A child is a mirror that can restore your appearance

It is said that parents are their children’s best teachers. The accumulation of their words and deeds in daily life will have a subtle impact on their children. In turn, when we see how a child treats himself and others, and how he faces some problems , and then deal with the problem, you can often see the shadow of the parents behind him. When you are worried or even crazy about some problems in your child, you don’t have to look for solutions everywhere. If you look at yourself carefully in the mirror of your child, you will find that the root of many problems is in the mirror. If a child likes to criticize others, it is because we criticize him too much. If a child likes to complain about everything, it is because we always find fault with him. If a child likes confrontation, it is because we are hostile and coercive to him. If children are not kind enough, it is because we lack compassion. If a child is timid and shy, it is because he is often teased and insulted. If children don\’t tell us what\’s on their mind, it\’s because we always like to rehash old scores. If children cannot tell right from wrong, it is because we are authoritarian and do not give children the opportunity to be autonomous and think. If a child has low self-esteem, it is because we are always disappointed with the child and cannot patiently encourage him. If a child is jealous, sensitive, and afraid of getting hurt, it is because our family does not have tolerance and warmth. If a child doesn’t like himself, it’s because we lack acceptance, recognition and respect for him. If a child doesn\’t make progress and doesn\’t work hard, it\’s because we ask too much of him and he can\’t do it. If a child is selfish, it is because we dote on him too much and give him whatever he wants. If a child doesn’t understand his parents’ hard work, it’s because we haven’t taught him to understand others. If a child shrinks and escapes, it is because he has been despised and beaten by us. If children are lazy and dependent, it’s because we do too many things and decisions for them. Children are a mirror of their parents. If you want to change the things about your child that make you feel dissatisfied, first look back and see if you have such characteristics and habits in yourself. The ancients said: Don\’t do to others what you don\’t want others to do to you. In the same way, if you can\’t do it yourself, you have no qualifications and reasons to ask others to do it. To change others, start by changing yourself. This is even more true for your own children.