Advice from an old teacher who has been teaching for 27 years: Parents should always look through their children’s homework books. If these four phenomena occur, you must be vigilant!

The child\’s performance is written down in the workbook. If these four phenomena occur, you must be vigilant. A few days ago, a parent came to me specifically when sending his child to school. \”Teacher, how is my child\’s performance in school recently? Did he listen well? Have he mastered all the knowledge?\” She seemed very concerned about her child\’s learning, but when I asked her how her child did yesterday\’s homework, she was very Confused. When I mentioned that the child\’s homework was often left unfinished, she was even more surprised and said that the child told her that she had finished it. This mother\’s behavior is also the norm for many parents nowadays. They send their children to school and then abandon them. From time to time, I ask the teacher about my child\’s performance in school, and I feel that I care enough about my child. As everyone knows, family education is one of the important components of education. Only when parents and teachers work together can children become better. Parents\’ \”fake concern\” will only lead to children\’s \”fake efforts\”. Only \”true concern\” can make children \”really work hard.\” Truly conscientious parents never judge their children\’s learning status through teachers\’ evaluations. Instead, they often look through their children\’s homework books to observe their children\’s learning performance and attitude. A child who can even write neat punctuation marks must have a good attitude towards learning and his grades will not be too bad. And a child who often cannot finish his homework or has many questions must not have good study habits, and it will be difficult to improve his grades. Especially when these four phenomena appear in children’s homework books, parents must be vigilant: 1. There are many typos. It shows that the child is careless and tends to be sloppy when answering questions, and often loses points because of this. 2. The handwriting is illegible. It shows that the child has a bad attitude, is perfunctory when doing homework, and the paper is \”dirty and messy\”. 3. The book is scratched. It shows that the child is impatient, pursues perfection too much, and starts to deny himself if he makes any mistakes. 4. Blank. It means that the child has an emotional problem, and it may be that he is tired of studying after encountering some things. The occurrence of these phenomena indicates that children are encountering difficulties in learning. If parents cannot intervene in time, children may hate learning even more from now on. Only when parents see these problems reflected in the homework books in a timely manner, understand their children\’s emotions, and see their children\’s shortcomings, can they change their children\’s thinking as soon as possible. As the French neuroscientist Demirge said: \”Homework is an important part of learning, and there is no problem that better illustrates the dominance of entertainment on effort than homework problems. In the short term, the role of homework is mainly to promote students\’ understanding of relevant content. Mastery and memory; from a long-term perspective, homework will help improve students\’ self-discipline and self-regulation abilities. \”When a child can complete homework on time, seriously, carefully, and without carelessness, he is already on the road to excellence. on the main road. The fastest way to destroy a child is to yell at him whenever he makes a mistake, and yell at him as hard as he can. There is a classic saying about tutoring children to do their homework: \”If you don\’t do your homework, a mother is kind and her son is filial. If you do, you will be like a chicken and a dog.\” \”Homework tutoring\” is simply a nightmare for many parents and children. If they are not careful, they will lose control of their emotions and trigger a family war. The consequences are that both children and parents will suffer losses. Some time ago, I saw a post from a mother on the Internet: When her child was doing papers at school, he was almost straight again.The accuracy rate is high, but when I do the test paper at home, it is slow and the accuracy rate is low, and the handwriting is a mess. She tore up her child\’s homework book in a fit of rage, and prepared to send the child to the trash can the next morning, asking the child if he wanted to study or pick up trash. We can understand this mother\’s behavior, but we definitely don\’t agree with it. This kind of rough education method will only leave an indelible shadow in the child\’s heart and deepen the child\’s aversion to homework. Yin Jianli said in \”A Good Mother is Better than a Good Teacher\”: \”Violent education can make children obedient, but will not make them smart and sensible; it can make them obedient, but will not make them conscious and motivated. \”If parents blindly adopt educational methods of suppressing, blaming, and yelling, it will not only be ineffective, but will also cause more serious consequences. Dr. Martin Teicher of Harvard Medical School once conducted a study: He led a team to spend decades observing the changes in the brains of children who have been exposed to verbal violence from their parents for a long time. Research has found that children living in this environment have a significant reduction in the size of their hippocampus (a key brain area for memory formation), and a significant decline in memory and reaction speed, which in turn affects their IQ. This process doesn\’t even take long. In just a few years, parents can \”shape\” their originally smart and smart children into \”stupid kids\” with poor language understanding and slow reactions through yelling and scolding. Education should be a silent nourishing process of spring breeze turning into rain and moisturizing things, rather than being destructive like a violent storm. Parents\’ emotional out-of-control and improper education methods not only fail to truly solve their children\’s learning problems, but may cause long-term, irreversible psychological and physical damage to their children. The French thinker Rousseau wrote in \”Emile\”: \”Nature wants children to be like children before they become adults. If we disrupt this order, it will cause some premature fruits that will not grow as long as they grow. Plump and not sweet. \”It is precisely because children are children that they cannot control themselves and rely on violent means to suppress their nature, which will only destroy them step by step. Parents are adults after all, and they should have stronger emotional management abilities and correct educational methods to guide their children to become more positive and motivated. Now that you have brought your children into this world, treat them well and don\’t regret it after you push them away. The correct way to accompany your children to do homework is as follows. The famous educator Huo Maozheng once said: \”Every child is motivated and willing to learn well. The key lies in how to guide them.\” When parents do it right, children will naturally become more mature. Self-discipline and excellence. Parents, please accept these 4 correct ways to accompany your children to do homework. 1. Set up a special space for children to do homework, and make it as simple as possible. If the place where the children do their homework is not fixed, it can be in the living room, dining table, bedroom, etc., but it will not be conducive to the children getting into a learning state. If you have the conditions at home, you can set up a separate desk for your child, or set up a study corner in a quieter place. Do not place items that will distract the child, and remove all except necessary paper and pens. Let children develop a good habit of consciously starting to learn as soon as they enter this space. 2. Understand how children of different ages maintain concentrationTime, reasonable arrangements for children\’s study and rest. Learning to rest and relax is a compulsory course that both parents and children must learn. Humans are not machines, and the time they can focus on one thing is limited. The same is true for children\’s learning. If you blindly force children to study uninterrupted, it will only arouse children\’s negative emotions. Knowing how to make use of children\’s nature and being relaxed and relaxed is what a truly good parent should do. For example, if a 10-year-old child can maintain concentration for 20-50 minutes, parents can allow the child to rest for ten minutes after doing homework for half an hour to give the child buffer time to avoid anxiety. 3. Plan the study time according to the quantity and difficulty of the assignments. It is recommended to follow the principle of “from difficult to easy”. For children, the sense of achievement and satisfaction is an important source of motivation. If you write the easy ones first and then the difficult ones when doing homework, the child will feel that the challenge will be greater as you go to the end, and the more you write, the more tired you will be, and you are likely to give up; on the contrary, if you write the difficult ones first and then the easy ones, the child will The more I write, the smoother I feel, the more I write, the greater my sense of accomplishment, and the more I am willing to write. Therefore, before asking children to do homework, parents can ask them three questions: \”Which subject is the most difficult to do in the homework? Which subject is the easiest? Are there any homework that need to be memorized?\” According to the child\’s answers Arrange the order of homework appropriately. 4. Accompany but do not supervise. Be your child\’s \”learning partner\” rather than a \”supervisor\”. Children are playful by nature, and if they want to be self-disciplined, they must first rely on other disciplines. Many parents know this truth, so when their children do homework, they often choose to sit next to them and accompany them. However, if you don\’t grasp the \”degree\” of this companionship well, keep an eye on the child all the time, and yell at the child when you find that the child has made a mistake or the handwriting is not written well, it will only make him more and more nervous. Children who write homework under this kind of \”supervision\” will not only fail to develop good study habits, but their homework speed will also become slower. Therefore, if parents want to accompany their children to do homework, they can take a book or newspaper to read beside them, creating an atmosphere of joint learning and subtly immersing the children in learning. Educator Mann said: \”Habit is like a cable. We wrap it with a new rope every day. It will not be long before it becomes unbreakable.\” The emergence of every outstanding child is inseparable from the efforts of his parents. Entrustment is inseparable from the loving devotion of parents. Parents who truly love their children know how to cultivate good study habits and self-discipline in their children as early as possible. A child\’s good grades start from writing every day\’s homework. Light up \”Like\”, I hope all parents can master the correct education methods and grow up with their children!