I was chatting with a friend. When he talked about his daughter Xiaojia, he was anxious and angry: \”I feel like my daughter is too honest and she will always be the one who gets bullied.\” \”She was pushed down the slide by a little boy at the playground. She was kicked by a little girl in the kindergarten and her legs were bruised. She didn\’t tell me when she got home. When I was giving her a bath, I saw her and she told me.\” The friend said, looking at her daughter. Such a loser, I started to reflect: Did I teach my child to be too friendly, which would lead to her being bullied? I even want to blurt out to my daughter: Next time a child hits you, just hit him back to let him know that you are not easy to mess with. But I turned around and thought again, isn’t it a bad idea to teach children this way? 01If a child is bullied, should he fight back? In fact, when you instruct your child to \”fight back\”, you are telling him: You see, violence can solve problems. But in fact, \”fighting violence with violence\” not only fails to solve the problem from the root, but will also distort the children\’s values in the future. I have personally seen a parent complain to his child, \”Didn\’t I teach you to fight back before? Why don\’t you remember?\” The child stood aside, feeling particularly aggrieved. Teaching children to fight back will not make them stronger, but less confident. Because the message parents send to their children is that the children are beaten because they are not good enough, they do not know how to protect themselves, and they are too weak. It was the child\’s inability to handle conflicts on his own that led to the consequences of being beaten. Moreover, children may not necessarily have the ability to \”fight back.\” Because you blindly encourage your child to challenge children who are taller and stronger than him, the final result is that the child will be bullied more seriously. This is another kind of secondary harm to the children. 02Teacher reminds: 2 qualities are talismans for children. In kindergarten, you will find that no one dares to bully some children. Kindergarten teacher reminds: Because having these two qualities is a talisman for children in kindergarten. Children who know \”self-protection\” should not label their children as \”weak\” when they are bullied and fail to fight back. Most kids, just don’t know what to do with themselves? Take my friend\’s daughter Xiaojia for example. Children pushed her down and kicked her feet. She didn\’t know how to deal with it? Maybe she didn\’t realize that it was a child bullying her. Bullying is relatively common in children\’s interactions. If it is not handled well, it can easily cause great harm to children\’s physical and mental health. Using picture books to help children understand the concept of bullying and how to deal with it early is a way to prevent problems before they happen. This set of picture books \”I Don\’t Like Bullying\” is a self-protection book that helps children learn to say \”no\” loudly, teaches them to recognize bullying and stay away from harm. In fact, in the process of social interaction, children will inevitably encounter setbacks, conflicts with other children, and even be bullied. So how should children be taught to cope? This set of picture books provides a good idea. This set of picture books has a total of 8 volumes, with 8 short stories with themes close to life, such as \”I Don\’t Like Being Bullied\”, \”I Don\’t Like Being Pushed\”, \”I Don\’t Like Being Ridiculed\”, \”I Don\’t Like Being Discriminated\”, \” I don’t like being called names” and so on, comprehensively showing the different forms of bullying. By reading picture books, children can understand in time and stay away from thisYou will also learn how to deal with some injuries. Let your children not be bullies or doormats. Only a child who knows \”self-protection\” can learn to protect himself better, and no one will dare to bully him. Children with \”firm eyes\” Some children have a softer personality and do not dare to fight back when bullied. In fact, kindergarten teachers said that children who are not small and thin will be easily bullied. Basically no one dares to bully those kids with \”firm eyes\”. why? Because: Children with firm eyes and looking directly at each other are the most aura and give people a feeling that they are not easy to mess with. Dodging and avoiding your eyes will only make people think that you are not confident and that you are a \”soft persimmon\”. Please let your children remember: the eyes are the soul of the aura, hiding the child\’s energy and courage. Parents must firmly encourage their children to be brave. Although their children have a gentle personality, it is not a bad thing. In fact, no one would want to be friends with a domineering child. Although the child\’s expressive ability is limited, his understanding ability is not bad. Whoever tolerates that unreasonable and hitting guy will be avoided by everyone. After children enter kindergarten, they enter a more real world. Because it is different from home, without mom and dad to accompany you one-on-one, you will have conflicts with children, be bullied, and get hurt.
You are Here
- Home
- Parenting knowledge
- infancy
- After entering kindergarten, why no one dares to bully some children? Teacher reminds: 2 qualities are talismans for babies