A different Children\’s Day gift! Please give it to your children!

Children have huge potential and are responsible for coping with the complex changes in the future world and making the world a better place. As parents, we always hope that we can do our best to let our children eat well, enjoy a happy life, have good qualities, and receive a better education. Therefore, the arrival of a child undoubtedly places an extremely high demand on parents: you must be better people in order to become better caregivers. So what is the best gift for children on Children’s Day? There is no doubt that parents have made the decision and put it into action today: to be better parents who understand children and educate better. This article is compiled based on the book \”Secrets to Make Your Children Talented\”. Children do not have a rebellious period, only parents have a rebellious period. We often say that children are rebellious, but according to my observation, thinking and research, I found that only parents have a rebellious period, but children do not. Why did we reach this conclusion? Let me tell you a story first – we planted a sycamore tree in the house, and soon the sycamore tree grew up and reached the house. What will the house say? The house will definitely say: The tree started to rebel and contradict me! But it is a normal natural law for trees to grow taller and larger. What is abnormal is that the house has not grown at all. Not only does it not provide a larger space for the tree to grow, it is actually the tree\’s fault. The child is rebellious, which means that he is growing, but the parents are not growing, or the growth rate is not enough. I discovered through observation: When a baby is just born, he has no self-awareness and is like a blank piece of paper. Therefore, the child is almost an accessory of his parents. He can do whatever he wants. He is completely under the control of his parents and has no ego. But as the child grows, his understanding of the outside world gradually increases, he begins to absorb a large amount of things from the outside world, gains a lot of insights, and his self-awareness gradually strengthens. At this time, parents do not understand that their children are growing, so they still treat their children with the same attitude as babies, and they still feel that their children are accessories. The child is growing up, but the parents have not. At this time, the child is said to have reached the rebellious stage. So I can guarantee that: \”Children do not have a rebellious period.\” They grow up naturally in today\’s society and reality. Therefore, if parents want to cultivate their children, they must grow up with their children. Why do parents and children have communication barriers? Has anyone ever seen a rabbit communicate with a chicken? Have you ever seen a cow and a sheep communicating? Have you ever seen an elephant communicating with an ant? The actual situation is that elephants communicate with elephants, ants communicate with ants, and elephants cannot communicate with ants. Why? Because they are two different species, communication must be between the same species. China Mobile once had an advertising slogan: \”Communication starts from the heart!\” When we take away this heart and only focus on form and identity, how can we communicate? I am a parent and you are a child. Without equality and respect for the child, the child and the child become two different species. They are not of the same species, so naturally they cannot communicate. So, where did the generation gap come from? It\’s all created by ourselves. We can’t let go of ourselves and always say: Why don’t children change themselves? But I never thought about taking away my identity and becoming the same species as my child. Secondly, if we cannot communicate with our children, it means that we and our children are in two different spiritual worlds. How to solve it? Although parents standIt\’s high, but it\’s not possible to give direct orders to children. You must enter the child\’s world, get involved with him, and then lead him into your own world. Similarly, a boss must enter the spiritual world of his employees in order to lead his employees well, and a teacher must enter the spiritual world of his students in order to teach his students well. Sometimes, children want to attend a concert, watch a basketball game, buy something, where to play… We often deny it because we don’t understand the child’s heart. For example, the child wants to go to Lady Gaga\’s concert, but the parents feel that there is nothing to listen to, it is a waste of money and a delay in learning! This is talking to your children from two worlds. After hearing this, the child\’s heart suddenly shut down. How could he still communicate? In March 2012, I met a mother in Wuhan. She followed the method I told her and flew her daughter to Guangzhou. She spent 1,600 yuan to attend a celebrity concert. As a result, her relationship with her daughter improved unprecedentedly. The relationship between mother and daughter has become harmonious and tacit. Although the mother doesn\’t understand, she wants to see why her child likes it so much. Unexpectedly, by watching the concert with the child, I entered the child\’s inner world and began to truly understand the child. Maybe the child will proudly share with her classmates: \”Have you ever seen XXX\’s concert?\” Regardless of whether the classmates say yes, she will confidently say: \”I saw it, and my mother accompanied me to see it!\” The implication is : \”I have a strong backer!\” Raising children is really not that complicated. We have always lived in our own world, and the children live in his world, so we must find ways to penetrate into the child and enter the child\’s world. Anyone who is opposed to a child is 100% not of the same species, and 100% not in the same world. As long as these two problems are solved, everything will be fine. How can we not communicate? Simply put, the fundamental reason why children are disobedient is that parents have no image and status in their children\’s hearts. Just imagine, if parents have an image and status in their children\’s hearts, can their children be disobedient? A mother once asked her daughter to cut her hair shorter. She told her countless times, but the child refused to listen. As soon as I told her, the child immediately agreed. Why do children listen to what I say? Because the child finds that I can understand her, and secondly, I can respect her. At that time, I said this: \”Can you go and cut your hair shorter?\” But what did her mother say? \”Cut your hair!\” The child was not respected at all. If it were me, I would rebel. I have met many children who changed as long as their parents made a little adjustment. As for the child, when we can really get close to her heart, she will be obedient. At this point, we deeply understand that the fundamental reason why children are disobedient is that parents have no image and status in their children\’s hearts! Teaching by example is better than teaching by words. Children often don\’t look at what their parents are saying. They are simply sensory organs, accepting the information their parents give them without reservation. Why do parents have no place in their children’s hearts? On the other hand, do you think you have cultivated enough? Is virtue enough? Is wisdom enough? Is love enough? Respect others? Everyone is willing to listen to themselvesIf you admire someone, you won\’t want to listen to someone you hate. Therefore, before asking your children to be obedient, you must first establish a convincing image for your children. Every child has great potential and is responsible for the development of the motherland and the future, as well as the mission of making the world a better place. Parents want to cultivate their children into adults and talents. They also need to adapt to the changes and development of the times and grow with their children. The best gift for your children on Children’s Day is to give your “best self”.