher Yin Jianli said: If parents do not worry about interpersonal interactions, children will naturally learn to be open-minded; if parents step forward at critical moments and resolve disputes bravely and appropriately, children will naturally learn this wisdom. We all have a simple wish, that is, we hope that our children will grow up healthy and happy. Maybe they will encounter some disappointments, but in general, their lives will be mostly peaceful and joyful. This is the parents\’ wishHope should also be the bottom line of the entire society.