A boy kicked someone and was thrown on the shoulder and stamped on the head: How terrible is it for parents to \”not hit back\” for their children?

Yesterday I was shocked by a video: a boy kicked a man on the bus three times on the seat. The man suddenly stood up, threw the boy over his shoulder and threw the boy to the ground, and raised his foot to face him. Stamp the head three times. I believe that most mothers are like me. They feel heartbroken when they see their child\’s head being stepped on so cruelly by a grown man. The little boy collapsed on the spot after being stepped on. He tried to stand up twice but fell down. It made me cry. The child is still being treated in the hospital, and the condition of his injuries is unknown. The boy was 7 years old and the man who stepped on him was 21. The views of netizens can be divided into two categories: the first category believes that a 7-year-old child who takes the initiative to provoke should be educated in return; the second category believes that a 21-year-old man overreacts and is a grown-up naughty child. Among them, the first type of view accounts for the majority. This shows how annoying \”naughty children\” are: as parents, we must not be ignorant of the hostility of the whole people, let alone raise our own children to be street rats. The child who kicked someone on the bus, through his behavior, I seemed to see this scene: The child asked to buy a toy, and the mother did not agree, so the child punched and kicked the mother. Although the mother was angry, she did not fight back. . The child\’s toy was accidentally broken by his father, and he cried and hit his father repeatedly. The father felt that the child was weak and the beating would not hurt, so he ignored it. The child didn\’t want to walk and asked his grandma to hold him, but she couldn\’t hold her because she was carrying vegetables with both hands, so the child would hit her thighs with her fists, and her grandma would bear it silently. The child won\’t fight back when someone hits him outside. When he comes home, the grandpa trains the child: Come on, hit me! When the child hesitantly punched him, the grandfather gave him a thumbs up. …Does the above scene sound familiar? There are many children who are indulged by their parents to the point of being lawless. They are used to being bullies at home, and they think that the world revolves around them, and that everyone is just like their parents, grandparents, and they can be beaten, scolded, and get whatever they want. When he is angry or bored, it can be used as an object for him to vent. The boy on the bus seemed to be kicking people just because he was bored. Judging from his movements, at first he just gave a tentative kick with his foot. Perhaps because the other party didn\’t respond, he thought he would \”not fight back\” like his family members, so he kicked him again and again. He didn\’t know that only his own family would tolerate his tyranny, and outsiders had no such obligation. He didn\’t know that the opponent didn\’t respond to the first two kicks, so he was accumulating anger. When the third kick passed, he successfully made the opponent\’s anger level explode. My eldest daughter, Xiaoxi, has a gentler personality, a slower temper, and is not too persistent in things. When I was very young, when I wanted something, if I didn\’t agree with it, I would divert her attention. When she got a little older, I would explain the reasons to her and make sense, and she would usually listen. Tantrums rarely occur. The youngest daughter Xiaonuo is completely opposite to her elder sister. She has a very impatient temper and is extremely persistent in things. Starting from a few months old, wanting something can last for a long time, and it is not easy to be distracted. If you don\’t get it, your emotional reaction will be very intense. Compared to her sister, Xiao Nuo often loses her temper., when she was angry, she dropped her cell phone and broke many things. Although she received the punishment she deserved afterwards, she still could not prevent it from happening again next time. She understood the truth, but the moment her emotions arose, it seemed beyond her ability to control. I suggested that she hammer sofas, quilts and other soft items that are not easy to break, and the implementation had some effect. But sometimes she gets really angry and attacks me or her dad (whoever is closer). If she hits me, I will fight back most of the time and tell her: If you hit anyone, he will fight back! He also reminded Nuo Xi’s father to fight back appropriately. Xiao Nuo rarely hits her sister, because her sister will definitely fight back, and she can\’t beat her sister. Even though she knew I would fight back, she would still hit me occasionally because her emotions were too intense. Even though I knew there were tigers in the mountain, I still walked towards the tiger mountain. I could only hit her back after she hit me. Once when my grandma came to stay at home for a while, she saw the two sisters fighting. She habitually advised her sister to give in to her sister, but I quickly stopped my grandma and told her not to interfere. I used to be very worried that Xiaonuo would \”bully\” her classmates after going to school, and worried that the teacher would talk to me every three days. Fortunately, such a thing has never happened. I once read a story about a father who asked his daughter to get up in the morning to go to kindergarten. The daughter was unwilling and began to resist. She punched the father, and the father punched him back without hesitation. The little child cried out in pain, so she hit her father again. Naturally, his father hit her back. The child doesn\’t understand why her father, who loves her the most, beats her. She thinks her father doesn\’t love her anymore. However, my father said: I am doing this to make you understand and remember that in this world, if you hit anyone, he will fight back, even the father who loves you the most is no exception. The first time I read this story, I was very shocked. This is the education we sorely lack. If we \”don\’t fight back\” when our children are young, not only may the children be harshly educated by society, but we may also cultivate \”white-eyed wolves\” who have no respect for their superiors. Take a look at the following two examples and you will know: If we say that the children in the above examples are in the rebellious stage of youth and are unreasonable, then the behavior of the young man below is chilling: the reason why this \”white-eyed wolf\” beat up his parents is : He is getting married, but he feels that the wedding house bought by his parents with money is too small, which makes him lose face in front of his wife. In the end, the onlookers couldn\’t stand it and called the police. The young man was taken away by the police for education. Loving children is the instinct of animals, and humans, as advanced animals, naturally continue this instinct. However, how to love children is a technical task, or an art: in terms of time, different ages and different situations require different ways of loving. Be intimate when you should be intimate, and withdraw when you should withdraw. In terms of distance, if they are too far, they will be alienated from each other, if they are too close, they will invade each other. If they are neither far nor close, they will still have a sense of boundaries when they love him. The degree cannot be too much, otherwise it will be doting. It cannot be too little, otherwise there will be a lack of love. Love must be \”just right\”. No teacher can teach us the scale and propriety here. We have to grasp and measure it ourselves. I always believe that it is extremely necessary to show children real life. My parents’ life is full of hardships, so they don’tIt’s time to whitewash peace, and it’s time to let children understand how difficult life is. In life, if you hit someone, they will definitely hit you back. So at home, don’t indulge your children in a self-centered way. Since the world does not revolve around anyone, families should not revolve around their children.