A family can raise an angel or create a devil

I used to be a gentle person, but lately I have been driven crazy by naughty children! I think those naughty children who are naughty and mischievous are not called naughty children. Those who are unrepentant and whose parents do not discipline them are the real cheaters! Last weekend, I was taking my baby to play with my family downstairs, and I also encountered a naughty child incident. What happened was this: I was pushing my baby for a walk away from the crowd, and my baby’s grandmother was stretching her limbs on the fitness equipment. Suddenly a ball flew over and hit grandma on the waist. When I turned around, I saw a few boys around 10 years old standing around. In fact, they weren\’t kicking the ball hard, so my grandma didn\’t take it to heart. She picked up the ball and gave it back to the leading boy, saying with love. He said, \”It\’s okay, kids, kick the ball slower and don\’t hit others.\” Grandma continued to exercise in the same posture. Not two minutes later, the ball flew over again, this time it was directly aimed at grandma\’s face. Grandma\’s face swelled up instantly, and the red half of her face was very eye-catching. Several little boys were dumbfounded for a moment, and after chattering for a while, the leading little boy came to grandma again: \”I\’m sorry, grandma, can you return the ball to us?\” Grandma was a little depressed this time, and said, \”Kids, I can\’t see it. Like if you can kick the ball, let whoever can kick it come to me and get it.\” The child lowered his head and went back. There was a little boy among the children who caught my attention. He raised his chin high, frowned, and looked arrogant. He should be the \”perpetrator\”. Sure enough, he walked over almost sideways (yes, sideways! Very arrogant) and said to grandma: \”Give me the ball.\” Grandma has been engaged in education for many years and has seen many naughty children. Seeing this kind of scene, grandma said nothing and waited for the children to apologize. The \”culprit\” became impatient: \”Give the ball back to me quickly.\” Grandma couldn\’t hold it in anymore: \”I noticed that you kicked the ball this way twice. Behind me is a residential building. There is a small square over there for kicking. You kicked me both times. Yes. Shouldn\’t you apologize to me?\” The child was still saying, \”Give me the ball quickly, I didn\’t mean it!\” with a look of impatience and resentment. Just as the grandma and the naughty child were in a stalemate, a middle-aged woman who looked very resentful came over. I guess she was probably the child\’s mother. \”Hey, I said, isn\’t it just a child? I told you it wasn\’t intentional. You are so old, how can you be as knowledgeable as a child? Don\’t be so disrespectful!\” The mother here said, the child The other side raised his head proudly, and the tone of mother and son was exactly the same. \”You are his mother, I don\’t mean anything else. The child kicked me twice when he kicked the ball. You can see that my face is swollen. My face is not a big deal. The most important thing is for the child to recognize his mistakes. I want I\’m sorry.\” Grandma said word by word, not giving up at all because of this mother\’s coming forward. When the mother of the \”culprit\” saw that she had met someone who accepted death, she also knew that it was impossible to get away with it. She was asking for trouble and said to her child: \”Why don\’t we play football? Let\’s go home!\” This mother just said He took the child away in public. Throughout the whole process, the naughty mother didn’t say a word of embarrassment or apology.No apology at all. The \”unity\” words and deeds of the mother and son surprised me who was watching from the sidelines. Things seemed to have changed after I returned home, but the confident expressions of mother and son are still fresh in my memory. A dragon begets a dragon, a phoenix begets a phoenix, and the son of a mouse can make holes. In addition to genetics, the more important reason is that the first-hand material the child obtains from his parents determines the child\’s appearance. A family can cultivate an angel or create a demon, and the demons in most naughty children are evoked by their parents. This also reminds me of a popular article I read not long ago \”How terrible is the evil of children?\” , a naughty kid threw hot pot soup at the girl sitting next to him. Half of the girl’s face was severely burned, and her lovely face was completely disfigured. I felt cold all over after reading it. I wonder how you feel? To be honest, at a certain moment, I really wanted to push this naughty kid and his bear parents into the hot pot soup… This kind of incident is by no means a single case. In the elevator scare a few years ago, a little boy threw a The little girl was beaten to death. There are also naughty children who put firecrackers in other people\’s cars and caused explosions, and some naughty children even chopped up their own family members… Of course, there are also some ways to relieve anger. For example, a parent took his naughty child to watch a movie and was very noisy and was slapped by the audience. Netizens expressed their anger. Said: \”Although it is wrong to hit people, you did a good job!\” Another netizen revealed that he was working as a waiter in a restaurant, and the naughty child kept harassing him, so he helped the child order a bunch of food, and the naughty child\’s father Mom’s face turned green when she paid the bill! But the vast majority of people are extremely tolerant and tolerant of children. As long as the behavior is not extremely excessive, every adult is willing to give children a chance to grow. The naughty children are not scary, but the scary ones are the bear parents who are still justified in making mistakes! But how could the child who was supposed to be the most innocent and beautiful child end up with such a terrifying face and behavior? When children are young, they don’t know what they can and cannot do; secondly, when their parents support them, they become even more daring. It\’s just a small fight, but you can harm others without any bottom line. How can you be so confident! The most important reason is that behind problematic children there are problematic parents. Standing behind the naughty child is the bear parent who is even worse. \”Isn\’t he just a child?\” \”What do children know? Don\’t take it seriously.\” \”Don\’t be like a child.\” \”Who doesn\’t have a child?\” \”What a big deal.\” \”Can\’t you understand?\” Then the child All their behaviors are laughed off without any bottom line or principle: beating and scolding people is cute, torturing small animals is talent, cheating and kidnapping is trivial… Have the three views of these bear parents been fed to dogs? You pamper, you indulge, you spoil, that is your family matter, but outside, no one will tolerate your child unconditionally. There are as many bear parents as there are naughty children. As parents, if you don’t educate your children, others will naturally educate them for you. Being slapped, scolded, beaten… and even more serious consequences are all due to the parents\’ failure to educate their children. 1. The first sin of raising a naughty child. Teach by words and deeds. Parents who have failed say that parents are their children’s first teachers and their influence on their children.The most important thing is through children\’s imitation of their parents\’ behavior and speech, especially for children aged 0 to 6 years old. Many parents continue to have bad habits and are an upgraded version of walking naughty children. Naturally, their children cannot learn excellent qualities and good habits because they are constantly exposed to them. You can often see a scene like this: beating a child and saying, \”You actually hit someone! Don\’t hit me!\” scolding the child, saying, \”Who taught you to curse? Don\’t curse.\” Losing your temper, saying: \”You have such a bad temper! Don\’t lose your temper!\” How can such a child learn to be gentle, courteous, and tolerant? Seeing his parents swearing and being vulgar every day, he thought this was what the whole world was like. In the eyes of children, vulgarity and arrogance are the only ways to behave. How can there be rich children in barren soil? 2. The second sin of raising a naughty child is pampering and indulgence, cultivating a breeding ground for incorrect views. If a 3-year-old child does not know right from wrong, and when the child is older and has the ability to distinguish, the parents do not have any rules to restrict them, but instead unconditionally satisfy everything the child has. Unreasonable demands. Blindly praising, affirming, or even acquiescing to a child\’s behavior will give the child the illusion that \”whatever I do is right.\” Even if it hurts others, it still feels like it\’s no big deal. During this period, the naughty child\’s outlook on life has been completely distorted, and parents may still be complacent in the illusion that \”the child is young and immature, and it\’s okay to be naughty occasionally.\” Many parents don\’t think there is anything wrong with their children even if they make mistakes. Naughty children are often perfect in the eyes of their parents. When a naughty child hurts others, he could have stopped the loss in time or stopped on the spot, but parents are still condoning and feeding their children\’s bad behavior, which eventually leads to catastrophe. How can you blame others for not pampering your children? If parents can help their children realize their mistakes every time they do something wrong, then these children can learn rules and right and wrong. 3. The third sin of raising naughty children is not making choices and turning a blind eye to the stumbling blocks in their children\’s growth. Some parents don\’t care what kind of books their children read, what kind of programs they watch, and what kind of friends they make. Even the parents themselves don\’t care. Loyal fans of vulgar entertainment, some families can’t find anything with words except mahjong and various instructions. If parents don\’t actively grow up, how can their children take the right path? Those problem children have their roots in the family. Many delinquents who have problems in adolescence are due to the bad family environment since childhood and external temptations, and no one can guide them in time. At least some parents\’ \”inaction\” has deeply ruined their children\’s future. Without bear parents, there would be no bear children. Especially for many parents who hope that their sons will succeed and their daughters will succeed, please save yourself and live your life as a person with capital letters first. If you have incorrect views, your child will not be much better. I am a puddle of mud, but I still hate that iron cannot become steel. If you want to continue to be a bear parent, take your precious bear child and get out of my world!