A senior high school boy stabbed his class teacher to death! How should impulsive boys be educated?

When I accidentally browsed the Internet on my mobile phone, I saw a piece of news on the People\’s Daily Online page: \”A senior high school boy stabbed his class teacher to death, and the principal confirmed that his grades were among the best.\” I was shocked. On November 12, Luo, a 16-year-old senior student at Yuanjiang No. 3 Middle School in Yiyang City, Hunan Province, had a dispute with his class teacher Bao. Luo took out the spring knife he carried with him and stabbed Bao. Bao was immediately sent to the hospital for treatment. He died after resuscitation failed. According to news reports, Bao saved money and was named an outstanding teacher in Yiyang City, and Luo was among the best in the class. They were the only two people present in the teacher\’s office when the incident occurred. When asked about the reason for the murder, Luo replied \”impulsively\” when questioned by the police. A homeroom teacher who could pull out a switchblade and stab him to death on impulse? Luo\’s impulsiveness is really impulsive! This reminds me of a video I saw online a few days ago. A 12-year-old boy was in a teahouse with his mother. He broke the items in the teahouse, and his mother gave him a few words of education. The impulsive boy grabbed his mother\’s neck and refused to let go. The mother\’s companion quickly separated the mother and son. The mother took the opportunity to hit the boy twice with chopsticks, and then the two struggled again. A teenage boy actually dared to hit his mother, and even pinched his mother\’s neck. This is the rhythm of wanting his mother\’s life! Isn\’t this child too impulsive? These two children are both boys, one is 16 years old and the other is 12 years old. They are both adolescent children. I know that adolescent boys have great psychological fluctuations, but this does not become a reason for them to do evil. I am the mother of an 8-year-old boy. Judging from my experience in raising sons over the years, boys are more difficult to educate than girls and require more energy and effort. Physiologically speaking, boys gradually enter the pubertal development stage after the age of 10. Their physical development changes greatly, and secondary sexual characteristics begin to develop. The rapid growth of the body makes the boys\’ psychology full of contradictions. They begin to care about other people\’s evaluation of themselves. Some boys may have psychological reactions of being withdrawn, suspicious, and self-aware. Adolescent boys feel that they are half adults and can decide their own affairs, but adults still think of them as children and still communicate with them in the same way as children. At this time, conflicts arise. Boys feel that they are not valued by adults and do not have a chance to express their thoughts, so they will make irreversible actions on impulse. The Luo in the news was motivated to commit suicide by Bao\’s sentence \”If you don\’t want to write, just change classes\” because he didn\’t want to complete the assignment assigned by his class teacher Bao to write a review of the movie. The boy who pinched his mother in the video couldn\’t bear it after being criticized by his mother. He actually grabbed his mother\’s neck with both hands and refused to let go in public. The root cause of the impulsive behavior of these boys is largely due to the fact that they themselves cannot control their emotions, and they impulsively hurt others or even kill others under the stimulation of hormones. Luo\’s parents were equally devastated when they found out that their son had stabbed his head teacher to death, because what awaited Luo was not only jail time, but also a life ruined by impulse. When we see these bloody tragedies, we should reflect more on our own education methods, especially those with families.Parents of boys should think more. First of all, parents should help their children understand the developmental characteristics of adolescence through appropriate channels and better accept their own changes. Many parents usually only pay attention to their children\’s academic performance, and put all their energy into trying to get their children good grades, but ignore their children\’s adolescent education. Fathers with boys at home should take on the responsibility of education at this stage, and can learn about the physiological and psychological changes of adolescent children with their children through reading. Fathers can talk to their children about their confusion and mental development and changes in adolescence as friends, so that boys can know that psychological fluctuations in adolescence are normal and acceptable to adults. When boys know their own physical and mental development and changes, they can have a better mentality to accept themselves and know that their changes are a process of growth. Secondly, maintain good parent-child communication and help children solve their growing confusion. After many boys reach the age of ten, they become taciturn and unwilling to communicate with their parents, let alone tell their parents what is on their mind. Their changes are normal, but as a parent, you cannot let your children close their hearts. Instead, you must use a gentle attitude, talk to your children frequently, and listen to your children\’s inner thoughts. Parents should also be good at capturing the confusion of their children\’s growth from the boys\’ words, find appropriate opportunities to communicate with their children, and tell them adults\’ suggestions. Maybe some boys will be more paranoid at this stage, unwilling to communicate or listen to other people\’s suggestions. I think they should be treated with a more tolerant attitude. After all, some things need personal experience for them to understand. Third, respect boys as adults and stop treating them in the same way as educating children. Bao\’s simple and rude sentence \”If you don\’t want to write, change classes\” made Luo feel disrespected. The 12-year-old boy was not respected when his mother taught him a lesson in public, so they acted impulsively later. My son is only 8 years old, and I feel that different ways of talking to my son have completely different effects. I told him: \”Go to bed quickly, we have to go to school tomorrow!\” My son would reply to me: \”I understand, you are annoyed!\” Later, I changed my way and said to him: \”It\’s half past eight, we\’re here. It\’s bedtime, should you get ready for bed?\” My son would say: \”Wait for me for five minutes, I will go to the bathroom and then go to bed.\” I got the result I wanted, but my different expression methods, in exchange for My son\’s reaction is different. If I don\’t respect him, he will be impatient with me; if I respect him, he will be willing to do what I say. Children always grow up day by day, and their physical and mental development changes every day. Parents should pay attention to their children\’s changes at any time, and educational methods should keep pace with the times. Especially parents with boys at home should pay more attention to the physical and mental changes of adolescent boys, and should understand and respect them when their emotions fluctuate. At the same time, we should also tell the boys that no matter what happens, they must calm down and think about whether I can do it, what are the consequences of doing it, and whether I can accept the consequences. Give yourself moreA few minutes of thinking time is to give yourself one more chance to choose, so as to avoid irreversible consequences caused by impulsiveness. If there are boys in the family, the road to education is even more arduous. I hope every boy can successfully pass adolescence and grow into a man who stands upright.