A filial child likes to talk about three things since he was a child, and every one of them is a blessing to his parents.

Unintentionally, I saw two videos on the Internet. Comparing the before and after made people feel emotional and have mixed feelings. The first video is of a little girl about 10 years old asking for a Barbie doll from her mother in the supermarket, but her mother refused on the grounds that \”there are several dolls at home.\” As a result, the little girl not only acted and cried in full view of the public, but also bit and scratched her mother, causing the scene to fall into chaos… The second video was about a 9-year-old boy taking care of a patient who was paralyzed in bed due to illness. Dad\’s story. The boy\’s mother left due to an accident. Since then, the responsibility of taking care of his father and the survival of the father and son have fallen on the little boy. But this 9-year-old child did not complain. In order to make ends meet, he would pick up some bottles or cardboard and sell them on his way to and from school. When he got home, he had to wash and cook, feed his father, and scrub himself. . In the video, the boy skillfully brushes his father\’s teeth and washes his face, which looks extremely heart-wrenching and sad. But when being interviewed by a reporter, I was asked whether it was tiring to go to school and take care of my father every day. This child\’s answer really made many of us adults feel ashamed. He said: \”It\’s not tiring. This is how my parents took care of their grandparents at that time.\” After watching these two videos, I can’t let go for a long time. They are almost the same age, but their behaviors are completely different. The little girl came from a well-off family, but she got into a fight with her mother in the supermarket because of a doll. And another little boy, although obviously poor and in trouble, is kind and sensible, which also allows us to see the \”filial piety\” he inherited from his parents. The ancients said: A filial husband is the crown of all actions and the beginning of good deeds. From ancient times to the present, filial piety has been one of the important criteria for measuring a person\’s morality and character. As parents, we may not expect our children to achieve much in the future, nor do we care how much we spend on our children. But I am only afraid of myself and raising an unfilial child. In fact, as the old saying goes, a child is older when he is three years old and older when he is seven years old. Whether a child is filial or not can be seen from an early age. Under normal circumstances, filial children like to talk about three sentences. See if your children are like this. Having one is a blessing for parents. Which three sentences are they? Let’s find out together next. 01 First sentence: Dad/Mom, thank you. There is a popular question on the Internet: What kind of children are likely to be more filial when they grow up? A highly praised answer below is: Children who can say thank you to their parents must not be too bad. In daily life, thank you is a very common social expression, but the problem is that not many children use these two words with their parents. The reason is actually very simple. When most children grow up, most parents will take over everything for their children, leaving their children in an environment where thousands of pamperings gather together. Over time, it will mislead children and make them feel that their parents\’ dedication to them is \”natural\”. Therefore, the word \”thank you\” is out of the question. Why are these three words \”thank you\” so important? In fact, behind these three words, there is a very important core, which is \”parents\’ efforts.\”\”, being \”grateful\” and \”seen\” by the children. As someone said: The most important thing for whether an intimate relationship can maintain a stable continuation is that each other is \”seen\”. The same is true for parent-child issues. Generally speaking, after seeing the contributions of parents and what they have done for themselves, children can say the word \”thank you\” in a timely manner. This actually shows that the children can not only see all this, but also have a positive attitude towards their parents. With a \”grateful\” mentality, these children often have a strong ability to think from others\’ perspective. They don\’t take everything for granted, and they can feel the hardships faced by their parents. In this case, how can they be unfilial? ? 02 The second sentence: My father/mother is very powerful… As a parent, whenever you hear your children regard themselves as \”idols\” and \”supermen\”, you will feel a sense of déjà vu. As children, when we say \”my dad/mom are great\”, it actually sends a very important signal to us: I am very satisfied with this family and my parents, and I am very satisfied with this family and my parents. I am very satisfied and lucky to be born here. This is a kind of recognition and affirmation. Of course, only behind \”recognition\” and \”affirmation\” can the harmonious development and management of parent-child relationships be ensured. They start to talk more and more apart from each other, even if they say a few words, they start to be tit-for-tat. In fact, it is because they feel that they have \”grown up\” and start to be \”picky\” about their parents, but behind the scenes, they are dissatisfied. Generally speaking, children who often praise and recognize their parents in front of others tend to have a grateful heart. In other words, they are very filial and sensible, just like Pang Zhongwang, a Ph.D. student at Tsinghua University. At that time, he was admitted to Tsinghua University with a score of 744, which caused a sensation. However, when it comes to his family situation, it makes people extremely sad. His father suffers from mental illness, his mother is in a wheelchair all year round, and the family is so poor that they don’t even have a desk. There were two empty beds. Although his family was poor and his parents were in poor health, Pang Zhongwang did his best to study. In order to pay for his children\’s tuition, Pang Zhongwang\’s mother borrowed money from everywhere. Pang Zhongwang truly lived up to expectations and was admitted to a well-known university. After becoming popular on the Internet, he did not forget this heavy love. In an interview, he said bluntly: I have never felt that there is anything about my family that I can\’t do anything about. , my mother is so kind and powerful, I don’t think they embarrass me, on the contrary, I think others should envy me. Yes, children who know how to be grateful often see the perseverance and dedication of their parents, which is also true. Because of this, they have more ability to perceive happiness. 03 The third sentence: Dad/Mom, let me tell you, today… As a parent, if you want to judge whether your child is filial, the most important thing is to look at it. Has the child established a stable and harmonious parent-child relationship? Normally, if the parent-child relationship is very harmonious, the child will behave like a \”little doll\” no matter how old it is. Trust your parents, like only dadWhen your parents are around, you will feel very relaxed and at ease. For example, you will be like a \”little chatterbox\” who is willing to share your knowledge with your parents. Just like I had a college roommate before, no matter what interesting things he saw every day, he would call his parents at night to share it. At first, I thought he might be a \”mom\’s boy\”. Later, one time I couldn\’t hold it back anymore and asked him, don\’t you think it\’s troublesome for you to call your parents every day? As a result, he told me: My parents have never gone to college in their lives. If I share what I saw with them, they will be very happy. More importantly, if I call them every day, they will not treat me the same way. So uneasy… When I heard what he said, I suddenly fell into a kind of \”self-consciousness\”. It also made me understand that sharing my knowledge and current situation with my parents is actually a kind of deep \”love\” and \”gratitude\”. Just think about it, if a child leaves the house, he won’t get a call for ten days and a half, and he won’t remember his parents’ birthdays at all. Do you still think that such a child will be \”filial\”? Therefore, true filial piety is sometimes a desire to share. This kind of timely communication and feedback with parents is often not only a good expression of love, but also the most effective way to maintain the parent-child relationship. In fact, many times, as parents, we do not expect our children to achieve much in the future, but we are worried that as we get older, our children will talk to us less and less. So, if your child often talks about the three sentences above, congratulations, you will live a very happy life even in your old age. Finally, we hope that each of our parents can set a positive role model for our children. Only in this way can our children learn to be filial and grateful from us. Everyone said that, right?