After I became a parent, I discovered that if I paid less attention to these 4 things, my children would actually show amazing leadership skills.

Parents, have you discovered that your children actually have amazing potential? Some time ago, my little baby gave me a big surprise, which gave me a new understanding of my child\’s abilities. That day, I took my 8-year-old son to a parent-child event. During the activity, children need to form their own teams to complete tasks. I wanted to help, but when I thought about the parenting books I had read recently, I resisted the urge. The results really surprised me! My little guy, who usually seems a bit introverted, actually took the initiative to organize discussions and distributed tasks reasonably. Looking at his confident look, I couldn\’t believe my eyes! This incident gave me great inspiration: It turns out that our usual excessive intervention may actually limit the development of children\’s abilities. Children actually have potential that we cannot imagine. The key is that we must learn to \”control it less\” and give them room to develop. So, what are the things we should pay less attention to? Xiao Yunduo summarized the following four points based on her own experience and professional knowledge, hoping to give some inspiration to parents. The first point: stay away from children’s social circles. Many parents like to interfere in their children’s social circles. They always feel that this child is bad and that child has problems. But do you know? Doing so will affect the development of children\’s social skills. I remember one time, I found that my son was having a good time with a \”naughty\” classmate, and I almost wanted to stop him. But I stopped the car in time and decided to observe first. Unexpectedly, through getting along with this friend, my baby became better at expressing his thoughts and learned how to find a balance in conflicts. This made me realize that every friend can be a boost to a child’s growth. What we have to do is not to screen for them, but to silently support them. Psychologist Piaget once said: \”Children develop social skills and moral concepts through interaction with peers.\” Yes, by allowing children to socialize independently, they can truly learn how to get along with others, which is important for future leadership. Basics! The second point: Pay less attention to children’s interests and hobbies. Speaking of this, I really feel deeply. I still remember that when my baby was 5 years old, he became obsessed with painting. I was quite happy at the time, thinking that I had finally found my child’s interest. It didn’t take long before he became obsessed with Lego again, and I almost lost my temper. But then I figured it out, why do we have to set a lifelong interest for our children? So, I started supporting him in trying different activities. Guess what? My little guy is now not only improving his painting skills by leaps and bounds, but he can also put Lego bricks into various magical works. What surprised me the most was that he learned how to integrate knowledge from different fields. A child\’s interest is like a small tree. We need to give it sunshine and rain instead of forcing it to break into the shape we want. Allowing children to explore various interests freely can not only cultivate their creativity, but also exercise their decision-making skills. These are essential qualities for leaders! Point 3: Less control over children’s learning methods When it comes to learning, many parents may become nervous. I understand, I used to be a \”tiger mother\”, always wanting to take care of my children\’s learning. Once, I saw my son doing a math problem. There was a simpler solution, but he had to make a big detour. I couldn\’t help but want to correct him, but then I thought, why not let him explore on his own? The results are really unexpected. Although his method seems complicated, it can be applied to other types of questions. Since then, I have begun to respect my child\’s learning style and only provide guidance when he encounters difficulties. Do you know? Every child has their own unique way of learning, and our job is not to change it, but to appreciate and support it. Allowing children to learn independently can not only cultivate their independent thinking ability, but also enhance their self-confidence. These are essential qualities for future leaders! Point 4: Less control over children’s emotional expressions When it comes to emotional management, I really feel deeply. I remember one time, my son lost his temper because of a trivial matter, and I almost couldn\’t help but scold him. But I suddenly remembered a saying from a psychologist: \”There is no right or wrong way to express emotions.\” So, I took a deep breath and asked him calmly: \”Baby, are you angry now?\” Can you tell mom why?\” Unexpectedly, this question opened up the child\’s heart. Not only did he express his grievances, he also took the initiative to propose a solution. Since then, my baby has become better at expressing his emotions, and can even take the initiative to comfort children who are depressed. Learning to identify and express emotions is the key to developing children\’s emotional intelligence. And high emotional intelligence is an essential quality for future leaders! Allowing children to manage their emotions independently can not only enhance their self-awareness, but also improve their interpersonal skills. Speaking of this, Xiao Yunduo remembered the words of the famous educator Dewey: \”Education is not indoctrination, but igniting a flame.\” Yes, as parents, the most important thing is not to worry about everything for our children, but to give them opportunities. To explore, to try, to grow. Only in this way can they truly grow into leaders. Of course, \”less control\” does not mean not caring. In the process of children\’s growth, we must do the following: provide appropriate support and guidance, rather than do everything for them. Listen to your children more and respect their decisions. Cultivate children\’s ability to think independently and solve problems. Encourage children to have the courage to try and not be afraid of failure. Lead by example and set an example for your children with your own actions. Dear parents, it does take courage to let go, but please believe that this courage will eventually lead to the healthy growth of your children. Let us work together to give children a stage to show leadership! Finally, Xiao Yunduo would like to encourage everyone with one sentence: The best education is to let children become themselves. \”Let us use love and wisdom to accompany our children as they grow, so that they can become the best leaders!