After hearing what a parent said to his child, I concluded that his education was a failure.

One day at around 7 o\’clock in the morning, I was walking from outside the school to the school and saw a mother standing at the school gate looking into the school. Following her line of sight, I saw a boy of about third or fourth grade, carrying a large schoolbag on his back and a handbag in his hand, walking slowly forward. I had just taken a few steps when I heard the parent shouting to the child: \”Can\’t you walk properly?!\” I was shocked at that time. A while later, I was still pondering this statement. Although I only saw a small moment, from this sentence, including the parent\’s attitude, tone and method, we can get a glimpse of the leopard and infer that there may be a big problem with his family education method. First of all, parents yelling at their children at the school gate: \”Can\’t you walk properly?!\” This is definitely disrespectful to the child. If a child is loudly scolded by his mother in public, especially for a trivial matter like \”walking\”, he may feel unhappy and even mutter: \”Can\’t I even walk? Don\’t I want to lose face?\” This method will undoubtedly Hurt your child\’s self-esteem. Secondly, seeing this child carrying two large bags, looking listless and dragging his way to the classroom on Monday morning, it can be inferred that he is reluctant or even procrastinating. This shows that he resists going to school and lacks self-confidence, but he has no choice but to go. Such performance should have a lot to do with the parents\’ strong attitude. Strong parents often raise children with low self-esteem. The stronger the parents, the weaker the children. On the contrary, if parents know how to show weakness and let their children feel their own value, the children will have more self-confidence. If parents have to intervene and criticize even small things like walking, then in other aspects, such as homework and behavioral habits, children will definitely receive a lot of criticism, blows and negation. In the long run, children\’s self-confidence will naturally be severely affected. The third is the lack of security. If parents can scold their children loudly at the school gate, they may be even less polite at home. If a parent often yells to communicate with his or her children, the child\’s sense of security will inevitably be poor. This sense of security and belonging is an important source of a person\’s psychological energy. When a person has a sufficient sense of belonging, he will face difficulties and setbacks bravely, because he knows that no matter whether his performance is good or bad, someone will always accept him and there will always be a place for him in the family. World-famous explorer Bear Grylls, known as \”Bear\”, said: \”My parents love me very much. They don\’t care much about report cards. They allow me to be myself. So I have confidence in myself.\” , can work hard to strive for something of real value. Therefore, I never mind risks and I am not afraid of failure, because I do not have to face the punishment after failure. What is really important to me is the freedom to strive for my dreams. Take good care of my family and friends.” Pei’s experience is a good example of the important role of a sense of belonging and psychological safety in a person. Fourth, regarding the issue of autonomy. This parent appears to be very strong and interferes in even such small matters. It is conceivable that he interferes a lot in other aspects as well. The more interference and control parents have, the less autonomy their children have. And autonomy is one of the core driving forces of behavior. ifEverything has to be managed, and children are as passive as puppets, lacking the ability to make their own decisions. From this parent’s words and momentary parent-child communication, we can infer that there is a problem with their education method. This method will lead to children’s lack of self-confidence, self-esteem, autonomy and security, which are the core motivations of a person’s behavior. , with these motivations, a person will develop healthily. Of course, this may be over-analysis. Everyone makes mistakes in parenting, the key is to be aware of these mistakes and be willing to keep learning and improving for the healthy growth of your children. Educating children is not only companionship and guidance for the children, but also a form of continuous self-growth for the parents. As this moment reflects, parents\’ words and actions play a crucial role in a child\’s development. By continuously improving education methods, parents can not only help their children grow up healthily, but also achieve self-growth in the process.