3 tips to teach you how to spend quality time with your children [Written for dads who have little time, attached with book list]

Many fathers are troubled: I know it is important for fathers to spend time with their children, but unfortunately I am too busy at work and exhausted when I get home. I lose my patience after playing with my children for a while, and my children are becoming less and less close to me. What can I do? My husband once had the same problem. Before Rooney was 2 years old, he was not very busy at work and often helped take care of the children when he came home. Rooney and he were still very close at that time. But later, he changed companies. After being promoted, he worked overtime almost every day. In addition, the company was far from home, so he left early and came back late every day. Therefore, the time at home became shorter and shorter, and he spent less and less time with his children. Finally one day, he had a conflict with Rooney. Rooney, who was still 4 years old at the time, said: \”Go away! This is not your home, this is your hotel. You are only staying here temporarily.\” My husband and I were shocked. Got it! My husband has not been with his children for a long time, which has made them feel strange to him. From that day on, my husband and I thought of many ways to try our best to help the child establish a good and intimate relationship with his father again. After more than a year of hard work, the relationship between Rooney and his father slowly recovered. Every time I see the father and son fighting, I feel comforted. Fortunately, they were saved in time! In fact, the relationship between father and son was re-established not because the husband spent more time with the child, but because the quality of his time with the child improved. To sum up, there are three most important methods: ▊Play games with your children attentively. Playing games with your children is the best way to gain their trust and build intimacy with them. Through games, we can also understand children\’s preferences and enter their inner world. In fact, in terms of strength, height, way of thinking, vision, etc., fathers are more suitable than mothers for playing games with their children. The reason why games are important is not only because children like to play, but also because even the most ordinary games contain layers of meaning. For example, my husband’s favorite game with his children is to throw pillows around the house and chase each other around. The kids and dad have a great time every time. The child exercises his big movements and the accuracy of throwing during the chase; the pillow hits the father, which brings happiness and a sense of accomplishment to the child; the father praises the child for being \”so strong\” and \”running so fast\”, which in turn gives him a sense of accomplishment. Children bring confidence. The two people are having fun together, which unknowingly promotes mutual trust and intimacy between them. Any interactive game with children, as long as the father participates attentively, can bring effects countless times higher than ordinary companionship. Maybe some dads say again, but I don’t know what games to play with my children. Yes, most adults are busy working all day long and have gradually lost the ability to play games anytime and anywhere. In fact, there is no need to worry. According to my observation, every child is a born gamer. If you don’t know what games to play, you might as well ask your child and let them think about it. You just need to cooperate with your child wholeheartedly. Dads who have time can read the book \”Game Power\”, which contains a large number of cases to teach you how to play games with your children. If you can apply it to your own children, it will definitely greatly improve the intimate relationship between you and your children. ▊Establish a unique intimacy ritual with your children. Sometimes, my husband comes home very late after working overtime.I am very tired and have no time or energy to play with Rooney, even some simple games. What should I do? He came up with a unique method. Every time he came home, he would pick up the child, hold it high, pretend to weigh the child, and say, \”Come, let daddy see if you have gained weight?\” \”Hmm… It seems that I haven’t eaten enough today.” “Oh, I must have eaten a lot today, and I am a lot heavier.” After weighing him, he slowly put Rooney down, kissed him hard, and hugged him. Rooney was also very happy to be held high in the air by his father. This method slowly became a unique intimate ritual between father and son, deepening their relationship. Every father should establish this kind of unique intimate time with his children, which will become the best lubricant for the relationship between you and your son. ▊Accompany your children to read picture books dedicated to fathers. In order to rebuild a close relationship with Rooney, my husband bought a lot of picture books about fathers. Later, these picture books became exclusive picture books for my husband and his children to read together. Mr. Matsui Nao said: \”Reading to children is like traveling to the land of stories hand in hand with them, sharing the same happy time full of warm language.\” Dad\’s magnetic voice is definitely different from mom\’s. Yes, the child needs this intimate time with his father very much. Watching the child cling to his father and listening to his father telling stories, I think that when the child grows up, this will probably be the best memory between him and his father. Finally, I would like to recommend a few picture books that are very suitable for fathers and children to read together. I hope that all fathers can accompany their children with intention and high quality, and establish a good intimate relationship with their children. 1. \”My Dad\” 2. \”Little Bear and the Best Dad\” series 3. \”Dad, I want the moon\” 4. \”Sometimes, I really like Dad\” 5. \”Watching Owls under the Moon\” 6. \”For Dad \”Kiss\” 7. \”Dear Daddy Bear\” series 8. \”Dad\’s Scarf\” 9. \”Mr. Seahorse\” 10. \”Reunion\” 11. \”Amazing Dad\” series 12. \”Amazing Mr. Fox\”