A 6-year-old boy was forced to run 3 kilometers in tears. Frustration education is a scarce commodity in this era

Even if I cry, I have to finish the run by myself! A few days ago, I saw a video on Weibo: At the \”Running with Heart Life Festival\” in Shanghai, a 6-year-old boy cried and ran 3 kilometers. The mother insisted not to hug her, thinking that she couldn’t just “forget it” so easily, so she insisted that the child “run by himself even if he cried”! When the boy cried and said \”I\’m very tired\”, the mother responded: No, just forget it. He is about to enter the first grade, so forget it if he does this again. What will he do when he goes to school in the future? When he can\’t hold on, should he just \”forget it\”? When it comes to educating children, a mother’s highest duty is to give her children a sense of security. If a mother exists to allow her children to experience setbacks, then the children will have endless setbacks throughout their lives. The real core of frustration education is not to deliberately create setbacks for children, but to accompany them to face setbacks together. Psychologists believe that a person must have three factors: high IQ, high emotional intelligence and high frustration quotient to achieve success. When IQ and EQ are not much different from others, frustration quotient plays a decisive role in a person\’s achievement. Some time ago, I watched another video on Weibo. The boy performs Taekwondo exercises, where he has to punch through wooden boards with his bare hands. At first, the boy hit the board vigorously, but he flinched whenever his hand touched the board. The coach told him: When you feel pain, try your best to overcome it. Otherwise, it will become an obstacle in your life or anything you do. Finally, the child cried with all his strength, and the board was penetrated the moment the tears fell. The coach asked the boy: Why are you crying? That\’s it, kid, it\’s okay to cry, we men all cry too. While the coach comforted the boy and asked him to express his grievances, he approached the boy and half-knelt down to look at the boy\’s level. The boy wiped his tears and said: Because I think it is really difficult to penetrate the board with my hands. The coach told him that some things in life are harder than others. These things may seem difficult to do, but even so, you still have to do it like a man. This will make you cry. No matter who you are, this process requires blood and sweat. Only you can overcome everything. I just hope that you will go all out and your heart will be stronger than your fists. In the beginning, if you can\’t break through your past habits, fight hard and gradually overcome the difficulties and obstacles. Finally, the boy succeeded in breaking through himself, roared, and the board was broken through. There was applause from the audience. Educating children about setbacks is not simply about letting them learn to wait, nor is it about blindly suppressing children’s inner desires, nor is it about letting children “go through the storm before seeing the rainbow.” It is the ability to teach children to overcome current difficult situations and strive for long-term benefits. There is an episode of \”The Biggest Brain\” in which Italian boy Andrea Latorre plays against Chinese boy Li Yunlong. The program team asked challengers to memorize the random order of 51 brides and grooms, and use puppet models to display the rankings. In one scene, Li Yunlong mistakenly thought that he had placed it wrong, and he burst into tears on the scene. He kept saying: I placed it wrong, but I remembered it correctly! The sudden frustration made Li Yunlong collapse. André La Torre saw it and couldn\’t help crying. The host asked him why, Andre Latorre said: I saw him crying.It feels so sad to be so sad. After the results were announced, the plot was reversed and Li Yunlong won. He immediately burst into laughter. Andre Latorre, not grieved by the failure, generously ran over to congratulate and hugged Li Yunlong. Frustration quotient, also called reverse quotient, is like the psychological self-immune system. It not only protects oneself from difficulties and setbacks, but also improves the motivation of life and explores the unknown world with courage and wisdom. Different attitudes lead to different endings, either reaching the ideal shore, or shrinking back and doing nothing. There is a well-known \”Festinger\’s Law\” in social psychology: 10% of life is made up of what happens to you, and the other 90% is determined by how you react to what happens. In other words, no matter what happens, the first 10% is uncontrollable and the last 90% is controllable. What is scary when encountering setbacks is not the setback itself, but the mentality when facing setbacks. When the mentality collapses, the person will collapse. Thinking calmly and treating difficulties rationally is where a person is most likely to be favored by success. If you want to get something, you have to learn to wait and pay. On the second floor of Wanda, which is close to home, there is an octopus dumpling restaurant. Mom, hurry up, hurry up. In order to satisfy their children, some parents will let their children jump in line or jump in line themselves. But in fact, we can tell our children many things, but we have to wait patiently, may have to endure hunger, and may need to do it ourselves. Encouraging children is more important than helping. Always encourage children to complete things independently instead of helping them achieve what they ask for. For example, if I take my daughter who is less than 2 years old to buy groceries, I will tell her as soon as she goes out that she has to walk by herself. If you are tired, your mother can stop and wait for you, rest with you, and cheer you up, but she will not hug you, she will only hold you. In the beginning, although she promised well, she would also lie. After many times of encouragement, I gradually became able to walk back and forth on my own ability. Let the child experience the sense of accomplishment after achieving the goal many times, and she will have mastered growth. Harvard University once conducted a survey and research on housework and came to a surprising conclusion: children who like to do housework and children who do not like to do housework have an employment rate of 15:1 and a crime rate of 1:10 as adults; Children who do housework have lower divorce rates and lower rates of mental illness. In the process of children\’s growth, housework is inseparable from the development of children\’s motor skills, cognitive abilities and the cultivation of a sense of responsibility. Treating children as important family members and letting them do what they can is both an exercise and a challenge. Experiencing failure does not require children to perform well in everything. Play with your children and do not deliberately let them go. Appropriate failures will actually help your children grow. There is a classic line in \”The Pursuit of Happiness\”: When you think it is the most difficult, it is actually the time when you are closest to success. While giving children setbacks, we must also give them enough love so that they can maintain an optimistic and positive attitude in the face of adversity and withstand the blows of various failures. cowardly fatherMothers will avoid setbacks, causing their children to stop growing, lose the courage to fight, and eventually become lonely and helpless. Strong parents will face setbacks head-on, make up their minds, encourage their children to try and persevere again, and regard setbacks as challenges and opportunities. For children, setbacks are part of growing up and part of life. Facing setbacks is the most valuable asset in life!