5 easy ways to keep your kids off their phones

Some people say that in a modern family, there are three protagonists: parents, children, and mobile phones. There is no need to mention the benefits of mobile phones. You can communicate, you can relax, and even many parents use mobile phones to please their children. When a child makes a fuss, just throw him a mobile phone, and the world becomes quiet in an instant. But when mobile phones take up an ever-larger proportion in our lives. Many parents have also discovered that their originally energetic teenager has become \”ignorant of what is going on outside the window and only cares about scrolling through his mobile phone.\” Some children are even addicted to it, spending money, wasting time, and even lying. At this time, many parents want to give their children a cell phone withdrawal, but even if they try their best, they have little effect. However, this cannot be entirely blamed on children. Adults are not resistant to mobile phones, let alone immature children. The following 5 methods may help your children stay away from mobile phones from the root cause. Blogger @Yeye said that when her daughter first entered junior high school, she never restricted her daughter from using mobile phones. But gradually, she discovered that if she did not restrict herself, her daughter would be easily addicted to mobile phones: she could not do without her mobile phone when doing homework; chatting and watching short videos became her only way of entertainment… After a period of time, Yeye made up her mind: she must Limit your daughter’s cell phone. So, she set a limit on how long her daughter could use her mobile phone: 4 days a week, 45 minutes a day. But such strength has turned the home into a battlefield. During this period, Yeye was so angry that he threw his cell phone, scolded his daughter for not living up to expectations, and even moved his hands. The little girl also cried bitterly and yelled at Yeye. However, when I saw my grades declining, I felt that something was wrong with me. It wasn\’t until a family meeting happened that everything changed. That day, their family of three sat together and solemnly discussed how to use their mobile phones. Throughout the whole process, my daughter argued hard for her \”own rights\” and ran away loudly. Yeye and her husband also stick to their principles for positive guidance. After consultation, they reached an agreement: for their daughter, one hour a day from Monday to Friday, and one and a half hours on Saturdays and Sundays. This kind of appropriate concession makes children feel victory and respect, and they are more willing to comply. In fact, the most terrifying thing about setting rules is that adults give orders and children follow them. After all, this will violate the \”forbidden fruit effect\” in psychology: the more you ban it, the greater the interest and attention of children will be aroused by mobile phones. They will do everything possible to get their hands on the mobile phone, race against time to play with it, and are eager for the mobile phone. Deeper too. If you want the rules to be effective, you must fully discuss them and respect your children\’s opinions. Of course, in addition to sitting down and using it together like the Yeye family, parents can also open up more positive functions of the mobile phone for their children, such as using it as a dictionary, negotiating usage scenarios, etc. The \”Research on Online Game Cognition and Fetal Toxins among Primary and Secondary School Students and Parents\” released by the China Youth Research Center shows that children\’s addiction to electronic products is closely related to the parent-child relationship. The worse the parent-child relationship, the easier it is for children to become addicted to the Internet. In other words, the closer parents are to their children and the more they care about their children, the less likely their children will be addicted to electronic products. Therefore, when your children are addicted to mobile phones, instead of blaming them, think about whether your companionship is missing? The reason why educator Liu Yong was able to raise a pair ofExcellent children depend on high-quality companionship. He said: \”The most important thing about family education is companionship. From childhood to adolescence, we must accompany the children to share happy times, laugh with them, and grow together.\” Therefore, no matter how busy he is at work, he will try his best to spare time, Spend more time with your children. When he first arrived in a foreign country, his son was very uncomfortable with it, so Liu Yong often took him to play in the wild, digging for insects and growing vegetables together. In addition, the father and son often compete in long jump, running, pitching, etc., to cultivate their son\’s frustration resistance and never give up or get discouraged. When accompanying his daughter, Liu Yong is even more gentle. He would put makeup on his daughter and play house with her; when his daughter practiced the piano, he would hold up the sheet music as a music stand; he would take his daughter to do scientific experiments to cultivate her interest in learning… In this way, with his father\’s company, the two A child becomes independent, optimistic and confident. Today, his son has a PhD in psychology from Harvard University, and his daughter won the U.S. \”President\’s Award\” at the age of 14. In fact, when we fill children\’s hearts and boring time with more interesting or high-quality parent-child companionship, mobile phones are no longer a necessity. For children, the happiness derived from this kind of high-quality real-person interaction will always be more attractive than the paper people on their mobile phones. Another good way to keep your children away from mobile phones is to take them out for a walk more often. In this way, he can experience more things, meet more interesting people, and experience the real world that is thousands of times more exciting than a mobile phone. Those who have watched \”The Strongest Brain\” must be familiar with \”Brother Shui\” Wang Yuheng. He graduated from Tsinghua Academy of Fine Arts and ranked first in Tsinghua\’s design major in the college entrance examination. His professional score was 40 points higher than the second place. He is an out-and-out all-around academic. But what you don’t expect is that Xueba is not someone who just studies. When he was a child, he often traveled with his parents, especially enjoying the company of flowers, plants, fish and insects. Now that he has a daughter, he never lets her hold her mobile phone all the time. Whenever I have time, I take my daughter to \”wave\” everywhere, go to the aquarium to observe jellyfish, and play with Baiji dolphins… Although my daughter is not in school for half of the semester, she never fails to do her homework, and she is very interested in reading and I am also particularly fond of sports. Perhaps, many parents feel that traveling with their children requires both time and money, and they don’t have the capital. But in fact, as long as you are willing, the park in front of your home, the fields in your hometown, and the library around you can all be your travel choices. The world is big and rich, and children who have more exposure will not just stare at the screen. In my childhood, those experiences such as playing under the pink cherry blossoms, hugging my family to watch the sunrise on the top of the mountain, and eating a wonderful meal in the countryside… are all precious. The scenery seen and the roads traveled will eventually be imprinted on the child\’s body and become an indispensable asset in the child\’s life. Have you ever observed when children are most likely to play with mobile phones? Maybe, it\’s when I\’m bored. If there are children to play with, or if there are things he loves more, the child will never think of playing with his mobile phone. Therefore, the most effective way to defeat mobile phones is to provide children with diverse choices based on their interests. Such as outdoor activities, parent-child games, crafts, and readingetc. Lele\’s mother took her to watch a stage play when she was two years old. Unexpectedly, the little girl became very interested in dancing and playing the piano. She is 10 years old this year, and Lele has already passed level 9 in piano and level 7 in dance. These two interests were learned by Lele himself. Lele’s mother said that none of the adults in her family have musical talent. Lele’s father would even fall asleep every time he watched a stage play. Unexpectedly, Lele would extend this into his own interest and be very motivated. Perhaps, when you first provide your child with diverse choices, he will weigh in his mind, which one is more interesting, playing with mobile phones or doing handicrafts? However, there is nothing wrong with playing with mobile phones. Children need our slow guidance. Not setting limits for children and providing them with diverse choices is what parents should do. For example, if you want to train your children to learn music or dance in the future, you can first let them become fans. Once a child has new interests and hobbies, he will slowly discover that the happiness brought by playing with mobile phones is often short-lived. After the happiness is over, there is only emptiness; but this kind of happiness requires a certain amount of effort on your part. But it is long-lasting and will always provide positive feedback to the brain. I saw such a short film on the Internet. When a mother spends time with her daughter, her attention is always on her mobile phone. While ironing clothes, my mother held the phone between her face and talked happily on the phone. While eating, my mother was busy with the computer and mobile phone. In the elevator, the mother held the little girl with one hand, while the other hand was still busy on her mobile phone. On the bus, the mother still held her daughter with one arm and was busy playing with her mobile phone with the other hand. Seeing other children playing happily with their parents, while her mother was with her but her attention was always on her mobile phone, the little girl was a little sad and even disappointed. In fact, many children learn to play with mobile phones from their parents, and it is even a kind of emotional transfer. Therefore, when parents prohibit their children from playing with mobile phones, they will say: \”Why can adults be allowed to play with mobile phones and watch short videos all the time, while children must be obedient? This is unfair!\” As parents, we can have many reasons to refute Children, for example, I bought the mobile phone myself and I am an adult. But education especially requires the example of parents. What you ask of your children, you must do it first. If parents can\’t do it, don\’t expect their children to do what they say. Moreover, as long as you pay attention, you will find that mobile phones are not only squeezing children\’s time, but also squeezing our adults\’ time. Therefore, from now on, you might as well work with your children to limit the time you use mobile phones and set a good example for your children. Children are natural imitators and will unconsciously imitate every word and deed of their parents. Even their parents\’ small movements and mantras are very similar. This subtle influence may not be noticeable to us, but it will change the life of our children. German philosopher Karl Jaspers said: The essence of education is that one tree shakes another tree, one cloud pushes another cloud, and one soul awakens another soul. If you want children to get away from mobile phones, banning them will not work. After all, you can’t ban all the mobile phones in this world, ban his, and your friends’…What parents can really do is to see their children\’s inner needs. Then, guide them to see this rich world and help them find fun in reality. When children receive enough love and companionship, and their hearts are full enough, they will naturally look away from the screen.