A child\’s cry: Mom and Dad, I beg you to get a divorce…The truth behind it makes people silent

Happy families are all alike, and every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way. ——Leo Tolstoy The Bai Baihe \”cheating\” incident that has been causing trouble for a week finally came to an end a few days ago! First, Chen Yufan posted on Weibo that he and Bai Baihe divorced in 2015, and chose not to make it public in order to raise and protect their children together when they grow up. After that, Bai Baihe, who had been silent for several days, finally appeared and issued a statement, admitting that he was divorced and had not made it public for the sake of his children. The two people had the same view: for the sake of their children and for their children to have a complete family, they did not announce their divorce to the public. Although Bai Baihe and Chen Yufan are celebrities, they are still a pair of parents. In this regard, they are no different from us ordinary people. They are also worried that their children will be discriminated against after divorce; they are worried that their children will have problems if they grow up in an incomplete family… so they would rather bear everything silently than give their children a seemingly complete family. But \”acting\” is just acting after all, and love cannot be acted out. What\’s more, their child, Yuan Bao, has reached elementary school age and is no longer an ignorant little kid. He may have his favorite idol, and he will always pay attention to the trends in the entertainment industry, especially about his parents. Even if he has not read the recent news, there is no guarantee that the gossipy classmates around him will not ask: \”Hey, is it true that your mother cheated? Are your parents really divorced?\” The child heard this from others. What will he think when the news comes? Will he feel that he is the cause of his parents\’ misfortune, and then take all the responsibility on himself? How can a child who has been burdened with too much responsibility and guilt since he was a child be happy? Even if happiness is placed in front of the child, he will push it away and feel that he is not qualified. Divorce is not terrible, but the terrible thing is that Airui is no longer in the marriage. Mom has a cousin who has been unhappy since she was a child. Her parents quarrel every now and then. Her father likes to drink, and when he drinks too much, he will beat her mother and smash things; but her mother never resists, and will only hide in the bathroom silently, crying, and suffer silently. Sometimes the neighbors couldn\’t stand it, and they came over to advise her mother: \”This is what happened, so don\’t just live with it.\” But her mother would only say: \”It\’s all for the sake of the child. The child is so big. He can\’t live without his mother.\” .\” So, my cousin grew up in this kind of loveless family, and her entire childhood was filled with memories of being rough and crying. Later, my cousin grew up and reached marriageable age, but she never fell in love. When relatives and friends around her introduced him to him, she even refused directly and said: \”I don\’t like men, I only like women, please stop introducing me.\” Now her cousin is in her early 40s and still doesn\’t believe in men, just like her Her father doesn\’t believe it either. Don’t they all say that parents’ love for each other is the best education for their children. Living in a loveless family will inevitably lead to problems with children\’s education. Rather than worrying about how to improve academic performance, children may be more worried about whether their parents will quarrel again today. How can children grow up healthily if they live in worry and fear all day long? Children: Please divorce. In fact, the reason why most couples delay divorce is simply because of their children.. Sometimes after two people quarrel, they remain silent for a long time and ignore each other. Even the children notice something is wrong. The adult even says self-righteously: \”There is nothing between us. Children, don\’t worry about adults\’ matters. Just study hard.\” As a result, the child\’s heart You know everything, but the adults are trying to hold on, and the whole family is living in unhappiness, so why bother? I once heard my aunt tell me that the couple in her neighbor\’s house had never been in a good relationship. They quarreled almost every day, and they would get divorced when they quarreled. However, they never succeeded, and they would always tell others: \”I want a divorce.\” If it wasn’t for the sake of my children, I would have left a long time ago.” At that time, their children were already in junior high school and basically understood everything. Once they had enough, they shouted to their parents: “Please leave now! Yes!” Everyone is fine.\” Later, the couple began to calm down and stopped quarreling in front of their children. The children have also reached the age of living in school and only go home on weekends. Every time they go home, the parents are very loving and prepare a table of delicious food for their children, making the family happy. The child really thinks that the parents are finally getting back together. But once, when the child came home for a temporary vacation, he found that his father did not live at home at all. The two had long been separated and only came home on weekends to perform a play for the child. The child who knew the truth immediately jumped from the 8th floor, and finally passed away after resuscitation failed. Yes, divorce will inevitably cause harm to children, but what is more harmful to children is the lack of love in the family! Love is the backbone of a home. Of course, I\’m not advocating that everyone get divorced if they don\’t agree. I hope that every family, if there is really no love anymore, don\’t insist on it. This is really what\’s best for the children. A divorced sister once told me: \”It was only after the divorce that I discovered that I could live a happier life. \”So, for the sake of your children, either keep love at home, or just get together and stay together.\”