Accompanying my children to do homework, this is how I avoid having a heart attack

My son has been crying a lot lately. The most exaggerated time was when he sat on the floor and cried heartbrokenly. While crying, he complained: \”There are so many homeworks, and I won\’t be able to finish them until tomorrow…\” The homework was unfair, but in fact it was only a few pages. He recently started learning addition and subtraction within ten, various forms of questions, such as: eight apples divided into two baskets, three in one basket, and how many blue ones in the other? Ten firecrackers, four are lit, how many are left? There are five birds on the tree, and four more come. How many birds are there in total? I think these questions are very good, enlightening teaching, combined with life, no cramming, no rote memorization. But, for him, fingers are his best friends. What about apples, firecrackers, and birds? He was completely confused. He is very confused. When he is confused, he finds it difficult. When he finds it difficult, he is very painful. When he is in pain, he does not want to do his homework. He cried so hard that he begged, \”Mom, please help me write!\” If he continued to cry, his throat might become hoarse. \”Okay!\” I agreed readily. I sat on the ground next to him, took out his homework book from his bag, and opened it. \”It\’s not a lot, just these two pages.\” I said, pretending to be relaxed. \”You write it for me!\” He said angrily and decisively. \”Okay!\” I agreed again. \”What is this question for?\” I asked him, pointing to the homework book. \”Just divide the basket of apples.\” \”Then, how to divide, how many are divided here?\”… Facing the obstacle that he fears in his heart, he needs a gentle and powerful pusher. I slowly led him into the \”pit\”. He resisted the homework, then poked his head over. Finally, he thought I was stupid, so he lay down on the ground and started writing. After writing two questions, he felt uncomfortable lying down, so he moved Went to the study table. To be honest, I never expected that he would be so clumsy in arithmetic! After raising him for almost six years, I only felt inexplicably suffocated when tutoring him in arithmetic. You ask him how much 3 + 4 equals, and he stretches out his fingers, counts slowly, and babbles for a long time before telling you that it equals 7. After asking today, I asked again the next day. I still stretched out my fingers and counted, and it took me a long time to count. I ask every day, and every time I count with my fingers. He has such a good memory, why not just write it down? This is not fatal, but what is even more fatal is that sometimes I won’t even stretch out my finger, I just tilt my head and think, lost in thought for a long time, and tell you very firmly: \”It is equal to 8!\” I said earnestly: \”Son, please put your hand Stick out your fingers! To learn mathematics is to be good at using various tools. Rulers, protractors, and compasses are all tools that will be used in the future. Now, your fingers are your tools…\” They just refused. His funniest time was when someone asked him: \”Do you know what 2 + 4 equals?\” He tilted his head, turned around and walked away, saying, \”Of course I know.\” He turned his back and immediately quietly counted with his fingers. , and then said: \”It\’s equal to 6!\” leaving her with a pretty cool-looking back. Child, did anyone laugh at you when you were counting on your fingers? Is your vanity so strong? The reason why I only feel suffocated and haven\’t had a heart attack yet is because I\’m in the wrong. When I realized that his arithmetic was weak, myI was suddenly shocked: I didn\’t give him any mathematical enlightenment! I have always believed that enlightenment is important. His outstanding performance in reading and literacy is attributed to the accumulation of picture books I read with him every day, as well as the use of idioms and words in daily conversations with him. After all, this is my strength. He is also good at sports because his father is a physical education teacher. He spent many happy hours on the playground with his father. He learned some sports skills while playing, and there was no need to attend interest classes. This is the subtle influence that we, as parents, use our own strengths to have on him in his life. Other aspects of enlightenment were guided by his interests. I discovered that he was interested in dinosaurs and animals, so I took him to read many encyclopedia-type children\’s books to enlighten him about biology. Discovering that he was interested in land and ocean, I quickly prepared globes and maps for his geographical enlightenment. I found that he was interested in small scientific experiments, so I prepared materials to do small experiments with him, bought him a children\’s microscope, and observed various specimens to provide him with chemical enlightenment. However, he has not yet shown sensitivity to numbers. And I rarely even count with him! I talked with the mother of a child in their class who was very good at math. The mother and the child\’s father both have backgrounds in science and engineering. In the process of getting along with their children, they make good use of scientific thinking and instill a lot of mathematical knowledge intentionally or unintentionally. She said that, therefore, her child\’s digital sensitivity period came very early. You see, it’s not that children are stupid, but that we as parents have shortcomings. Until now, when I was helping him with his homework, I clearly felt that the answer was just around the corner, but he was stunned and refused to move forward. The whole class of children is learning arithmetic. Even if I don\’t scold him for being stupid, he can still feel that he is inferior to others. With this feeling, he will decide in his heart that he is not good at it, and he will shrink even more. Learning during the sensitive period is interesting and joyful. Children also absorb knowledge quickly and learn with twice the result with half the effort. If we do not wait quietly for children\’s various sensitive periods, nor do we have a \”moisturizing and silent\” enlightenment, and then forcefully drag them into various studies, they will be confused and their interest will not be brought up at all. You will feel inferior and withdrawn. However, now that we have been involved in this torrent, \”doing nothing\” is not the best way. Like Bao Duo\’s current situation, we must first build confidence in him. Only when you have confidence are you willing to take the initiative to learn. In learning, there is a big difference between active and passive. He takes the initiative to learn, and it doesn\’t matter if he is a little slow. He can solve the problems for you little by little. Learn passively. You yell something and he calculates a point. If you ask him how much it equals, he looks at you blankly, waiting for you to yell out the answer and he fills it in. think? You yelled at him so much that his ears automatically closed and he didn\’t even understand the question. How could he still think about it? You yelled so hard that he had a heart attack, and he sat like he was being tortured. Neither you nor the child was the winner. Secondly, I should make up for the enlightenment he should have had. In life, I still have to change my behavior and show him mathematical concepts and knowledge in daily life. Then, add more math toys at home and some math picture books. As for the rest,I\’m afraid we still have to give it time. Based on past experience, give him some time and let him take his time, and he will probably not disappoint.