A Tsinghua mother’s home education method: A must read for those aged 3 to 15

American psychologists once said: Sow an action and reap a habit; sow a habit and reap a character; sow a character and reap a destiny. To put it simply, habits determine destiny. The child\’s future life level and ability to do things are more or less related to habits. If your child is in the age group of 3-15 years old, I suggest you take 5 minutes to watch it. Because as long as we provide a little guidance, children will benefit from it throughout their lives. Parents must not miss this excellent period for developing habits. It doesn\’t matter if you eat less or less. If you don\’t chase him, don\’t eat. One bowl is the basic amount. You don’t need to eat too full, just be 70% full and enough for your body to consume energy. In this way, there are many gullies in the cerebral cortex, which is conducive to memory and so on. Try to train your children to eat less meat and more fruits and vegetables (it’s best if you can stick to it), and don’t let the body accumulate fat and affect the brain. Be sure to take away snacks and replace them with fruits. You must eat apples and bananas every day, both of which are related to intelligence and have a calming effect. A doctor friend of mine once told me never to force a child to eat. Children go through several growth and development periods, especially during adolescence, and their appetite will naturally increase. If you open up your appetite early, he will eat more than he can during the growth period, and even if you ask him to eat less during adolescence, it won\’t work. About a healthy body is capital, and exercising is a career worth persisting in your life. Only with a strong body can one be qualified to study and make a living. Therefore, you must develop good living habits from now on: go to bed early and get up early, keep exercising; regularly participate in outdoor activities and sports; maintain a regular schedule; stay away from junk food; don’t be addicted to the Internet, which hurts your eyes and brain. Exercise when you are young and have a healthy physical foundation. You can develop good habits without paying a lot of money. Don\’t wait until your body has problems to make up for it. It’s not that difficult to find a sport that you love and can do regularly, and stick with what you like, right? What’s more, it can benefit you throughout your life. Regarding consideration, I told him that others have no obligation to be nice to you. The human heart is uneven, just like the earth has mountains, river valleys, and plains. If someone treats you well, you should be grateful to them; if they don\’t treat you well, that\’s their behavior and it\’s normal. There is no absolute fairness in everything. The bigger your heart is, the more energy you can obtain, and you will get more without asking for anything. Compassion and compassion are very important and have a decisive role in a child\’s future life and circumstances. Regarding etiquette for children, I allow you to be uneducated, but I definitely don’t allow you to be uneducated! The upbringing here is what we usually call etiquette and habits. Everyone has seen naughty children. I remember once taking an elevator. The person who entered the elevator with me was a mother and son. The child looked about 7/8 years old. They were on the 7th floor. Unexpectedly, before getting out of the elevator, the naughty child pressed the buttons for the elevators on every floor above. The mother on the side witnessed all this happening, but as if nothing happened, she took her son and left… After that time, I suddenly understood that the reason why the naughty child is so naughty is largely due to the negligence of his parents. So, a qualified parent in child 1What manners must be taught to them before they are 5 years old? Don\’t make any noise when eating, especially when eating noodles, be sure to bite them off and don\’t suck them into your mouth; don\’t use a male spoon when drinking soup, use your own small spoon; if your child smacks his mouth when eating, be sure to Correct it. When sitting on a bench, keep your knees together and place your hands naturally on your knees. Be careful to only sit on 1/3 of the chair. Do not spread your legs or cross your legs. This is really ugly. When visiting other people\’s homes, do not look around without permission, let alone do it directly, and randomly rummage through the host\’s things; when eating, do not gorge yourself, which is not conducive to digestion and damages your image; remember to help your friends clean up after the meal When you get off the table, you should do this even if the other person refuses to help. No matter what kind of food you like, you can\’t bring it directly to you, whether at home or outside. You should try to avoid eating pig\’s trotters, big bones and other foods in public places. The look of you eating with your teeth bared is really unsightly. When others serve you, such as pouring water, serving food, checking tickets, etc., be sure to say thank you to show respect; it is also respectful not to look at other people\’s photos, chat messages, or eavesdrop on others. As for the score of the score test, I don’t want to express too many opinions. My principle is: learning is his own business. I just told him to analyze the reasons for the wrong questions on the paper, whether he didn\’t understand or was careless, and just correct himself. Nor will he be asked where his score ranks in the class (this is the case until he graduates from high school). I will always make mistakes in very simple questions in mathematics. Both adults and children will regret it and say: \”What a pity! If I had been more careful in mathematics, I would have got full marks!\” I have also encountered this situation. When I saw a paper with a score of 99, I thought: How can we prevent him from being careless and reckless? The opportunity came amidst other people\’s misery. When I was in third grade, a unit was building a house, and the house collapsed halfway through the construction. I took him to the site for opportunity education. In terms of mechanics and other methods, a slight error in calculation will cause the foundation to support the house differently, and the point that is missing in the calculation will sink; in terms of building materials, the cement will have a missing mark. If the steel bars are smaller and the bricks and tiles are of inferior quality, the entire house will be in danger. In order to gain a deeper understanding for him, I said that if your carelessness in calculation caused the death of others (that is, 6 people died in the accident), how would you compensate for the human life? How to compensate for tens of millions of economic losses? Regarding homework, there is a set time limit, and he is not allowed to do it when the time is up. He said that if he couldn\’t finish his homework, he would be punished by the teacher tomorrow, but I told him that he should do whatever he wants at any time, and he couldn\’t misappropriate it. The next day he got up early in the morning to do it, but I also refused to allow him to go to school crying. From then on, until graduation from high school, completing homework first was the first priority. The teacher assigns homework and requires parents to check and sign: let the children check by themselves. After checking, just bring it to me and sign. When signing, ask: After checking, everything is correct. If he confirms that it is correct, then you sign. Even if you clearly see a wrong question, don\’t point it out to him. Let him have a red cross in his homework book tomorrow. Faced with this situation, you just need to explain why you didn\’t get it checked out yesterday. Don\’t be too harsh and don\’t make the child worry.Make sure that when you hit him, you should be reasonable, so that he will be more serious about the next inspection. Regarding dictation, the way I solved it was to ask him to complete it by dictation. I said that if you can think of all the new words you have learned and write them down from memory, that doesn\’t mean you are great! He brought the Chinese book and put it in front of me. I said take the book away. Mom believes you don’t know how to read it. Regarding criticism, my son was also punished when he was in the first grade of elementary school. I picked him up from school and waited for him to finish the homework for which he was punished. At the same time, I listened to the teacher scolding my son about how he was not serious in class, how he got into trouble with his classmates, etc. When I get home, I ask about the situation carefully. If my classmate is wrong, I won\’t criticize him. If it\’s my own problem, I will gently tell him how to pay attention to it and correct it. One thing is very important. Parents should use reason to relieve the negative emotions that children may have towards teachers. Parents and teachers are the main ones that undermine children\’s self-confidence. If a child is scolded at school, the mother should understand the matter clearly that night, resolve the child\’s emotions, and repair his self-confidence. Self-confidence is very important in a person\’s life. We all know that the words and deeds of parents affect their children. There are some things that children can only learn if they do them well. A good habit needs to be maintained; a bad habit needs to be changed. If your children can break more and more bad habits and develop more and more good habits, then you will not only be happy, but also understand one sentence – excellence is a habit.