A mother who manages her emotions gently is a blessing to her children throughout their lives

Photographed by Chen Zhuo Mother plays an important role in the growth of her child. The mother\’s words, deeds, and personality all affect the growth of her child. Some parenting experts once said that the mother\’s emotional stability is the most important factor affecting the child\’s mental stability. \”The most important thing for all children is the mother\’s emotion.\” A mother\’s emotions are like a river. Only gentleness can nourish all things and allow children to thrive like green grass. If the mother is in a bad mood and \”sets off huge waves\” from time to time, the children will naturally be hit by the waves. Only when the mother has a gentle mood can the child be optimistic. Many times we will find that many adults are always used to starting from the bad perspective and always deal with the world with a pessimistic attitude. The most common thing they say in daily life is \”bad\”. \”It\’s over\” \”It\’s over\”. I have no confidence in myself and often fall into the vortex of doubting myself. Tracing back to the source, we will find that the reason why such people develop such a personality is related to their mother\’s emotions during childhood. When the child is growing up, the mother is emotionally unstable and is used to yelling and yelling to solve problems. Over time, the child will become timid and silent. The child will be affected by the mother\’s irritable mood for a long time, which will leave a psychological shadow. When something happens, you are used to thinking of the worst first. Lao She once said in an article that my mother \”is not weak\” and \”we will never be without her if we quarrel and quarrel.\” \”This soft and hard character has also been passed on to me. I adopt a peaceful attitude towards all people and things.\” \”. Whether it is Hu Shi or Shi Tiesheng, the gentle emotions of mothers provided a safe haven for their childhood. Only when the mother\’s mood is gentle can the child have independent opinions. In real life, many people do things without independent opinions and follow what others say. They are like reeds on the wall that fall in the wind. The unassertive character is also influenced by the environment to a large extent. Parents, as their children\’s first teachers, play an important role in the critical period of their children\’s growth. When parents are emotionally stable as their children grow up, asking and listening instead of strong authority will help their children develop a sound personality and become independent. Mothers spend the longest time with their children. If the mother is irritable and often beats, scolds and accuses her children, the children will be fearful in their hearts and will not dare to express their own thoughts. Over time, they will not be able to think for themselves and become independent. In the memories of the three sisters of the Song family, their mother was always gentle. She would never give harsh orders, nor would she shout and be manic. It is precisely because of the mother\’s emotional stability that each of the children can have their own opinions and individuality. An accomplished person. Only when the mother is emotionally gentle can the child be confident. Self-confidence is not innate, but needs to be cultivated. A person\’s self-confidence usually comes from being recognized by others for his abilities and praised by others for his achievements. In layman\’s terms, self-confidence is exaggerated. Mothers are emotionally gentle and treat their children with gentle love, allowing their children to live in a loving and stable environment, which can further improve their children\’s sense of security. When children have a sense of security, they can better express themselves, feel more confident, and gain confidence. There are many people with physical disabilities who have made great achievements. If you ask them why they can achieve such high achievements, they will tell you that it is because of their self-confidence. This self-confidence usually comes from the gentle emotions and love of their mothers. MotherTo be emotionally gentle, you need to achieve two things. Everyone has times when they are in a bad mood, and everyone has times when they can’t control their emotions. To achieve a gentle mood, a mother must start from two aspects. Only when the mind is calm can the mood be gentle. Mothers stay with their children the longest and are their children’s teachers. Every word and deed of the mother will influence the child in a subtle way. To keep a mother\’s mood gentle, she needs to be calm. Only when she has a calm mind, is not impatient about things, and is calm when things happen can she be able to control her emotions. Don\’t transfer the pressure of work and life to your children. Learn to empty yourself every day, empty your bad emotions, and calm down to think about it. Don\’t be anxious, use stable emotions to protect the family from wind and rain. Mother is the regulator of the family. Only when the mother\’s emotions are stable can the family atmosphere be good and the children can have a better growth environment. Only with \”weak\” control can you be emotionally gentle. Many mothers are accustomed to being a conductor and always want their children to do things according to their own wishes. If they deviate even slightly, they will get angry. In fact, if a mother is too strong, it will easily lead to unstable emotions and not gentle enough. Someone once said: Only when mothers learn to show weakness can children grow up healthily. If you think about it carefully, this sentence does make sense. A strong mother is like the sun, which will block the light emitted by the child. Encouraging education for the child is more effective than combating education. Learning to encourage your child to go on his own and correct him when he makes mistakes is more meaningful than charting a path forward for him. A mother\’s emotions are like a river, and her children are like trees on the bank. A mother\’s gentle emotions can promote better growth of her children. A mother\’s gentle mood is a blessing in her child\’s life.