A teacher\’s father\’s letter of apology touches the pain points of countless parents!

The father in today\’s article is a teacher. In his eyes, his son is a child with poor academic performance – he takes his time doing homework and is stunned for a long time, often until ten to eleven o\’clock… Therefore, He often scolded or even beat children. However, beatings and scoldings are often followed by helplessness and regret. Because he is engaged in education, this father has been reflecting on his own education methods and made a \”review\” of himself at a parent-teacher meeting. The result hit the pain points of many parents! Let’s read it together. Hello friends! Today, several parents and friends must represent different levels. I probably want to say a few words on behalf of those parents of children who are relatively backward but are making progress, so the first half of my speech may be more like a review. The child\’s mother and I are very concerned about the child\’s learning and have devoted a lot, but this is not a pleasant process. I am an educator, with a head full of educational ideals and educational theories, so I tried not to interfere with children\’s learning at first, and adhered to the principle of more observation, more encouragement, and more guidance. As a result, I saw the children\’s dillydallying. Damn, my brain often seems to be disconnected, and I am in a daze for long periods of time. My homework often lasts until ten to eleven o\’clock. So, I finally gave up my original philosophy and started accompanying her to study and tutoring. From then on, my family was filled with scolding, dissatisfaction and crying. I cannot accept the fact that teachers all know that if they are not afraid of being stupid, they are just afraid that they lack willpower, and if they are not afraid of not being able to learn, they are just afraid that they do not have a good habit of compactness and self-management. The emotion of failure can easily turn into irritability, and sometimes I even spank my children because I am so incompetent. Whenever I spank a child, I feel extremely bad and see the child huddled in the corner, helpless and crying silently. This child who is usually so cute, but he is far from able to compete with me in terms of physical strength and intelligence. Just because he studies, he has to endure psychological and physical torture. And this child is my treasure, my only one. I feel sorry for him at this time. , regret, and heartache are hard to explain. To this day, whenever I think back to those years and read the articles I wrote back then, I still feel very sorry for my children. My children often read my articles, and he knows that his father’s regret is true. What makes me worthy of him is my father’s persistence and tenacity to never give up. In the second half of the speech, the father put forward several educational opinions based on his personal experience, which aroused the thinking of many parents. It is worth forwarding to the parents: accept our children\’s present situation and use our best efforts to educate him! Accept the present of our children. No matter what happens now and in the future, you must always try your best to educate him. Not only are excellent parents bound to have excellent children, but ordinary parents may also have extraordinary children. Otherwise, human society is too unfair and the social structure is too unstable. Not all good habits are given by parents, or else why children of the same parents may be so different. Not all bad habits are due to improper parental education. My experience is an example. Since this is our child and we bring him into this world, we can only love him and give him the best education you can give. Don\’t turn possible happiness into mutual torture! Maybe it would be happiness to have both situations. If your child is smart, beautiful, has good habits, and is good at self-control, and never lets you worry about learning, and the teacher praises you for your good parenting, and you yourself feel very accomplished, you will indeed be happy. If your child is not so outstanding, you need more companionship and education. You spend more time with your child and talk more. I think all family relationships lie in \”being together\”. Isn\’t this also happiness? When children become adults, they have fewer opportunities to get close to each other. When they are underage, spending more time with their children than others may be happiness. Don’t let scolding and crying become a problem like I did before. Mainstream voices turn possible happiness into mutual torture. Only the people closest to you in the world can hurt the people closest to you, and for a long time. Sometimes when a child cannot do something, it is not a matter of attitude, but a matter of ability. Every child is different. I am talking about all aspects. Sometimes when a child cannot do something, it is not a matter of attitude, but a matter of ability. No one beats their children every day because they are not taller than others. No one scolds their children every day because they cannot outrun Liu Xiang because the difference in appearance is visible. We admit that the admission rate has nothing to do with these, and the school does not discriminate against children because of this. But just because you can’t swallow your breath and refuse to let go of your child because of your studies, why bother? Invisible differences also exist. Otherwise, why don’t we become Einstein? It’s right to work hard for your children’s future. Don’t worry too much about your children’s future. Big trees can be tall and grass can be green. Why is everything missing? Why such delay? Why can\’t I remember it? He has been told a thousand times and fought several times, but he is still the same person, why doesn\’t he listen? Dear parents, when a child has problems, it is probably not because of his attitude, just like he cannot grow taller or cannot run fast. We can only help him with time management, make study and life plans with him, use tables and summaries to help him, and There\’s no way to blame him. The problem is not qualitative, don\’t talk too much about the principles, and don\’t talk about methods. The problem is not qualitative, but about solving things; don\’t talk too much about the principles, the children need specific help; don\’t talk about methods, all skills lie in the process of doing specific things. In fact, everyone knows that children already know too much. It’s not that they don’t recognize these principles, it’s just that they can’t do it. The principles are no longer shocking and convincing, and can only turn into disgust. In fact, they need specific help, just Like I did before. I especially want to say something about whether the remedial classes the children have enrolled in are effective. I think if they can\’t listen at school, can they listen outside? Moreover, once a week, the interval is too long, the content is self-contained, inconsistent with the content of the school teacher, and cannot be consolidated. It is better to do the daily homework well, which is in sync with the teacher\’s teaching and reinforces each other. Of course, no one size fits all. It’s a myth that education has immediate results. I would rather believe that my child is a late bloomer! Regarding my child\’s education and help, I was prepared for slow progress and ineffective results. There was no way around it, just because he was my child. When the father becomes moreFor a long time, the longer I have been a teacher, the more I feel that I have almost no beginning in education. This is not modest at all, it is really like this. Although I am ready to persevere, I still don’t know when it will work. Maybe I won’t see results when I work hard. Maybe at a certain moment, my child will suddenly grow up when I am not prepared. Even if he grows up, I can’t be greedy for it. Gong, feeling is one\’s own success, how many factors affect life, who can say clearly? But, I have to insist, just like human height, development has sooner or later, maybe IQ and EQ are also the same, I would rather believe, My child is a late bloomer. For the elderly, we often say that it is a pity that the tree wants to be quiet but the wind does not stop, and the child wants to be raised but cannot be loved. Regarding my child, if I give up lightly, then if the child\’s life is not satisfactory in the future, I will feel guilty and regret that I did not help him when he needed it most.