A mother and her son were secretly photographed and slapped in the face numerous times. How do parents educate their children?

This is the most sensible, well-behaved and warm-hearted child I have ever seen! The viral 30-second \”Self-Service Parenting for Post-90s\” video has made countless mothers scream with envy: They want to have the same doll! This doll is still old enough to wear diapers. How sensible is he? How well-behaved? How heartwarming is that? Before going to bed, I read picture books to my mother and carefully coaxed her to sleep. My mother was sleepy and consciously ran to turn off the light. After my mother lay down, I carefully covered my mother with the quilt and continued to coax her to sleep. After my mother fell asleep, the baby remembered that the phone was not charged, so she immediately charged it. Electricity, continue to lie down next to your mother obediently, and hold her mother to sleep as someone else\’s baby! That\’s right, the cute diapered baby turns into a \”parent\” and takes care of her mother, the \”little baby\”. A proper little warm man is really enviable, worry-free and comfortable. Looking back, for those children who were spoiled by their parents, the parents always had a mantra: \”The children are still young and don\’t understand anything.\” As a result, the children were either causing trouble or on the verge of getting into trouble. This child also really slaps many bear parents in the face for their laziness in education. A sentence from the CCTV documentary \”Mirror\”: Every child is born with a blank sheet of paper, and the parents are the painters. The key to what the blank paper becomes depends on the parents. If we must say that raising children requires a \”standard\”, then children should be raised in this direction. This is not to shirk the responsibility of parents to take care of their children. On the contrary, it is a test and test for parents. As parents, no parent does not want their children to be well-behaved, sensible, and smart. However, many parents fall into a misunderstanding during the parenting process. I have seen similar scenes many times: a child wants to eat ice cream or buy a toy, but the parent refuses and starts crying. At this time, the parent is very impatient and threatens the child to stop crying if he continues! When the child heard this, he was too frightened to ask for anything more. He just asked not to abandon him. The parent showed a very pleased expression: This way he is obedient and good! This is a misunderstanding. You use your identity as a parent to intimidate and coerce your children to achieve your own goals, and you are also complacent in thinking that the child is behaving well and sensible at the moment. It\’s really wrong. This is not being smart and sensible, this is compromising out of fear! To be truly well-behaved and sensible, a child should be willing to do so from the bottom of his heart. Just like in \”Post-90s Self-Service Parenting\”, the baby takes care of his mother independently and enjoys the process. There is no necessary standard for raising children. There is only one standard, and that is what kind of person you want your child to become. If you want your children to develop in a better direction, whether it is character, personality, or habits, we must face up to some wrong education methods and consciously change them. 1. Change your habit of being irritable and losing your temper. If your parents have bad tempers, in this environment, your children will become ingratiating, inferior, sensitive, insecure, and even rebellious, irritable, and prone to extremes. Children are the first to pay for parents’ bad emotions. We should recognize our own emotions, not bring negative emotions to our children, learn to respect our children, and maintain good parent-child communication. 2. Level up your identity as a parent, reduce your authoritarian behavior, always be aloof, and be satisfied with your children.Controlling parents will only raise two kinds of children. One is a submissive child who never dares to express his or her thoughts; the other is a child who is always rebellious and always goes against the grain. No matter which one they are, they all have one thing in common, that is, even when they are the most helpless and frightened, they would rather ask strangers for help than dare to ask their parents for help. Isn\’t this a kind of sadness? 3. Pay attention to your commitment to your children and don’t write “blank checks”. The younger your children are, the more they will unconditionally trust their parents. If you just make a casual promise and have no intention of honoring it afterwards, your child will gradually lose trust in you and develop a habit of lying, which may even affect your parent-child relationship. As parents, we should not make promises to our children easily. If we make a promise, we must keep it, lead by example, and tell our children what a promise means. We have always said that when raising children, educate yourself first. No matter how much education and truth is provided, it is actually based on the fact that we must first adjust ourselves before we can play the greatest role in our children. Love is a two-way street, and so is education. We convey our attitude, and the children’s feedback is the most real result. In addition to keeping a clear and calm mind, we also need to cultivate empathy in our children, which is the only way for babies with high emotional intelligence. What is empathy? To put it simply, it means being able to think from someone else’s perspective and empathize with others. Such a person makes people feel comfortable and at ease when getting along with them, and is very popular and loved. How to cultivate empathy in children? 1. Teach children to identify and deal with their own emotions. Our emotions include \”happiness\”, \”sadness\”, \”grievance\”, \”distress\” and \”pain\”… When children have these emotions, we can \”name\” them and tell them about this moment. What is his feeling? Or use emotional masks to improve your child\’s emotional perception. In addition, it is also very important to teach children how to deal with emotions, otherwise they will not be in the mood to pay attention to others. Stomping your feet, beating pillows, air punching, throwing balls, playing with water… These can all be used as ways to vent bad emotions, and they can be done immediately. 2. Perceive the emotions of others. On the basis of perceiving our own emotions, we need to help children \”understand\” and \”perceive\” the emotions of others. Through the children\’s own feelings, guide them to understand the feelings of others. For example, if two children are having an argument over a toy, you You can take this opportunity to say, \”You really want to play, and he also wants to play. If you don\’t have fun, do you think he will start school?\” Understanding others by thinking about your own similar experiences is a kind of empathy. . 3. Inspire children to think positively Psychological research has found that as long as a child has a positive view of himself and an optimistic attitude towards the future, parents can rest assured that the child will not be too far away from happiness in this life. A child who is accustomed to positive thinking will not give up easily when faced with difficulties and setbacks, and prefers to try to solve them in a positive way. This requires that in our daily lives, we should guide children to view problems from a positive side, solve problems, and give children a positive and optimistic attitude. May our children have high IQs and higher emotional intelligence, and be loved by everyone wherever they go! Welcome to share and forward~