After looking at top students with scores of 680 or above, I discovered that their families all have this common background.

In recent days, college entrance examination results have been released one after another. Many top students with high scores also browse the Internet. Chen Xiaoyu, a master of science from Inner Mongolia, scored 710 points, 30 points higher than his estimate. Especially in mathematics, he scored an astonishing 148.5 points, close to the perfect score. When asked what the \”secret\” is to achieve such results, Chen Xiaoyu said: He achieved such results not by blindly studying hard, nor by endless \”question-sea tactics\”, but by Depends on a good attitude. During his three years in high school, he was able to stay focused and maintain inner peace and confidence no matter what time he was in. He also has many daily hobbies, such as table tennis, playing Go, etc. And his ability to be so relaxed and peaceful is inseparable from the long-term nourishment and encouragement of his parents. In the past few days, I have studied the family education of many high-scoring academics in recent years, and I was surprised to find that many parents of outstanding academics do not work too hard on education, but learn to relax their children and give them a kind of self-control. A sense of relaxation from the inside out. This sense of relaxation is the secret behind many outstanding children. The family atmosphere is relaxed and the children are calm and confident. Have you noticed that if you look at the top achievers in the college entrance examination every year, they are not children who study hard. On the contrary, no matter how busy they are with school, they will stick to their interests and hobbies, and they can still have fun. And this is inseparable from the relaxed family atmosphere created by these top academic parents. Meng Linghao, a 711 academic top student from Shandong, has had a very democratic and liberal family atmosphere since he was a child. His parents did not have any strict requirements for his studies, and they did not force him to attend any subject tutoring classes. He has been interested in playing the cello since elementary school. Many children who study art are forced by their parents to give up their artistic hobbies because of unstable performance. But Meng Linghao\’s parents always respected and supported his choice, which allowed him to balance his studies and interests, stabilize his mentality, and finally make a counterattack. A relaxed and free growing environment will allow children to relax physically and mentally, devote themselves to learning comfortably, and maintain an optimistic attitude. Zhu Kehang, a top student from Zhejiang, became a hot topic because he won the Guo Moruo Scholarship. He has loved playing since he was a child, from skating, skateboarding, Rubik\’s Cube… to Three Kingdoms and Four Kingdoms. His parents not only did not stop him, but also allowed him to invite a bunch of friends to play at home. Zhu Kehang, who loves to play and study all the way, not only successfully entered the University of Science and Technology of China, but also received full scholarship offers from 9 prestigious schools when he graduated… …and Ding Runyang, the top liberal arts student in Jiangsu Province’s College Entrance Examination, has loved playing Go since he was a child and is an “Amateur Five-dan Go” player. Playing Go has developed his strong ability to resist frustration and his correct attitude towards gains and losses, allowing him to maintain a normal mind during exams. Therefore, I especially recommend that parents allow and even cultivate some children\’s hobbies, such as musical instruments, painting, photography, sports, etc. This can help children reduce stress through hobbies, relax and find the joy of life after intense study. Only by creating a relaxed and free family background can children work hard without distraction, develop freely, and grow up confident and sunny. Parents feel relaxed and their children feel safe. A friend of mine has been a junior high school teacher for more than ten years. She once told a story about the fall of a top student.\”Example. The child had excellent academic performance and served as a school committee member for several years. Unfortunately, his parents had a very bad temper. Every time they saw his grades decline, they would beat or scold him. They would even ridicule him in front of other people and call him stupid. Like pigs. Children who live in a hostile family environment for a long time become particularly irritable and impatient, talk back to teachers, and their grades get worse. The Chinese Academy of Educational Sciences once conducted a survey on what family factors are responsible for this. Does the child\’s performance have a greater impact? The results show that the more positive the parents\’ emotions are, the higher the proportion of their children\’s excellent performance. Gu Ailing\’s mother Gu Yan is an emotionally stable and positive person. Her friends say: You rarely listen. When she (Gu Yan) complains, she always says, \”This is a good thing, go ahead and do it.\” You will always laugh when you are with her, and she will make everything interesting. When her daughter was sick or injured, she responded very calmly. When her daughter encountered setbacks in her growth, she always smiled, encouraged her and hugged her. Under the influence of her mother, Gu Ailing had a very good character. Positive and sunny, extremely resistant to frustration, and mentally strong. In psychology, there is a concept called \”emotional container\”. A good parent should be an emotional container for children when their anxiety, fear, and anger are released. Parents should be able to catch it and then turn it into relaxation, warmth and strength. Zhao Qichen, a boy from Ningbo who was admitted to Tsinghua University with a score of 705 in the college entrance examination, once said that his mother had an influence on him. Especially big. He was full of gratitude when talking about his mother: \”My mother never scolded me for my unsatisfactory grades. She always encouraged me and supported me when I was confused and lost. \”When a child is growing up, no matter how the child behaves, parents must be positive and optimistic and maintain a positive and stable mood. Only when parents\’ emotions are as relaxed as water can they nourish the child\’s heart like a trickle and give her enough security and confidence. Only in this way can we devote ourselves to study and life without hesitation. The parent-child relationship is loose and the child is not internally dissatisfied. A psychological counselor told a story: A father brought his son who was in the third grade of junior high school to ask for help, saying that he was in the critical period of entering school. He was extremely rebellious. He refused to do his homework every day and followed his classmates to skip classes and surf the Internet. He was beaten and scolded, but it was all to no avail. His son finally couldn\’t bear it anymore and began to accuse his father of all kinds of things: \”You only think about making money. How many times a month can I go home… At the parent-teacher conference, the parents of other classmates are here. Where are you? When I first entered junior high school and I was bullied by others, did you ever care about me? \”At that moment, the father was speechless. The consultant couldn\’t help but sigh: \”Whether it is a child\’s behavioral problems or emotional problems, many of them are relationship problems. \”If the parent-child relationship is very tense, there will be a kind of confrontation in the family, which will make the children suffer from anxiety, tension, and internal conflict for a long time. Last year, Yuan Shuai, a student from Chengdu, Sichuan, achieved an excellent score of 711 in science. Yuan Shuai’s mother once suggested in an interview that parents should make friends with their children and have a good parent-child relationship. When Yuan Shuai was in the first grade of junior high school, he had to get along with his mother because he was in the period of youth rebellion.Gotta be a little stiff. In order to get closer to her children, she chose to start playing games that her son liked and started playing Honor of Kings. There are also twin brothers from Changsha, Hunan, Shen Zhi and Shen Ze who both scored 688 points in the college entrance examination. Their parents once said in interviews that the couple is very busy with work, but they still try their best to spend time with their children. Moreover, they carefully observed that the two children were very sensitive and required extra attention from their parents. Therefore, they do their best to provide their children with timely emotional support and maintain a good parent-child relationship with their children. Only in this way can children be distracted and devote all their energy to learning. Without a good parent-child relationship, all education is equal to zero. Parents should spend more time with their children, understand more about what their children like and think, and provide timely emotional support in order to continuously nourish their children\’s hearts. The parents are relaxed and the children are optimistic and positive. In \”The Ununderstood Boy\”, there is a 6th grade girl named NG. Not only was she depressed and self-harming, she also committed suicide. My mother has always had a morbid obsession with her grades. After every exam, many parents would talk about how many points their children got, and NG’s mother would come back and say, “I don’t even dare to say you got such a low score.” NG usually only needs to play with his mobile phone. Or if your grades drop, you will be ignored and insulted by your parents. She and her mother often had arguments. One time, the two had a particularly serious argument. In anger, NG jumped from the third floor. Fortunately, a passerby caught her and she was only slightly injured. The \”China Youth Development Report\” shows that about 30 million children and adolescents under the age of 17 in my country are troubled by various emotional disorders and behavioral problems. In today\’s involutionary environment, many parents have high expectations for their children, which puts their children under heavy pressure. However, they ignore that the child is likely to become injured due to the anxiety and internal conflict day after day. The more parents want their children to win, the more they should overcome anxiety and maintain a relaxed and stable mentality. Meng Linghao\’s grades had always been average before high school, but his parents never criticized him. They always encouraged and guided him. \”Even if I failed in the exam, they always comforted me.\” Some time ago, I was particularly moved when I saw such a hot search. A mother found that her daughter in her senior year of high school was under too much academic pressure, so she tried various ways to make her daughter happy. She even bought a marshmallow machine online, skipped a night of self-study with her daughter, and let her make marshmallows by herself. That night, my daughter finally had a carefree smile on her face. If the string in a child\’s heart is pulled too tightly, it will break one day. Really smart parents have already done this, anti-anxiety, anti-involution, and anti-internal friction. Only in this way can the child be given enough comfortable freedom and space to move forward steadily and be full of energy. Soong Ching Ling once said: Children\’s characters and talents are ultimately influenced by their families and parents. For children, the college entrance examination is a long-lasting marathon that constantly challenges themselves; for parents, it is not a protracted battle that tests wisdom and patience. Be a pair of relaxed parents, cultivate your mentality and emotional stability, and give your children real care and love.Only through protection can children light their way forward. I hope that all children can be in a warm and relaxed family atmosphere, not afraid of the stars and the moon, not afraid of wind and rain, and brave the wind and waves in the future to make their dreams come true. Click \”Like\” and encourage everyone.