A mother’s most amazing ability: knowing how to turn over stories

On the subway during the morning rush hour, a mother and her son stood. From the moment she hurriedly squeezed into the carriage, the mother yelled at the child repeatedly like setting off firecrackers: \”Did I wake you up when I was making breakfast? I went to the room to call you when I was serving noodles. , you still don’t want to get up.” “Today is the promotion competition, do you want to be late? How many times have I told you, can you be more careful?” “A few days ago, I forgot to bring something, and I hurried back to get it. , Still late!\” The child turned to his mother and tried to explain. But the more her mother talked, the more excited she became, with a frown and sharp eyes. \”It was only last month. I just bought you a phone and watch. You lost it when you said you were going to play basketball. Could it be that I lost you? Really, when will you grow up?\” The child\’s eyes were full of despair, and he could only turn his head and look out the window without hesitation. A parenting blogger said: \”A child\’s education depends on the mother\’s attitude and life perception.\” When the child makes a mistake, the mother corrects the child in time, but if she keeps holding on, it will still become hurtful. The sharp blade pierces the child\’s heart. Over the years of raising children, I have come to realize more and more deeply: As a mother, when you love your children, you should forgive, not settle old scores. Knowing how to turn the page is the most amazing ability of a mother. For the child’s failure, please refer to a video story on the Internet: A boy practices badminton, but no matter what, he can’t play well. Not only that, I am always very timid when dealing with children, and I also stutter when I speak. Every time I don\’t hit the ball well, I get angry and throw my racket. The teacher called his mother to learn about the situation. The mother turned around and started scolding the boy: \”Why can\’t you do anything well? Is it useful to break the racket if you can\’t hit the ball well?\” She kept listing the child\’s mistakes one by one. The mother\’s momentum forced the child into a corner. The boy curled up, holding his head tightly with his hands, and kept muttering to himself: \”Mom, don\’t watch the game.\” The look of the mother in the video reminded me: no child can be born to do one thing well at once, and the mother\’s Forgiveness is the driving force for children to move on. The book \”Positive Discipline\” says: \”By allowing children to experience failure, they can learn to solve problems by themselves when they arise.\” Mothers should have more tolerance and patience to wait for their children\’s life and learn from each failure. As you walk through it, it becomes wider. The child\’s failure is actually not that terrible. It is just a process of him trying to adapt himself to the world and moving forward step by step. I watched a video: Mingming represented his class in the city’s Storytelling Competition, but he was dejected as soon as he entered the door. \”What\’s wrong? Mingming, why didn\’t you come home in time after school?\” Mom asked with concern. Mingming dropped his schoolbag and fell on the sofa without saying a word. The mother smiled and patted her son on the shoulder: \”Mingming, get up quickly and tell mom what\’s going on?\” \”You don\’t need to say, I\’m in too much pain, I\’m a loser, other children get first place, they can stand On the podium, I could only be in the audience. Others were rewarded with pencil boxes, but I was given pencils. This was the most painful day for me. My mother first poured a glass of water for Mingming, and then touched his. Head: \”Kid, mom knows you care about this game, but from the end of your game, it\’s notIs it already over? The son glanced at his mother with a puzzled look on his face. \”Obviously, the story competition is over. We are holding on to our failure. The facts will not change, and we will hurt ourselves again.\” \”A temporary failure doesn\’t mean anything. There will be more competitions in the future. Next time, my mother will accompany you to work harder and do better.\” \”Can we just flip through today\’s events like a book?\” \”A smile finally appeared on Mingming\’s face. I heard this sentence: \”Nothing can be solved at a glance. Whether it is a happy face or a gray face, temporary gains and losses are not counted. \”When a child is worried about a temporary failure, if the mother is also immersed in the child\’s emotions, it will only double the pain of the child and make him unable to extricate himself from living in the past. When a mother treats her child\’s failure, she has the courage to turn things over. It is better for children to bathe in the sunshine and thrive. Do not criticize excessively, blame excessively, and let failure be the biggest foresight for a child. Please turn over the post. A mother asked: \”My son is here.\” There was a fight at school and the teacher invited me to school. How should I make him change? It’s so hard. One of the high praisers replied: \”Do you always criticize him repeatedly when he makes mistakes?\” \”When a mother educates her children, she always likes to take a child\’s mistake and correct it countless times. When the child makes a mistake in the same place again, the mother will scold the child over and over again, and then collapse and become irritable. However, compared with doing it in front of the child, When rehabilitating old scores one by one, what mothers should do more is to let their children make mistakes. Mothers always pay too much attention to the mistakes made by their children. When they see their children making mistakes, they want to correct them immediately. They want to deepen their children\’s impression of the mistakes and let them learn from them. Correction. But it is easy for children to lose courage in their mother\’s immediate education, because they feel the constant criticism from their mother and the punishment for their mistakes, and they have no time to learn the correct way of doing things. The author of the book \”Leading from Behind\” shared a story: Three-year-old son Miao Miao and his good friend Mo Mo came home from kindergarten together. Miao Miao pressed the elevator down button, and Mo Mo pressed the up button. Button. Miao Miao was so anxious that she almost cried: Don\’t press the elevator button anymore. Then she rushed over and poked Mo Mo\’s eyes hard, and the two mothers were frightened. The children were separated. Miaomiao\’s mother was furious: \”What are you doing Miaomiao, how can you scratch Momo\’s eyes. \”When she got home, her mother calmed down and asked Miaomiao slowly: \”Are you anxious when you see Mo Mo pressing the elevator button, worried that everyone can\’t get upstairs? \”Miaomiao nodded seriously, \”Miaomiao scratched Mo Mo\’s eyes with her hands. It would hurt Mo Mo very much. My mother was shocked at that time, and Miao Miao must have been scared too. \”Mom knows that Miaomiao didn\’t mean it. If you have any ideas in the future, can you tell me?\” \”Miaomiao hugged her mother. Raising children will inevitably lead to chaos and chaos. Mothers must create an environment that allows children to make mistakes. In fact, mothers must know that children\’s growth is an accumulation process of big and small mistakes. It should be Give your children a chance to make mistakes, and don\’t be too nervous about mistakes. When your children make mistakes, your mother should be more calm.quiet. Calmness does not mean not to discipline children, but to teach children what to do in a moderate way and let mistakes become an episode in their growth. A wise mother allows her children to make mistakes and allows them to make mistakes. Regarding the child’s achievements, please read the article and netizens shared a story: Xiaoyan’s mother is low-key, but when she talks about her daughter, she becomes arrogant. Xiaoyan\’s aunt is an English teacher. When Xiaoyan learned to speak, her aunt taught her English, and she learned the basics well. In kindergarten, Xiaoyan knows everything the teacher teaches and can even talk to the teacher. As a result, Xiaoyan\’s mother showed off even more to everyone and often asked Xiaoyan to perform in front of everyone. Xiaoyan became arrogant when faced with praise and envy. In the blink of an eye, we arrived at elementary school, and Xiaoyan\’s grades were only average in the class. Because Xiaoyan lost the applause and praise for a while, she lost interest in learning and even became depressed for a time. It is indeed worthy of joy when a child achieves good results, but mothers should not show off excessively. The mother lost her sense of proportion while showing off, and the child naturally did not know how to respond to the good results. In the end, you may become complacent and good things turn into bad things. I have heard this sentence: Tell your children that the greatest achievement is not whether I get first place today, but who you will be tomorrow. On the day she got the admission notice, Wenwen was successfully admitted to her ideal first-class university. I was so happy that I quickly called my relatives at home: \”Auntie, I\’m going to go to college in Shanghai soon. I must be great.\” There was pride in my eyebrows. After hearing Wenwen\’s call, her mother told her daughter: \”Wenwen, your current small achievements cannot determine what your future will be like. There is no need to show off everywhere.\” \”My mother is also very happy for you that you have been admitted to your ideal university. , but it is just a starting point, not an end, you know? \”A passage from the movie \”Monga\”: \”Wherever the wind blows, the grass will fall. Only when we mature do we realize that we are all idiots.” Wise mothers know how to turn over their children’s achievements. Teach your children to be humble and low-key, and that the future is still long, instead of being indulging in temporary achievements and being complacent. There is a passage like this: The best family tradition: discuss big things, forgive small things, don’t argue about right or wrong, and don’t settle old scores. If you want to have outstanding children, your mother must learn to turn the tables. Growth is a process of constantly turning over stories, just like a cicada sheds its shell. It grows once it sheds its shell, and it grows once it turns over a chapter. I hope every mother can have a good mentality and the ability to turn over a chapter. Give it a thumbs up and hope every child can grow up positive and happy under the sun.