A small action can extinguish your child\’s love for you, but you don\’t know it

On the way back from picking up my son, my son took out a milk bar from his schoolbag and handed it to me, telling me that it was given to me during the break of the training class. I asked him, why don\’t you eat it? My first thought was that he probably didn\’t like eating this. He said, I brought it back to my mother to eat. As he spoke, his eyes kept staring at the milk bar. His words surprised me somewhat, because I knew he always liked snacks. This went on for weeks, and he would always bring me the little snacks he had given me. I couldn\’t help but be a little curious, because some of the snacks he had asked me to buy for him were also things he liked to eat very much. So, when he gave me something again, I asked him, what are you doing when other children are eating? \”I\’m watching others eat.\” He answered me after taking a big sip from the water glass I handed him. My mother-in-law felt distressed after hearing this and said, from now on, you can just eat it during recess. \”No, I want to bring it back to my mother to eat.\” He insisted. In fact, the side meal he gave out was just a small bag of snacks, sometimes it was a piece of bread, sometimes it was a small dried bean, sometimes it was a small biscuit, about the size of a quarter of a palm, it was really very small. There were a few times when I even wanted to refuse his snacks. Think about it, during class, other children were opening food bags and eating and playing while he put the snacks on the table or put them in his own bag at that time. inside, and then looking at the other children, I felt a bit bitter thinking about it. Just when I was thinking about it and felt very distressed, a friend who was a teacher came to my home. Their child had just been named the etiquette star of the school not long ago. After hearing my idea, my friend smiled and said, you must accept your child\’s affection for you. When he gives you things, he feels satisfied. The fact that he can bring things home to you shows that he can control his mouth. You think, a child has no income of his own, and he has no money to buy things for you. But he can bring you something to eat without spending your money. Although this is small, it is a very important gift to him! You have to learn to accept it calmly and share it with him. After that, I accepted the snacks that my son brought me as a matter of course. However, I would open them in front of him and share half of them with him. Although I only had half a mouthful, I was extremely happy when I saw him. I also use my acceptance to affirm this quality of his. Today\’s parents love their children too much. Sometimes when their children hand something to them, they will be moved in every possible way, but they are just moved, but not moved. They always say that the baby is really sensible, and the mother won\’t eat it, but gives it all to the baby. Time After a long time, the child will naturally stop sharing with you, because you give him the feeling that you don\’t need it at all. So don\’t say that your child doesn\’t love you. Many times you inadvertently blow away your child\’s love. Bi Shumin wrote an article \”The Echo of Love\”, which contains a sentence: Parents in the world, if you love your child, you must let him start to love you and the people around you from the moment he is able to do so. So, let our children learn to love us from an early age! Let us calmly accept what our children share with us and accept their love! Text | Qingfeng 14306