A 9-year-old child was beaten and scolded by his father for gambling at home. The son\’s words left the father speechless.

We all know that parents are their children\’s first teachers. From the moment their children are born, they are watching with their eyes, listening with their ears, experiencing with their hearts, and thinking about every move, word and deed of their parents. Parents are their children\’s \”idols\”. They long to be as tall as their father and as approachable as their mother when they grow up. The world that children first come into contact with is mainly the family. For the education of children, family education not only starts earliest, but also lasts the longest. As children\’s earliest enlightenment and lifelong educators, parents have the most profound influence on their children\’s education. Too many problems, worries, and confusions in family education plague today\’s parents. We believe that as children’s first teachers and role models for children to follow, parents play an all-round and three-dimensional role model. Parents are role models for their children’s noble spirit, noble personality, multiple abilities, and healthy lifestyles. example. \”Bad\” parents know this very well and are able to make the most skillful use of the power of being a parent. Even if it is some bad habits of their own, \”bad\” parents can try their best to get rid of them in order to establish a glorious image for their children. In addition to deliberately correcting their words and deeds, \”bad\” parents will also \”deliberately\” behave where their children need to learn. In the eyes of \”bad\” parents, using a thousand sermons to teach their children a truth is not as good as a subtle lesson. The action comes real. The following example serves as a warning to many parents: Xiao Zhang is a third-grade student. His father is a railway worker and his mother is laid off. Xiao Zhang\’s parents were addicted to mahjong all day long and did not pay attention to teaching their children by words and deeds. They think that as long as children are \”strictly watched\” and given a few \”beats\” when they disobey, they will be fine, but the result is exactly the opposite. Once, Xiao Zhang\’s father returned home sleepily after a long-night mahjong game, and was surprised to find that his son was playing poker with a few buddies for money. Moreover, everyone had a little money on the table. Zhang\’s father immediately became furious and beat Xiao Zhang. After being beaten, Xiao Zhang cried loudly and shouted: \”I\’ve finished my homework, why can you play mahjong but I can\’t play poker?\” This question made Zhang\’s father speechless. From this, it is not difficult to see that for underage children, parents ask them to study hard, but they eat, drink and have fun; ask them to go to bed early and get up early, but they stay up late playing cards and sleep in; ask them to be polite to others, but they use foul language. How convincing can such education be? Naturally, the effect can be imagined. In the minds of parents, children are born as kind angels. As the saying goes, \”human beings are born with good nature.\” Young children are born with no regard for good or evil. They carry many instinctive impulses with them. These instinctive impulses can develop into good behaviors or become the seeds of evil, making children go astray. As we all know, \”Don\’t do good deeds because they are small, and don\’t do evil because they are small.\” Parents\’ responsibility is to use scientific education methods to develop these instinctive impulses in their children into kind behaviors and become a moral person. A person who is responsible for others and society. \”Bad\” parents are able to detect these instinctive impulses in their children in time and deliberately make some mistakes.Let the children imitate some behaviors that guide children to improve their impulses. \”Bad\” parents are also \”bad\” because they become harsh correctors when their children\’s impulses may lead to undesirable consequences. Speaking of this, there is such a thing that makes people feel sad and sad: a mother wrote on her blog: \”There is a little boy in Xixi\’s early childhood education class who is two months older than Xixi. Before he was 1 year old, he was in the same class as Xixi, and then went to another class. This time, they were in the music enlightenment class together. That child loved to steal other people\’s things, but his mother not only ignored him, but also said with some pride: My son is He loves to grab things, throws them away after grabbing them, and doesn\’t play with them. With the parents\’ connivance, the little boy is still the same when I see him half a year later. In class last week, Xixi was playing with a swing ring, and the little boy snorted. He threw himself in front of Xixi. His move was so sudden that I was startled, not to mention Xixi. Xixi put away her hand in panic and let him grab the hoop and throw it to the ground. His mother smiled and said softly: Don\’t snatch things from children. Yesterday, I talked about this with a journalist friend. She said that children\’s words and deeds are a reflection of their parents\’ education. When you encounter children like that, you have to teach your children to be defensive. Don\’t teach your children to be too aggressive. Be good.\” To be honest, raising a moral child is an arduous task. Morality is a very subtle and complex concept, including love, responsibility, compassion, honesty and many other factors. Therefore, parents are required to master scientific education. Methods, sometimes it is necessary to \”make new things out of bad things\” in order for children to gain something. \”Bad\” parents need to come up with many clever ways. For example, in addition to being role models for their children, it is also a very good way to encourage their children to spend more time with moral peers. Children will imitate each other and interact with good children. In the process, your children will naturally be influenced, and vice versa. For example, if you want your child to be polite, playing with an older, polite child can quickly teach him to be polite as well. Of course, what \”bad\” parents can do is remind their children to continue learning from good and moral children. What \”bad\” parents should note here is that your reminder must be more specific. It cannot just be a general statement about learning more from so-and-so, but you must explain to your children what to learn from others and why they should learn these behaviors. Even \”bad\” parents can quietly encourage their children, such as using language such as \”When you do better than so-and-so, mom will let him learn from you.\” In family education, parents often tell their children with experience and without doubt that they should do this and should not do that, in an attempt to regulate their children\’s words and deeds. Unfortunately, the reality is that such empty preaching often has little effect. Parents don’t know that for children, in some aspects of education, preaching has little effect. Instead, children need to see and experience what you do, which is the so-called leading by example. For example, when getting up in the morning, parents should consciously say hello to the elders in the family and neighbors; when taking their children out to visit, they should knock softly on the door, speak elegantly, and raise their eyebrows.Be civilized, always say thank you when receiving warm hospitality from the host, and say goodbye before leaving; when guests come to the house, take your children to the door to greet them, and guide them to bring the most delicious or fun things for themselves Take it out to entertain guests. When guests bring gifts to your children, make sure your children know how to express their gratitude. When guests go home, they should take your children to the door and say \”Welcome again next time\”, \”Goodbye\”, etc. Remember, your children will see everything you say, do, and do. This creates a sense of reverence for parents and follows the example of their parents. If you want to give your children the most direct and effective education in your daily life, you must first be careful in your words and deeds, and set an example. Whatever you ask your children to do, you must do it first. There is such an example that is worth learning from: There was a father who had two sons who had very good educational methods. In order to enhance the physical fitness of the children and to urge them to develop the habit of getting up early to exercise, the father started to teach the children to go to school. Since the year before, I have led and accompanied them to do long-distance running exercises in the morning. When the children were young, the father would jog or run in a zigzag pattern, which could not only protect the children\’s safety but also monitor their running speed. Slowly, as the children grew up, the father\’s role of protection and supervision in long-distance running became less important. Even later, the elderly father began to be unable to keep up with the speed of the children, and even the formal role of companionship seemed to be no longer there. Needed. But the father still insists on exercising with his children, and even the running route has not changed. When many neighbors asked the father why, the father calmly said that his only purpose of doing this has not changed from the beginning, that is, to set an example in the minds of children. The actions of adults have an impact on children. It is like a silent command, which can act as a deterrent invisibly. The final result is that even if the father is not at home sometimes, the children still exercise as usual. In this way, this father has been accompanying his children to insist on long-distance running in the morning, so that they have strong bodies. Whenever the school holds sports meetings, their parents support and encourage them to sign up. When they graduated from high school, one of his sons actually ran out of the school. A good result of first place in the 1500 meters. In addition, the strong physical fitness gained from consistent exercise also ensures that the children have strong energy to study. During their studies, the two children did not even take a single day of sick leave. Although many parents also understand the principle of leading by example, they always feel that the effect is far less effective than what is stated in books. What confuses many parents even more is that children seem to disapprove of their parents\’ preaching, but they always do not accept the teachings of teachers or leaders. Teaching cares deeply. Parents, please rest assured that that is just a superficial phenomenon of children\’s instinct, and it is by no means the real situation. The real situation is that no matter what environment children are in, they are still willing to trust their parents first, and then they may trust teachers or leaders. In fact, this truth is conceivable. They dare not disobey the teachings of teachers or leaders because there is a superior-subordinate relationship in management. But they dare not disobey, which does not mean they dare not disbelieve. How much in their hearts There will be doubts;On the contrary, sometimes they dare not listen to their parents\’ preaching, but their daring not to listen does not mean they do not believe it. Children know very well that only their parents will not lie to them. In this world, you actually have to be a good person for many things. This is true for adults, and children are no exception. They even look more like adults than adults because they know that they are the ones who need to learn to protect themselves the most. Because they are still very weak. From this point of view, the parents’ share of the educational responsibility for their children can only be borne by the parents. If parents can set a good example and amplify the power of sampling in the hearts of their children, it will be the luck of the children, the parents themselves, and of course the society. 1. Many times, \”bad\” parents can achieve the purpose of educating their children by just using some tricks, especially those aspects that require their children to learn from themselves. It is best for parents not to explicitly tell their children what to do and how to do it. It’s not good. Instead, do it in front of the child as you want the child to learn to ensure that good results can be achieved. 2. Set a role model for children to learn in real life, and constantly encourage children to surpass each other. This will help enhance children\’s self-confidence, and also inspire children to recognize their own shortcomings and learn to learn from each other\’s strengths.