A Harvard study found that children who become more promiscuous as they grow up tend to have three things in common when they were young:

\”A child\’s performance as a child will determine his achievements when he grows up.\” Many people do not agree with this sentence. Because they feel that children are \”undefined\”, not only their physical development is far behind, but their personalities and psychology are not fully developed, so it is difficult to have a deep correlation between a child\’s performance as a child and his or her achievements as an adult. But in fact, a child\’s performance as a child will really affect the child\’s achievements when he grows up. As the old saying goes, \”Three years old makes you look older, seven years old makes you look older.\” This is not a \”superstition\”, but the experience of the older generation. 01 Whether a child does well when he or she grows up is closely related to his or her performance as a child. Professor Casby from the UK conducted a statistical survey on the impact of a child\’s performance as a child on his or her achievement as an adult. The professor randomly selected a thousand children under the age of 7, and recorded the personality characteristics and other information of each child. Then he conducted a follow-up survey of these one thousand children for 20 years. The result was that these people were The personality traits displayed after this year are almost the same as those 20 years ago. In other words, whatever a child was like when they were young, there is a high chance that they will be like that when they grow up. There is also a research result published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences. This study focuses on the impact of a child\’s temperament when they are young on the child when they grow up. It was found that a child\’s temperament performance as a child directly affects the child\’s personality formation when he grows up. To put it simply, it means what kind of behavior a child performs when he is a child will determine what kind of personality he will develop when he grows up. The American Psychological Association has done a similar study. They followed 700 children for 40 years and found that the achievements of children when they grow up are closely related to their childhood personality. They have certain characteristics. Children with special traits are more likely to succeed when they grow up. American psychologist Bloom conducted a study and the results showed that half of a child\’s IQ development is completed before the age of 3. The formation of a child\’s personality is basically finalized almost before the age of 7. In short, the development of children in childhood has basically determined their development in adulthood. Brain science research has found that within 1,000 days after birth, a child\’s brain will develop at an extremely rapid rate. During this period, the child\’s brain will complete 80% of its development and generate a large number of neuronal connections. At this time, if the child forms a certain personality, habit, etc., it will be deeply imprinted in the brain and even affect the child\’s life. In layman\’s terms, factors formed in the early stages of brain development will have a deeper impact on the brain. For example, some people with \”child skills\” will become even better in related fields when they grow up, and this kind of excellence is difficult for people without \”child skills\” to catch up with, and they can only hope to achieve even after dozens of times of effort. And sigh. Therefore, whether a child does well when he grows up has a lot to do with his performance as a child. 02 Harvard research found that people who become more promiscuous when they grow up have three things in common when they were young. Every parent hopes that their children will become more promiscuous when they grow up, so we not only need to know how their children’s performance will be when they are young.Affects your achievements when you grow up. We also need to know what symptoms will make children more and more promiscuous when they grow up, so that we can intervene as early as possible. This allows children to develop these traits in childhood and lay a solid foundation for future development. In this regard, Harvard University once conducted a relevant survey and research on a thousand successful people over the age of 30 and found that these successful people had some characteristics when they were children. ●Characteristic 1: Love reading It must be said that reading has a huge impact on a person. From ancient times to the present, countless celebrities have the habit of reading, such as Einstein, Lu Xun, Su Shi, Qu Yuan, Su Qin, Gorky and so on. In modern times, famous entrepreneurs also have the habit of reading, such as Jack Ma, Dong Mingzhu, Li Ka-shing, Lei Jun, etc. They all flock to books. Li Ka-shing even joked that his reading was \”grabbing for knowledge,\” which fully demonstrated Li Ka-shing\’s desire for reading. It can be seen that reading is really important to a person\’s success. And it is worth everyone\’s attention that the habit of reading books among these celebrities was not acquired after they became successful, but the habit of reading was established when they were young. Therefore, if parents want their children to be more promiscuous when they grow up, they need to help their children develop the habit of reading and guide them to fall in love with reading. ●Characteristic 2: Things will come, things will come. On the surface, it seems that a person has a \”eye\” and can handle various affairs. In fact, this is a manifestation of super adaptability. People who are good at trouble often have strong adaptability in various environments, can quickly integrate into different environments, and are also very receptive to various order rules. Moreover, they are not only highly adaptable, but also have strong learning ability and logic, and their emotional intelligence and reverse intelligence are not weak either. Therefore, if you want your children to get better and better in the future, you need to make your children \”clever\” when they are young, and pay attention to cultivating your children\’s reverse intelligence and emotional intelligence. ●Characteristic 3: People who know self-discipline are really scary, because they can stick to anything to the end and can better implement their plans to achieve the expected goals. In layman\’s terms, they can basically develop to the extent they want to develop, and this trait is an important factor in a person\’s success. Therefore, parents should cultivate their children\’s self-discipline ability at an early age, so that their children can achieve better self-improvement effects and become better and better. 03How should parents maintain and cultivate these three characteristics of their children? 1) Cultivating children\’s reading habits is not a good reading habit of forcing children to read. It is a child\’s desire to read from the heart, and it is not a passive reading in a negative state. Because only by taking the initiative to read and being full of enthusiasm while reading can children get enough benefits from it. Therefore, when we cultivate children\’s reading habits, we must adopt the correct method and use guidance to let children read, instead of watching children read like supervising prisoners. When children are very young, we start by telling stories and chatting to make them fall in love with stories. For example, we often talk to children, tell them short stories, etc. When the child grows up a littleAfter a while, we can tell stories to children with picture books. When children read, we must pay attention to using the \”point reading\” method to let children know what we are reading, thereby stimulating children\’s interest in words. Arouse children\’s initial desire to read. When the children are older, we can let them read picture books by themselves. When children start to learn pinyin and Chinese characters, they can be exposed to picture books and gradually transform into text books. During the entire habit-building process, parents must create a quiet and suitable reading environment for their children, and try to ensure that their children\’s reading will not be interrupted by external factors, so that their children\’s reading habits will be formed faster. 2) If you want your children to be able to do things well, you must set an example for them. Parents are role models for their children, and children cannot understand social adaptability by just \”explaining\” them. Parents need to set an example for their children. Visual demonstration. For example, when parents are communicating with others, it is best to bring their children with them so that they can experience the communication environment between people and master communication skills. For example, when parents take their children to a relatively unfamiliar environment, they must clearly demonstrate the order we should abide by in different environments, just like we can wear swimming trunks in a swimming pool. But you cannot wear swimming trunks when shopping on the street. Let your children know that different places have different order rules. Finally, parents also need to actively cultivate their children\’s emotional management abilities, such as buying some picture books about emotional management for their children, or parents can demonstrate to their children different ways of handling different emotions, thereby improving their children\’s emotional intelligence, etc. At the same time, we must pay attention to the fact that parents\’ daily emotional control ability will also affect the development of their children\’s emotional intelligence, so parents must not show emotional control in front of their children. 3) Cultivating self-discipline does not mean suppressing children\’s nature. Many parents have misunderstandings about their children\’s self-discipline. For example, some children are not focused on homework, and they can finish a 10-minute homework intermittently for two hours. Parents tell their children that if they fail to finish the task within 10 minutes, they will be punished by being beaten or scolded, forcing the children to finish the task within 10 minutes. Later, the parents found that their children could finish their homework in 10 minutes every time. Regarding this situation, many parents think that their children\’s behavior is \”self-discipline\”. But in fact, the child\’s nature is temporarily suppressed. If this happens for a long time, the child will become extremely tired of learning and even world-weary, which is detrimental to the parent-child relationship, family harmony, child development and even personal safety. Therefore, to cultivate children\’s self-discipline, we need to start with the guidance of scientific methods and interests. We must use more \”incentives\” rather than \”coercion\” for children. For example, let the children know that after finishing their homework early, they can have fun playing with Xiaobai, etc., so that the children can actively control their own behavior because of positive factors, instead of passively suppressing their nature because of negative factors. 04 Written at the end Many parents feel that \”children don\’t understand anything\”, so they do not train their children in childhood, resulting in delays in their growth. After realizing the fact that children \”look down upon their elders\”, I hope parents can pay attention to it and educate their children when they are young.Cultivate these qualities in your children when they are young, so that when they grow up, they can get better and better and become better and better.