A great mother is worth all the great education

Zheng Yuanjie, the king of fairy tales, once said: \”The meaning of mother is influence.\” By looking at a child\’s moral character, you can see the atmosphere of his family and the quality of his parents. I deeply agree. In a family, the person who has the greatest influence on a child is the mother, and the mother\’s influence on the child\’s life is indelible. Especially in China, in most families, mothers bear the main responsibility for educating their children; the mother\’s personality, language, and behavior will always affect the formation of the child\’s outlook on life. Frankly speaking, the mother is the one who decides the life of her child. A mother\’s vision determines the height of her child\’s life. If a mother\’s vision is high, the child will stand on the mother\’s shoulders and look out, with a higher mind and tolerance. If a mother\’s vision is broad, the child will see further than the mother. Children\’s education actually depends on the mother\’s vision and structure. My aunt\’s family has an older sister who was good at studies. However, because the family\’s financial situation was not very good, her aunt always instilled in her children the idea that it is useless for little girls to study so much. It is best to go out to work and make money early. Even though the relatives around her are willing to chip in money to help my sister go to school, my aunt just doesn\’t care about money and always says in front of her sister that it\’s useless for girls to go to school. As time passed, my sister felt that studying was useless. She could have been admitted to college, but her mother\’s ambition delayed her future and she dropped out of school early. A short-sighted mother will not only affect her child\’s height in life, but also determine her child\’s future happiness. I admire a kind of mother who loves her children for the long term, rather than taking it one step at a time. In his autobiography, Hu Shi once mentioned a small incident in his childhood. When he was four years old, Hu Shi\’s father passed away, and his mother was just a country girl. With the decline of his family, Hu Shi\’s life in childhood was naturally tight. But when it came to education, Hu Shi\’s mother was very generous. At that time, a child who went to private school would give the teacher two silver dollars a year as tuition. Other families gave him two silver dollars, but Hu Shi\’s mother insisted on giving more. It turns out that for those who paid two silver dollars, the husband could only read the books. Those obscure ancient texts were like a sacred book to the children, and many children could not learn them. Because he paid a lot of tuition, he always explained the meaning of each sentence to Hu Shi word for word. Hu Shi also pointed out in his article recalling his mother that all his achievements were due to his mother\’s education. Kenneth Ginsburg, a professor at the University of Pennsylvania, once gave a speech in which he asked the question: \”How do you define a child\’s success?\”. Many parents will fall into a misunderstanding: staring at the child in front of them and thinking about what outstanding things they have in life and study. Truly far-sighted parents are accustomed to looking at their children\’s growth from a long-term perspective and preparing for their children\’s future development and success. There is a little story that can arouse the deep thinking of countless parents: a father and son were working in the fields. The son pointed to the plane in the sky and said, I want to fly when I grow up. His father laughed at him, \”Don\’t think about it, you won\’t be able to sit still for the rest of your life.\” How can we succeed if the pattern is constrained? Zeng Guofan said: \”Those who plan for great things, the most important thing is the pattern.\” When dealing with people, the most taboo thing is to be timid and have no big picture in mind. Just take one step at a time.If your vision cannot surpass your steps, you will never achieve anything. Parents\’ vision determines the height of their children\’s life. The mother\’s emotions hide the child\’s character. The mother\’s emotions are extremely important to the child. The mother\’s personality and temper will directly affect the child\’s psychological development. Dr. Montessori once said that every character defect is caused by childhood misfortune. The few years after a child is born are a very critical period for character formation. Your expression, emotion and tone will directly affect your child\’s psychology and performance. If you always talk to your child in a harsh, questioning, and negative tone, he will become fearful, depressed, and have low self-esteem, and will be unwilling to talk to you. If you can lower your volume, speak in a gentle tone, and speak softly to your child, he will become sunny, optimistic, positive, and willing to exchange sincerity with you. An experiment was conducted abroad to study the relationship between mother\’s emotions and children\’s emotions. At the beginning of the experiment, the mother smiled at her child, and the child was very happy; when the mother kept a straight face, the child began to realize that something was wrong; when the child tried to use his own behavior to bring back the mother\’s smiling face, but the mother remained straight-faced. , the child was a little at a loss; finally, the child began to cry loudly. A mother\’s emotions hide her child\’s future. Psychology also believes that any mental illness can be traced back to childhood trauma. A casual word or action from a parent may leave a huge shadow in a child\’s heart, affecting the child\’s psychology and spirit throughout his life. Dr. Montessori wrote in \”The Absorbent Mind\”: The impact on a child in the first 2-3 years of his life may change his life. During this period, if he is affected by injury, violence, or other disorders, his personality will deviate. It can be said that there are no problematic children, only problematic adults. All problems in adults can be traced back to disorders suffered in childhood. Therefore, some words that parents think are irrelevant and careless can have devastating effects on their children. Psychologist Wu Zhihong said: \”Children are the receivers of parents\’ emotions. When parents are uneasy, children will immediately become alert; when parents relax, children will immediately feel happy.\” Parents\’ emotional instability damages the parent-child relationship. The biggest obstacle. Don\’t underestimate your influence on your children. Everything you say and do will become a lever to promote your children\’s lives. A mother\’s cultivation determines her child\’s education. Behind every educated child, there is a cultivated mother. Rousseau said: A person\’s education begins when he is born. He has been educated before he can speak or listen to others. Mother’s words and deeds are of great significance in children’s education. Countless examples tell us: behind educated children stand well-educated parents, and behind naughty children often stand unqualified parents. I saw a story like this online that made me very angry. A woman with her child got on the bus. Upon seeing this, the migrant worker sitting on the seat quickly got up and gave up his seat. It was originally a good thing, but unexpectedly, this middle-aged woman grabbed the child and yelled: \”I don\’t care if you give up your seat, you are full of germs.\” The atmosphere was very embarrassing at that time, and the farmerThe migrant workers got off silently at the next stop. Also riding in the subway, a mother fell asleep in her arms. The mother was afraid that the child would kick someone else or that the child\’s shoes would stain other people\’s clothes, so she kept holding the shoes with her hands. The mother kept doing this until the subway arrived. What kind of family will raise what kind of children. Many times, the words and deeds of parents will subtly affect their children for a lifetime. Parental upbringing is also \”inherited\” to children. Suhomlinsky once said: \”For a family, parents are the roots and children are the flowers. Parents often \”see\” their children\’s problems, but they don\’t know that these are actually their own problems \”flowering\” in their children. Family It is the first and best school for a child, and the cultivation of parents determines the upbringing of the child. Therefore, the mother\’s words and deeds have a great impact on the child\’s growth. It can be said that the mother\’s quality will determine the child\’s life. . And a great mother is worth all the great education. Let’s encourage everyone to be a good mother.