A children\’s book teaches you to understand the behind-the-scenes of children\’s \”naughty\”…

The picture book I would like to recommend to you today is \”Kai Can Do It!\” 》, maybe you can see the shadow of your own children, and you can also see the shadow of yourself. First look at the little boy on the cover. He has band-aids on his face, hands, and legs. Even his stuffed bear is decorated with colors. His top is buttoned wrongly, his socks are not the same color, and he has only one shoelace. Also loosened. Behind the boy is a dirty wall covered with graffiti. If you look carefully, you can see that there are many children\’s names written on the wall: TINA, GINGER, TORY… At first glance, he looks like a naughty child. Maybe you are thinking: This boy looks like It sounds so bad, why is this story called \”Kai Can Do It\”? We might as well walk into this story together with these questions. At the beginning of the story, a smiling Kai ran forward with his little bear under his arm, looking in a good mood. But Kai suddenly fell. His knee was broken, his T-shirt was stained, and one of his trouser legs was torn. Kai cried. Of course the mother would comfort him, but the next thing the mother would say: \”Can\’t you be more careful?\” (Think about how often we talk to our children like this?) Kai didn\’t understand why he fell, and it wasn\’t just once or twice. . Every time, when Kai wanted to run somewhere quickly, something like this would happen – a small stone would suddenly appear on the flat road, sometimes it might be a step. Of course, Kai fell. Next, the camera switches to the dining table. Kai reached for the jam bottle, but unexpectedly this ordinary action went wrong: the hot chocolate in the cup spilled, and the jam bottle broke to the ground. The mother still does not appear on the screen, but her voice cuts into the picture high-pitched: \”Can\’t you be more careful?\” The blank mother\’s image leaves ample space for the children\’s imagination. But Kai really didn\’t mean it, and he felt helpless about all this, because \”the cup and the bear will jump up as fast as lightning, and no one can catch the jumped cup so quickly.\” (Children are often in reality. And in fantasy, maybe they really didn\’t mean to cause trouble.) In the following stories, Kai had various problems and bad situations under different circumstances. For example, I can\’t put on my coat… In winter, I finally put on layers of clothes, but suddenly I want to go to the toilet… Kai likes picture books very much. In his eyes, picture books are more fun than toys, but \” When I was reading the middle of the story, the book seemed to suddenly run away, and of course Kai had to catch it.\” As a result, the book was torn. This time, the mother did not blame Kai directly, but said to the father: \”This child is really worrying! Why is our child so stupid?\” Although the father did not appear, we can be sure that he was not on Kai\’s side. , because, next, Kai\’s confidence in himself almost hit rock bottom: \”I\’m too stupid. I always do the wrong things. My mother says I\’m annoying.\” However, on this terrible night, a miracle happened. That night, a big gray cat appeared and said to Kai: \”You are you! You have to believe that you can do it!\” Of course, such a simple sentence of encouragement had no effect on Kai who had lost confidence.How useful. Then, things slowly changed. A girl, Sarah, was called a fool by a boy named Gregor. Sarah told Kai. After hearing about it, Kai taught Gregor a lesson for Sarah: \”You stupid fool!\” Sarah happily repeated this In one sentence, he said: \”It\’s great, I will never forget it.\” This seemed to be an ordinary thing, but the big gray cat following Kai greatly praised Kai: \”When you quarrel Very smart!\” Then, Kai discovered the caterpillar on the ground. He was afraid that the caterpillar would be trampled into meat patties, so he transported the caterpillar to the bushes. After seeing that the caterpillar was safe, Kai had a relieved smile on his face. \”You were very smart when you saved the caterpillar!\” The big gray cat praised Kai again. Kai returned home and brought cheese and water to the gray cat. The gray cat happily rubbed Kai\’s legs and said, \”You are also very smart when taking care of cats.\” So, that night, a miracle happened and everything was fine. The cup stopped jumping, the picture book was quiet, and there was never so little water splashing in the bathroom. Satisfied with his performance, Kai lay on the bed. He thought: He is very smart when he quarrels, he is very smart when he saves caterpillars, he is also very smart when he takes care of cats, he is actually quite good! When Kai was about to get out of bed, he found that his usually naughty little plaid slippers had made way for him. \”Okay, thank you, that\’s all,\” Kai whispered. ▲▲ ▲After reading this book, my biggest emotion is: behind every \”naughty\” child, there is a kind heart eager to grow, and they need more encouragement from adults. Xiaokai also hopes to do everything well, but life is always playing tricks on him. When walking, he will suddenly trip over a stone; when picking up jam, the cup will jump up and fall to the ground; when wearing clothes, he will button the wrong buttons; when reading a picture book, he will accidentally tear the book… Xiaokai did it on purpose ? When Xiaokai said, \”Suddenly pebbles sprouted on the road,\” \”The cup jumped on its own,\” and \”The picture book seemed to be running away,\” was he lying? No! In fact, as long as we adults squat down, we will find that the world we live in is tailor-made for adults, and it is really inconvenient for children. Moreover, because children\’s physiological systems are not yet fully developed, and sometimes because small muscle groups cannot be controlled freely, they often tear books when turning pages and spill milk when drinking milk. These are normal. At this time, what children need most is comfort and encouragement from others, especially parents. Adults\’ patience, affirmation and comfort will psychologically help children overcome frustration and timidity and build the confidence to try again. Just like Kai\’s big gray cat, just by giving the child a little encouragement, the child can immediately regain confidence and magically do everything! This book reminded me again of John Burningham\’s \”Edward: The Scariest Boy in the World\”. In the eyes of adults, Edward was also a naughty little boy who always made noise and bullied children. Everyone said that he was the scariest boy in the world. But later, when he met people who praised him one after another, he became It\’s getting cuter and cuter. Every child will have small problems of one kind or another during the growth stage, but their bodyThere are always bright spots in the world. The question is whether we keep our eyes open to discover them. The more we worry and scold our children, the stupider and naughtier they will become. I once saw a master say: If parents often worry about their children, their children will not be blessed. If parents want their children to be blessed, they should bless their children more. I hope every parent can become a \”big gray cat\” around their children, and bless and praise your children!