After checking the results of the college entrance examination, tell your children: Failure in the exam does not mean failure in life

The results of the high school and college entrance examinations are coming out soon, some are happy and some are sad. If your child fails in an exam, especially if he is sensitive, parents must pay attention. Children with sensitive hearts can easily fall into negative emotions of belittling themselves, and even engage in extreme behaviors such as self-harm or harming others in order to divert their inner anxiety. In previous years, a college entrance examination student in Guangxi committed suicide by jumping off a building because he failed the exam. What’s even sadder is that there are also children who transfer their negative emotions onto others. For a student in Zibo, Shandong, his parents often compare him with the first place. But no matter how hard he tried, he still came in second place. What determines a child\’s life is not the college entrance examination, but the fourth and fifth grades! Seeing that it was not too late, after failing another exam, he was so angry that he stabbed the first place 13 times, causing him to die on the spot. When he was captured by the police, he also said: \”Kill the first one, and I will be the first.\” 2 In a competitive society, parents\’ love and responsibility force them to \”force\” their children to study. There is nothing wrong with society, and there is nothing wrong with parents\’ love and responsibility. What\’s wrong is that they only teach their children to win, but not to lose. For a child who can\’t afford to lose, a single failure in an exam will ruin his life. But losing is the normal state of life. No one can win all the time. Li Xigui, principal of the Beijing Eleven School Alliance, said, \”What is frustration education? It is to let children know that there is light when they experience setbacks.\” Why do some children jump off buildings? That is, after he has experienced setbacks, he feels that it is over and that he has completely failed. Life is not like this. We must let our children know that it doesn’t matter if they fail, there must still be light after failure. \”Teaching children from pursuing winning to learning to lose determines their life\’s destiny. 3 Mentality is the key to victory or defeat. You must know that mentality is a shortcut to happiness earlier than methods. Children with a good mentality will understand that they have lost an exam. , does not mean they have lost in life. They have the courage to start over, never compromise and never give up. Only if they are not knocked down by failure can they have the opportunity to succeed. People with a good attitude not only have happiness, but also have unexpected surprises. Former Americans Before President Roosevelt became president, his home was robbed. After hearing the news, a friend quickly wrote a letter to comfort him. In his reply, Roosevelt said that he was very lucky. First, all he stole was my stuff. , without harming my life. Second, he only stole some of my things, not all of them. Third, and most fortunately, he was the thief and not me. Roosevelt\’s positive attitude also allowed him to gain In the context of the Great Depression, he was elected president with the support of the American people. Most of the time, what hurts us is not the tragic experience itself, but our response to the tragic experience. Nothing is lethal unless you want it to be. Pessimistic people, Always stare at what is lost; optimistic people always see what can be gained. As the saying goes, a blessing in disguise is a blessing in disguise. When you look back at the end of a thousand sails, those who hurt you in the first place are probably the ones who helped you ride the wind and waves. Then Only then did we understand that only by having a good attitude can we live a life without hardship and believe that we are the sun, shining brightly.