A guide on how to create a healthy, beautiful, warm and happy family life

Family is the first school in life. Family education lays the foundation for healthy growth. Compared with school education and social education, family education has its own special basic rules. The fundamental feature of family education should be life education. One of the essentials of family education guidance should be to lead parents to realize the importance of life education and build a reasonable family life, so as to create an environment for children to grow up healthily. First, parents should be guided to fully understand the uniqueness of family education. Family education has two distinctive features: First, foundation education. The education a child receives from birth to school entry mainly comes from the family, and this period is a critical period for a child\’s growth. Family education lays the foundation for school education. The second is life education. The family is the \”organization\” of life, and living a good life is the goal of family life. Life education is “the education that is original to life, self-supporting for life, and necessary for life” (Tao Xingzhiyu). For example, family shopping activities will have an impact on children\’s consumption outlook, the way family members dress will have an impact on children\’s aesthetics, the way parents treat others will have an impact on children\’s social interactions, and the distribution of housework will have an impact on children\’s labor quality and responsibility. Awareness makes a difference. Second, parents should be guided to realize that the deviation between education and life is an important reason for family education problems. Different families have different lifestyles and habits. Some lifestyles are healthy, and some are unhealthy. Some family lives are moral, and some family lives are immoral. For example, unhealthy lifestyles such as greed for pleasure, excessive consumption, and indolence will definitely have a negative impact on children; conversely, healthy lifestyles such as diligence, thrift, and optimism will definitely have a positive impact on children\’s growth; parents excessively pursue their children\’s academic success. , squeezing children\’s life time and separating the relationship between life and education will also have a negative impact on children\’s growth. Third, parents must truly realize that good family tradition is the source of life education. Family life education is to guide children to learn to behave in a reasonable life, which requires good family tradition as a guarantee. Family tradition needs to be practiced by parents and elders and passed down from generation to generation. The core of it is family values. The inheritance of good family tradition requires attention to three links: First, parents should build a good family tradition that suits the needs of the new era on the basis of absorbing the excellent traditional Chinese family tradition culture. Second, it is very important for parents to lead by example and set an example for future generations with their actions. Third, family traditions should be integrated into daily life, and values ​​should be as ubiquitous as air and have a subtle impact on children. For example, \”harmony\” is not only the core concept of traditional culture, but also one of the core values ​​advocated by today\’s society. How to embody \”harmony\” in the construction of family style? We must strive to achieve empathy, rational expression, goodwill communication, and equal communication in specific family life and in dealing with family members. Children will naturally be inspired by such life practices. Fourth, we need to help parents master the basic rules and methods of designing and creating a better family life. Family education needs to be designed, and it is recommended that parents adhere to one center and two principles. a centerIt is centered on children\’s life growth, and the two principles are \”interesting\” and \”meaningful\”. On the one hand, children’s life cannot be simply replaced by adult life or the life that adults think is correct. As Tao Xingzhi said, “Children’s life is their education, and children must be liberated from the cruelty of adults.” A life centered on children\’s life and growth should meet children\’s needs, conform to children\’s cognitive and emotional patterns, and change with different stages of children\’s development. On the other hand, the design of children\’s life must conform to the principle of unifying \”interesting\” and \”meaningful\”, that is, children\’s life should not only make children like it but also meet the goals of education. To achieve this, we must first pay attention to the diversity and richness of life, secondly respect children\’s autonomy and true wishes, and thirdly handle the relationship between learning and play.