A father\’s speech at the parent-teacher conference set off hot searches: Every parent has to go through three awakenings

A few days ago, a speech by a \”scumbag father\” from Shandong at a parent-teacher meeting went viral. The father first admitted that his son was a \”scumbag\” who had seriously hindered the class, and apologized to everyone in public. Then, he changed the topic and said very confidently: \”But I still believe that it is entirely possible for him to become a pillar of the country, and I believe that he can have a bright future.\” CCTV recommended over 500 high-scoring excellent documentaries, and the children watched it The pattern explodes. Self-discipline is addicted. Then he detailed the reasons: \”My son has a very strong mentality. His academic performance is so poor, but he can still eat, drink, play and sleep. I am a senior psychological counselor. His mentality Stronger than me, he will embark on the road of society in the future. A person with strong psychology and high emotional intelligence is a very important factor in success.\” Finally, he did not forget to thank the school and teachers for their efforts: \”My son\’s head teacher He is more conscientious, conscientious and responsible. I believe that under the leadership of famous teachers from famous schools, my son’s future will be good!” Dad’s wonderful speech at the parent-teacher meeting won applause from the whole room, and the parents in the audience clapped their hands and praised him! Many netizens commented: \”This father not only has high emotional intelligence, but is also enlightened.\” In fact, when we first became parents, we all had very high expectations for our children. But as our children grow up day by day, we inevitably fall down from the high mountain of expectations. Writer Zheng Yuanjie once said: \”The essence of family education is the growth and self-improvement of parents.\” As a parent, if you want to grow and mature, you must experience these three awakenings. First Awakening: My child will most likely be classified as ordinary. Some time ago, I saw such a video on a hot search. A mother who was a teacher reluctantly showed off her teaching qualification certificate after learning that her son had only scored 18 points in mathematics. The video of more than ten seconds was lonely and silent, but her collapse and despair were deafening. As a teacher, even if you have rich teaching experience, you will have many talents all over the world. In your own home, should you grow bitter melon or bitter melon? Almost all of the 320,000 comments in the comment area resonate deeply with parents. Even if you are a top student in 985 or 211, it will not prevent you from giving birth to a poor student. I can\’t help but think of a picture that has been circulated on the Internet: How many Chinese parents have experienced ruthless disillusionment from \”My child will have a bright future\” to \”My child turns out to be an ordinary person.\” I have seen a set of data showing that only the top 6% of children in the country have the opportunity to pass one of the exams, only 0.79% can read 985, and only 2.41% can read 211. If you want to study at Tsinghua University and Peking University, you must enter the top 0.03 in the country. %. Therefore, every parent must recognize one fact: there are very few children who will be able to reach the top of the pyramid and shine brightly in the future. There is a high probability that your child will be an extremely ordinary person. A 14-year-old boy in Liaoning is in the third grade of junior high school. His parents worry when his grades are mentioned. Whenever he was asked to do homework, he was always reluctant and would fall asleep directly on the table after studying for a while. If this continues, the child may not even be able to pass high school. So, his father took him to work in a hot factory, hoping to encourage him to study hard.Unexpectedly, the child was very good at working in the factory. He could learn complicated instruments as soon as he was taught, and he was proficient in all aspects of the factory work. Seeing her son working skillfully and optimistically in the factory every day, the mother beside him had mixed feelings. She finally chose to reconcile with herself: \”Although studying is the shortest way to success, children are not that good, and there is no way to force it. If children have skills, they will not be far behind in the future.\” Every child Have your own road, even if it is not the Avenue of Stars but a country road, there will still be different scenery along the road. If you know that your child\’s qualifications are average, but you try to trick him or her, it will only increase the child\’s pressure, increase your frustration, and make the child give up on himself. Accepting that children will eventually be ordinary and treating them with a normal heart is the first awakening that parents must experience. The Second Awakening: No matter what the outcome is, we must work hard with our children. After years of unrealistic expectations being ruthlessly shattered, many parents feel desperate and simply give up. However, after experiencing heartache and tossing and turning, most strong old mothers will still choose to grit their teeth and reconcile with themselves: \”Although my children are a bit ordinary, they are not children who cannot be taught.\” Then, they will use everything they have. Resources, time, energy, find ways to support children and seek a better future for them. A video of Ding Yanqing, a doctoral supervisor at Peking University, complaining that his daughter is a scumbag has gone viral. In the video, he scratched his head and sighed: Too far! This is the way of heaven, you have no choice but to accept it; what will happen if you don’t accept it? That\’s all she is. However, complaints are complaints, and Professor Ding never gave up cultivating his daughter. His daughter ranked last. In order to prevent her from falling behind, Professor Ding decided to start a guided learning method. He insists on taking his daughter to school by bike every day, and patiently explains mathematics to her every day during a one-hour visit. Every night, he would read a book with his daughter. If her daughter liked animal books, he would expand his knowledge of zoology to other fields. Slowly, my daughter\’s math scores gradually improved, and she became interested in reading. Never give up on that bad kid, even if he is at the bottom of the class. You have to believe that every child is a seed, but the flowering time is different. Some flowers bloom brilliantly from the beginning, while others are unknown from the beginning and require a long wait. Don\’t look at other people\’s flowers in full bloom and get anxious and give up before your own flowers bloom. Maybe your seed will never bloom because it is a towering tree. I read a story: There was a girl named Gia who studied very hard. She never deserts during class and completes her homework seriously after class. She usually isolates herself from all entertainment activities and devotes herself to studying. But even with such hard work, Gia\’s grades never ranked among the top 10 in the class. At first, her parents were worried about her grades. Later, they realized that their daughter\’s talent might not lie in learning, so they began to tap their child\’s potential in many ways: taking her on outdoor adventures, going to nature to observe animals and plants, or taking her to participate in various social practices. Gradually, they discovered that their daughter was very sensitive to numbers and liked doing business, so they gave her a lot of money.Encouragement and support. In the end, although Gia was not admitted to a prestigious university, she became an outstanding female entrepreneur. Every baby comes into this world with its own genetic code. The mission of a parent is to stand firmly by the child\’s side, to accompany him as much as possible, to support him, to stimulate his potential, to explore his talents, and to make his life without regrets. No matter what the outcome is, we must work hard with our children in a down-to-earth manner. This is the second awakening of being a parent. The Third Awakening: Chicken babies are not as good as chickens themselves. The only way to use your energy is to use it on yourself. There is such a hot post on Zhihu: The owner of the post is a mother with a Ph.D. who graduated from Peking University School of Medicine. She and her husband, who is the R&D director of a pharmaceutical company, have a master\’s degree. , raised a real \”scumbag\”. My son has been ranked at the bottom since the first grade. Now he is in junior high school, where he is almost 40/48 in the class and 600/680 in the grade. Based on this ranking, it is difficult to get into the general high school. After discovering that her child was a bad student at first, this Peking University mother was particularly anxious. She applied for various classes and had a baby, but her grades did not improve, and her family often quarreled over it. Later, she simply gave up the traditional \”chicken baby\” tactic and chose to change her strategy: 1. The chicken baby is not as good as the chicken itself. She forced herself to switch tracks, from dawdling around every day to becoming 007, starting a side business, and even earning more from the side business than her main business. 2. Prepare a house for him. After all, the boy is in Shanghai. In the future, even if he learns to be a barber or works as a pastry chef, he will be able to make a living. 3. Through various information collection and research, I found 9 channels suitable for Puwa for the boss. In other words, she did not give up, but looked for the best solution for her son among the various options within his capabilities. This \”hardcore\” mom\’s routine may not be suitable for all ordinary parents. However, this also illustrates the point that no matter what the child is like, parents cannot give up on themselves. After all, Chicken Baby is a gamble, and the cost, effect, and success rate are all uncontrollable. But if you work hard to invest in yourself and make yourself better, you will definitely make money without losing money. What\’s more, parents are a mirror to their children. If parents are motivated and self-disciplined, their children will definitely do well in the future. Some netizens asked Zheng Yuanjie: \”How do you train your daughter to become a top student?\” He responded humorously: \”First learn from your father and then become a top student.\” He never told his children \”You have to work hard\”, but \”Chicken\” I told myself, \”Zheng Yuanjie, you have to work hard.\” A teacher shared a story about a child in his class. This child was in the second grade of junior high school, and his grades in Chinese and science were a mess. His father was at a loss and had to ask the teacher what to do. The teacher replied: \”You should spend more time with your children and study with them.\” The father immediately took action and studied with his son in the study room next to the school every weekend. The father studied construction engineering textbooks, and the son studied classics. A year later, his son’s Chinese scores improved, and his father passed the second-level construction test. Later, the boy\’s grades steadily improved and he was admitted to the city\’s key high school. The father also successfully obtained the first-class construction engineer certificate. Host Yang Lan said: Don’t put all your efforts into your children. If you are fulfilled, happy, responsible, and have the ability to manage emotions, your children will imitate you. This is the third awakening of being a parent: cultivating oneself persistently, and then lead the children to grow together. Shafali Sabari said in \”The Awakening of the Family\”: \”When each of us first becomes a father or mother, we are full of longings for the future. To a large extent, these longings are empty. Fantasy. However, we must realize that we are not cultivating a \’mini version\’ of ourselves, but shaping a soul with independent characteristics.\” Strongly agree. Parenting is the process of falling from the top of the mountain and rebuilding oneself. I hope every parent can wake up as soon as possible on the road to parenting – break away from excessive expectations, explore the true self of their children, and work hard to cultivate themselves. Even if they fall into the valley of despair temporarily, they can still be guided by love and hope to clear the fog and return to the top of the mountain.