2024 College Entrance Examination Scores, Yu Minhong explains education in one sentence: Whether a child does well has a lot to do with the mother’s personality

In the past few days, college entrance examination results across the country have been released. Among the overwhelming number of high-scoring students, I unexpectedly saw a viral video of a mother crying. A score of 630 is nothing to a top student from the Northern Qing Dynasty, but to a child from an ordinary family, it is enough to make his mother proud. A Greek proverb says: \”The joys and sorrows of children are often the first to affect the mother\’s heart.\” This is indeed true. In a family, mothers always care more about and educate their children. I remember Yu Minhong once shared a story about himself, his mother and the college entrance examination. In 1979, Yu Minhong and a boy from his hometown failed the college entrance examination together. They both wanted to work hard for another year. The mother of a boy from the same hometown reprimanded the boy in every possible way, saying that he was destined not to study, and strangled his college dream in the cradle. But Yu Minhong\’s mother gave a completely different attitude. She heard that there was a college entrance examination training class in a nearby county. The previous year, it had trained a student who was admitted to Peking University. Yu Minhong was determined to attend, but he was not qualified for admission because of insufficient ranking. For this reason, she went to the county alone and spent three days and three nights begging the teachers in the training class to accept Yu Minhong. When she returned home, it rained heavily, and she stumbled in the muddy water. She fell into the ditch beside the road several times and was covered in mud. It was that clay-figure-like mother who deeply moved Yu Minhong. Later, after failing twice, he finally got admitted to Peking University, marking the beginning of a glorious life. Based on his own experience, Yu Minhong once said with emotion: \”The quality of the mother determines the life of the child. The children\’s problems are basically the problems of the parents.\” In \”The Influence of Mothers\”, there is also this sentence: \”A Even if the family is empty, as long as there is an upright, hard-working, kind, and optimistic mother, such a family is the temple and source of spiritual growth. The mother\’s influence on the child is like an uninterrupted force that will last for the child. Lifelong. \”The best family education will never force children to work hard alone, but will create an atmosphere of excellence in all aspects. If you want your child to be great, you might as well try to become a better mother yourself first. The mother\’s mentality determines the child\’s character. Writer Liang Xiaosheng said: \”There is a type of woman who seems to be the angel sent by God to the people. As long as they have a close relationship with a family, that family will flourish, and the lives of adults and children will be bright.\” Your mood will also get better. \”A mother with a good attitude can not only make her children feel happy, but also the greatest blessing for the entire family. Growing up in an environment with a strong sense of relaxation and no internal friction will benefit your children throughout their lives. Yuan Shuai, the top scorer in Sichuan science subjects in 2023, has such a kind-hearted mother. During the interview, Yuan’s mother shared a short story about herself and her child. When Yuan Shuai was in junior high school, children around him began to play Honor of Kings, and Yuan Shuai was no exception. Most parents are resistant to electronic games and regard them as a scourge. Not only did Yuan’s mother not strictly prohibit it, but she also started to learn to play, so as to understand what the child likes and what the child is thinking, and also created many common topics for communication between mother and child. In terms of study, Yuan’s mother has never been anxious or anxious. Yuan Shuai\’s Chinese language is in a long sectionAlthough he was weak at all times, Yuan’s mother did not force him to participate in relevant cram schools. In fact, throughout the middle school period, Yuan Shuai’s cram schools were all selected by him after analysis and investigation. It is precisely because of this that he has always maintained sufficient subjective initiative in learning. Facing the camera, Yuan\’s mother also proudly said: \”As a mother, I do not spend all my time on my children. In fact, it will be better if both of us have our own time and space.\” In fact, she This is indeed how children are allowed to make mistakes, children are allowed to make choices, and children are allowed and willing to understand some of their little hobbies. It is this kind of relaxed and free family atmosphere that allows Yuan Shuai to grow up healthily both physically and mentally into a good young man with both morals and academics. I once saw a public welfare video titled \”Mom and Dad, I don\’t want to be your child anymore.\” The little girl in the video said to the camera: \”I am 6 years old this year, but I don\’t want to celebrate Children\’s Day anymore.\” , I want to grow up quickly and be tall and big, so that when my mother hits me, I will have the strength to run further and my mother will not be able to hit me.” The mother in the video always said. She is emotionally unstable and anxious, and takes it out on her daughter whenever she feels unhappy. Over time, the little girl lost her confidence in speaking, her eyes lost their luster, and she lowered her head to everyone, feeling sensitive and fragile. The most terrifying thing about a family is not the poverty of economic conditions, nor the amount of educational resources, but the long-term anxiety and internal conflict between parents and children, who are in constant panic. In daily life, mothers with a good attitude mostly abstain from the following three things. 1. Stop complaining and instill garbage emotions. Mothers with negative energy bodies tend to ignore their children\’s endurance and instill garbage emotions, which affects their children\’s physical and mental health. Emotions are contagious, and infecting children with positivity and happiness is the best way for a family to get along. 2. Stop blaming and learn to allow your children to make mistakes. Scientific research shows that people with a \”high sense of value\” have stronger \”adverse quotient\” in the face of setbacks and blows. Letting children think that they are important, valuable, and worthy of love is a compulsory course for many mothers. 3. Get rid of anxiety and lower your expectations for your children. A mother with a strong sense of relaxation will not work too hard in education, but will relax, support and rely on her children. The only way to achieve family harmony is to learn to lower your expectations, learn to accept everything, accept your own ordinaryness, and accept the ordinaryness of your children. A mother\’s three views shape her child\’s character. A point of view mentioned in \”Family Pedagogy\” is: \”The source of a child\’s moral development lies in the mother\’s wisdom, emotion and inner passion. How a person becomes in his own moral development is determined by What kind of mother is there? \”A mother is a child\’s first mentor and the best guide for her child. The mother\’s three views will also infiltrate into the child\’s soul and affect every step the child takes. Do you still remember Sheng Minglan’s mother Wei Xiaoniang in \”Do You Know or Not\”? As Sheng Hong\’s unfavored concubine, Wei Xiaoniang did not complain about others, but instead valued love and justice, and was pure and intelligent. She could ride and shoot, throw pots, read poetry and books, and knew how to be patient. These abilities and qualities were also inherited by Sheng Minglan. And the painting \”Ms. Li Guarding Niangzi Pass\” that Wei Xiaoniang left to Minglan before she died is even more interesting.It made Minglan understand that in that feudal era, the most important thing for a woman was not to be filial, not to support her husband and raise children, but to be independent and self-reliant. It was precisely because of the influence of her mother\’s three views that Minglan grew up to be a capable and upright woman, and was eventually named Madam, which was extremely glorious. A mother with upright views will teach her children to know right from wrong, distinguish right from wrong, and maintain integrity. A mother with incorrect views will only make her children gradually distorted in wrong ideas. Do you still remember the fable about stealing a needle when you were young and stealing gold when you were old? There was a mother in Liujiazhuang who took her child to the market to buy needles. When the stall owner wasn\’t paying attention, the child stole a needle and took it home, which was greatly praised by his mother. From then on, the child became more and more bold, and the things he stole became more and more valuable. One day, this child went to steal gold and silver jewelry, accidentally killed someone, and was sentenced to death. Before the execution, he made an excuse to have a word with his mother, but when she came closer, he bit off her ear. The child cried with blood in his mouth and said, \”Mom! I was punished every time I stole a needle when I was a child. How could I have come to this point!\” Anyone with common sense knows that once the first button of a shirt is buttoned crooked, the rest of the buttons will be damaged. If you don’t keep the part until the end, it will be difficult to find and correct mistakes. The first button in life is often buttoned by the mother. A mother\’s outlook on life has a huge impact on her child\’s future. If you want to help your children establish a correct outlook on life, you must pay attention to the following three points: 1. Establish good rules and strictly abide by the bottom line. Developing good habits is the first step to establish three views. Whether it is a small habit of reading and studying, or a big rule of loving family and country, they need to be established from an early age. It is the most important step in life for a mother to keep the bottom line and let her children do the right things and be kind people. 2. Teach by words and deeds, and lead by example. The source of education lies in parents. A good mother will continue to make progress with her children, constantly correct herself, and be a role model and growth direction for her children. 3. Optimize the environment and guide it correctly. In ancient times, Mencius\’ mother moved three times. Nowadays, we can also take the initiative to optimize the environment and atmosphere for our children\’s growth. You should communicate more with your children. If you find that your children have received bad influences outside the family, provide them with correct guidance in a timely manner. A mother\’s vision makes her child\’s height. Jingjie said in the book \”The Pattern of Parents\”: \”The pattern of parents is to have a high vision, a broad mind, and a thick ideal.\” Venus is also in \”The Venus Show\” Said: \”Parents should not be too eager for quick success and quick gains. They can shape their children with purpose. They must know how to discover their children\’s interests, cultivate their hobbies, and respect their children\’s habits.\” The biggest world a child can see is often his own. parents. A mother with a broad vision will look further ahead and will pay more attention to whether her children have a sound personality and whether they can realize their own values ​​and pursuits. Only by polishing the child\’s first window into the world can he see the scenery worth yearning for. I remember seeing a comparison of the lives of two child stars. One was Deng Minghe, the \”New Year Painting Doll\” who appeared on CCTV\’s Year of the Dragon Spring Festival Gala when he was 6 years old, and the other was Zhao Xinpei, who played the red boy in \”Journey to the West\”. Their starting points are very similar, but their destinies are completely different. Deng Minghe\’s parents, in order to make more money, arranged for him to participate in business performances continuously. Overwhelmed, Deng Minghe developed a high fever, but his parents persisted.However, he was reluctant to let him rest and forced him to participate in the performance despite being sick. Finally, he suffered from leukemia due to long-term lack of sleep and mental stress. Fortunately, there was still time for treatment. Through the efforts of medical staff, Deng Minghe\’s condition was temporarily under control. The doctor warned Deng Minghe\’s parents in every possible way not to overwork him. But his parents only allowed him to rest for a month before they started accepting commercial roles for him again. In the end, these parents, who only saw money, forced their biological children to relapse and die. Compared with Deng Minghe, Zhao Xinpei\’s life is happy. After he became popular, many directors, advertising companies, and brokerage companies came to him and offered extremely high salaries. But Zhao Xinpei\’s parents retained rare sobriety and foresight. Instead of consuming their child\’s fame and value, they let him go back to school, acquire the knowledge and culture he deserves, and make the choices he really wants. When he was in high school, Zhao Xinpei discovered that he was interested in computers. His parents spared no expense to purchase equipment for him and send him to further his studies. In the end, Zhao Xinpei was admitted to the Computer Science Department of Peking University with excellent results, and was subsequently recommended to the Chinese Academy of Sciences. Read a Ph.D. Writer Huang Jingjie once said: \”Educate people with a broad vision, rather than raise children with a small vision.\” How high a child can fly is inseparable from the breadth of the parents\’, especially the mother\’s, vision. A far-sighted mother will cultivate the following abilities in her children from an early age, each of which is very important: 1. Develop good reading habits in her children. No matter which path is chosen in the future, children\’s reading ability, comprehension ability, thinking ability and knowledge reserve are all crucial parts. 2. Cultivate children’s financial intelligence. Don\’t raise your children in a vacuum. Only by letting children know about money and teaching them to save money and plan to use money can we help them establish a correct outlook on money and consumption. 3. Let children feel the joy of learning and learn consciously and proactively. Relying on rewards, beatings and scolding is not a long-term solution. Only by making children fall in love with learning and stimulating their subjective initiative can they develop the habit of lifelong learning. 4. Good social skills and establish your own circle. Humans are social animals. They don’t need to be overly social, but they must have the ability to socialize. Making good friends has a huge impact on children\’s learning, emotions and even their entire life. 5. Ability to solve problems independently. Many times, when a child encounters a problem, first give him time to solve it independently, and then teach him how to solve the problem. Learn to let go and give your children the power to solve problems. Only then will your children have the ability to solve problems. 6. Stick to the habit of exercising every day. As the saying goes: \”The body is the capital of revolution.\” Developing a good habit of physical exercise will not only make children energetic, but also effectively relieve depression, which is of great benefit to the body and mind. I like this sentence very much: \”What kind of person you want your child to be, it\’s very simple, you just have to be that kind of person.\” No matter how great the education is, it can\’t be as good as a mother with a good character day after day. Remove the contamination of ears and eyes. On the road to education, strive to be a mother with a good attitude, upright views, and broad vision, and strive to accompany her children to welcome a bright future. Click [Like] to encourage all parents.