A two-year-old girl blames her mother for her father: You have a bad temper, hit others and are domineering

There is a very popular video on the Internet. The two-year-old daughter sternly supported her father, accusing her mother of having a \”bad temper, hitting others, and being domineering.\” The involuntary tone and the bulging belly made people laugh, and they couldn\’t help but want to praise this two-year-old child\’s expression and thinking ability. Click below to watch the full video! However, when I look at it more carefully, I can\’t help but feel a little sad. It is said that Chinese mothers have bad tempers, but how good are foreign mothers? There are too many women who, once they get married and become mothers, their former gentleness and sweetness turn into bitterness and hatred. Their anger and resentment contain a lot of bitterness and helplessness. In the video, the mother tried to reason with her daughter calmly, trying to make her understand her difficulties and difficulties, but the child didn\’t even want to listen, and interrupted her mother\’s words with a louder voice and continued to point her out. Inappropriate words and actions that you don’t agree with. Moreover, the words of this two-year-old child sound extremely correct: \”You point at dad\’s head and scold him, how sad he is! My sister and I are also very sad!… You have a bad temper, love to hit others, and are domineering!…\” How many mothers have never done the things their children talk about? I think that a woman who has received enough support, love, care and respect will not act too exhausted and resentful. She must have accumulated enough loneliness, fatigue and disappointment to behave like this. But do your family understand when you get angry? Does your child understand? What a mother fears most is not the hardship and tiring of life, but the resentment, accusations and incomprehension of her family. Look at this child, it is a typical manifestation of the latter. When she was young, she could not see her mother\’s difficulties, only her mother\’s temper. As a result, dissatisfaction and disgust slowly grew in her little heart. When her mother said it again When she heard similar words, she immediately jumped up to accuse her mother and \”redress\” her father\’s grievances. There are too many mothers who are struggling alone, shouldering the heavy burdens of work, housework, children\’s education, etc., and at the same time being criticized for having a \”bad temper\”. Xiaofan has been having trouble with her husband recently. At one point it came to the point of getting divorced. Xiaofan felt that in this marriage, she was too tired to speak. It was simply a \”widowed marriage.\” In her eyes, her husband is a hands-off shopkeeper, and Xiaofan takes care of all the housework at home. She rushes home to cook and take care of the children after get off work every day. One thing follows another, and her life is just spinning around, with no time for herself at all. Before getting married, Xiaofan had a few good girlfriends, and he would go shopping and have dinner with friends every now and then. However, since she got married, Xiaofan has almost no contact with her best friends. All her energy is focused on her family and children, with endless housework and endless worries. But Xiaofan\’s husband seems not to be affected at all. He has been playing games since college and has not stopped until now. After eating, I often push my bowl away, sit down in front of the computer, and plausibly say \”relax.\” Regarding the children\’s education, her husband would poke and move her, but Xiaofan wouldn\’t open his mouth. He would never think of taking the initiative to help his children with their homework. As for the so-called companionship, it is even more unsatisfactory. It basically means sitting next to you with your mobile phone and talking to Xiaofanqi.The \”high-quality companionship\” we receive is simply worlds apart. Xiaofan felt that he was going to be depressed. \”I also have to work to earn money, and I don\’t just lie at home and enjoy my life every day. Why should I be the only one working hard when I get home?\” However, my husband is also very innocent: \”I don\’t smoke or drink, and occasionally I wash dishes and mop the floor. Isn’t it enough? Besides, who asked you to work so hard? The house doesn’t need to be too clean, it’s just about right. The children don’t need to be very good at studying, just passable…\” \”What you said is pretty much the same. In my eyes, it’s just a pigsty! You His plans are decent, but he is basically at the bottom of the class! Do you know how much work there is at home? Do you know how other people\’s children study?\” However, neither of the two could convince the other. Xiaofan felt that her husband did not fulfill his obligations. , irresponsible, and not worthy of being a husband or a father at all, but the husband feels that Xiaofan is picky and unreasonable, and that he is just living a relaxing and good life, looking for trouble every day. Moreover, it is not only her husband who does not understand Xiaofan, but also her children, who have stood against her and said to her more than once: \”You are the worst-tempered mother in the world!\” In fact, aside from some fathers who deliberately do this, most of them Some fathers are still willing to work with their wives to participate in the growth of their children and maintain their own homes. However, the will is one thing, and the actual situation is another. In real life, there are very few fathers who can truly participate in housework and children\’s education and perform well. As a result, mothers are extremely desperate, calling their fathers \”giant babies\” and \”mama\’s boys\”, and saying that they are in a \”widowed marriage\”. And I think that we should not beat them to death with a rake. The reason for the performance of fathers is not entirely irresponsible. There are also three points of \”cannot do it\” and three points of \”unexpected\”. My friend Xinxin has a legendary model husband: not only can he cook, but he can also braid his children\’s hair and wrap book covers. In the eyes of others, he is simply an \”angel husband\”. Speaking of which, she herself has another opinion: \”What model husband does not have his wife\’s hard work behind him?\” Since Xinxin works night shifts every three days, when Xinxin is not at home, her husband is fully responsible for her daughter. The grandma was worried and asked to send the child to her. Xinxin gritted her teeth and said, \”No, let\’s create some family time for them!\” Unexpectedly, little creatures like children always have their own aura, and when the two of them are alone together, , my husband also slowly changed. In order to protect the children\’s eyes, people who love to play with computers so much have to endure it and play games with their daughters, which is quite enjoyable. Moreover, he even took his daughter out for a walk before breakfast every day so that the child would have more appetite for food. Everyone admired Xinxin and praised her for her good fortune. Xinxin said, \”Don\’t think it\’s all that smooth. Only you know the twists and turns!\” Yes, for a while, Xinxin\’s daughter had to go to bed with her bald hair on her forehead. In kindergarten, everyone asked what was wrong, but it turned out that the father thought his hair was not done well, so he cut off all the child\’s bangs with scissors! Another time, Xinxin\’s father washed his daughter\’s feet, but he didn\’t know to adjust the water temperature first. When he poured the hot water, the child stretched out his feet. If the father hadn\’t been quick, he would have had to soak it! …Nevertheless, the coreXin still refrained from criticizing him, and always encouraged him, helping him slowly adapt, learn, and form a harmonious relationship with his daughter. Later, this seemingly unqualified father slowly learned to do housework and comb his hair, and his relationship with his daughter became extremely close! Yes, whose ability is not developed slowly? How can there be a father who does not naturally love his children or his family? Now that we have become a family, my mother can\’t bear to fight alone, and Hedong Shiroar is not conducive to the stability of the family. Instead of arguing and arguing with him, it is better to help him improve slowly. Due to the influence of family division of labor, growing environment, way of thinking and other factors, mothers are often more prone to anxiety than fathers. In their eyes, it is easier for them to \”have work\”, they are better at capturing some invisible information, and they are more likely to feel some invisible competition. Therefore, while they have higher demands on themselves, they also have higher demands on their spouses and children. Some people say, why are you so tired? If that person can\’t meet expectations, why settle for it? It’s not that we don’t make money. Yes, society has progressed so much. We have private cars when we go out, takeaways when we eat, nannies when we take care of our children, and cleaning when doing housework. We don’t need to lower ourselves to please anyone. However, the meaning of marriage is a deep connection with another life. This depth cannot be given by a nanny, a driver, or a chef. Therefore, in marriage and parenting, if that person cannot keep up with our pace, our rhythm, we might as well lower our expectations appropriately, stop, wait for him, and give fathers enough time and trust to let him follow. Together, the children grow up slowly. Later, one day, when your children grow up slowly and life gradually becomes smoother, your children hold you with one hand and him with the other, smiling like flowers, you will find that everything now is worth it.