After reading Ruyi\’s Royal Love in the Palace, I realized that cultivating these three qualities of my daughter is more important than raising her rich.

After \”Story of Yanxi Palace\”, the costume drama \”Ruyi\’s Royal Love in the Palace\” became a hit. One of the plots is: After three years of being wronged, Ruyi, played by Zhou Xun, finally got out of the cold palace with the joint efforts of the \”Ruyi Sisters Army\” and made step-by-step plans to become the queen. After reading Ruyi\’s counterattack experience, I admired her, but when I looked at my daughter, I couldn\’t help but think deeply. It\’s not easy to raise a girl, and I can\’t always be by her side to protect her. So, what qualities and confidence can I give my daughter to resist everything? In \”Ruyi\’s Royal Love in the Palace\”, I found the answer. Self-protection is the first compulsory course. Hailan is one of the members of the \”Ruyi Sisters Army\” and the best sister of Ruyi in the palace. Although Hailan came from a humble background, her talents were not inferior to those of other concubines in the harem. When she first entered the palace, she didn\’t want to compete for favor, she just wanted to live a normal life. However, how can one be alone in the harem? Empress Fucha knew that she and Ruyi were sisters, and deliberately assigned her to live with Ruyi\’s arch-rival Gao Guifei. In Gao Guifei\’s palace, Hailan was not only deprived of heating charcoal, but was also framed as a thief, brutally searched, and humiliated both physically and mentally. Thanks to Ruyi\’s protection, Hailan managed to gain a foothold in the palace. Unexpectedly, Empress Fucha bribed the palace maid and framed Ruyi for poisoning the royal heir, forcing the emperor to banish Ruyi to the cold palace. Without Ruyi\’s protection, Hailan was still bullied despite being careful in the palace. She couldn\’t help but go to the cold palace in the rain to cry to Ruyi. But Ruyi, who was in the cold palace, could do nothing but tell Hailan that if she couldn\’t protect herself, she would have to learn to rely on the strength of others. Hailan, who has always relied on Ruyi for survival, finally understood: no one can rely on forever, and self-protection is the best weapon. With talent and wisdom, Hailan quickly gained the emperor\’s favor and soon became pregnant with a child. After that, Hailan implemented a bitter trick to help Ruyi get rid of the suspicion. Hailan overcame her weakness and learned to protect herself, and then she was better able to help Ruyi stand up and counterattack. Wang Dawei, a well-known safety education expert and criminology professor, once warned parents: Bad guys like to attack children who are weak, have no ability to protect themselves, and are frightened when they encounter problems. Wu Tianmu, the child of the famous educator Wu Ganlin, was also kidnapped. After Wu Tianmu was kidnapped, he remembered his father\’s teachings of \”God helps those who help themselves.\” As a result, he quickly calmed down and planned a self-rescue plan in his mind. When there was no one around, he didn\’t fight hard, but pretended to cooperate and win the trust of the bad guys. When the gangster took him past a restaurant, Wu Tianmu took the opportunity to rush in and knock over the dishes in the waiter\’s hand. He was surrounded by the waiters, thus completing his own rescue. Afterwards, Wu Ganlin said with emotion: Fortunately, I always reminded my child that danger could happen at any time, and taught him to act according to circumstances. Children, this world is a beautiful place, but it is also full of dangers. For girls, life is full of dangers, and learning self-protection is the first required course in life. She has clear goals and sticks to her original aspirations. She is an important member of the \”Ruyi Sisters Army\” and Ruyi\’s trusted maid. Xingxin\’s goal is very clear, and his original intention is also very simple. He has identified Ruyi as his master, so he supports him wholeheartedly, follows him in a down-to-earth manner, and serves his master loyally.Double mindedness. Unlike Aruo, another maid who betrayed Ruyi, Lingxin never abandoned Ruyi or lost herself after identifying Ruyi. Ruyi was thrown into the cold palace, but Yingxin did nothing wrong and was not forced to do anything. He knew that he might spend the rest of his life with Ruyi in the cold palace, but he still chose to follow her. After Ruyi came out of the cold palace, she was falsely accused by Concubine Jia of having an affair with an eminent monk, and Yingxin was also imprisoned in the Shenxing Department and tortured. Jia Fei attempts to attack Xing Xin Qu, and it turns out to be Ruyi\’s \”crime\”. However, Lingxin had a clear goal, adhered to her original intention, and was loyal to her master. Even though her left leg was clipped and fractured, or even beaten into a disability, she still did not mention Ruyi\’s name, so that Concubine Jia could not accuse Ruyi. After being beaten to a disability in the Shenxing Division, Yingxin could no longer serve and assist Ruyi. Ruyi decided to let her leave the palace to marry her sweetheart, away from the bloody chaos of the palace, and return to a peaceful life. After experiencing suffering and pain, Xing Xin, who never forgets his original intention and is loyal to his main purpose, finally finds his own good destination. \”Clear goals and stick to the original intention\” is simple to say. But after setting out, how many children forget why they set out in the first place as they go; and how many children choose to give up midway after experiencing some difficulties and setbacks. Recently, in a variety show \”Longing for Life\”, Liu Xianhua and violinist Lu Siqing performed a perfect song together, while Angelababy and Wang Xun, who were also guests, were watching with envy. At that time, Angelababy said something that was deeply touching: Why didn’t anyone force me in the first place? If someone had forced me, if I had not given up, if I could have anchored my goal and persevered, the current situation would not be what it is today. Today, for girls, there is still a thought in society that \”it is better to marry well than to study well.\” It seems that girls do not need to have goals and ideals. As long as they are beautiful and find a good man to marry, their lives will be complete. In the past few days, the news that \”Shanghai\’s most beautiful woman\” Shen Lijun committed suicide by jumping off a building has been making a lot of noise. She has a sweet appearance and is an actress and model. She was the runner-up in the \”Initial D\” Drift Girl Competition (All Asia). Even Louis Koo praised her. Louis Koo and Shen Lijun, however, her acting career was supposed to be on the rise, but she gave up her career after getting married and became a full-time wife. She gave birth to a son and a daughter in three years, and worked hard to support her husband and raise her children, but what she got in return was her husband\’s disgust, indifference, and cheating. Under long-term depression, Shen Lijun suffered from cervical cancer, but her husband still hung out with her mistress and called her a \”mad dog\”. In the end, Shen Lijun couldn\’t bear it and finally chose to commit suicide. Although scumbags are hateful, but if you take a step back and think about it, if Shen Lijun has such good qualifications, if she can not forget her original intention, divorce decisively, and actively seek treatment, she will still live a beautiful life even if she starts over in her career. Girls have goals, never to please others, but a trump card to win respect and a pair of armor to resist the wind and rain of life. My child, you only have one life and you can’t repeat it. I hope you will have clear goals, stick to your original aspirations, and never give up easily. When you reach middle age and look back on the past, you will not regret that you wasted your years, nor will you be upset because you gave up on your dreams. One day, I hopeI hope you can proudly tell your children: Mom worked hard for her dreams in the most beautiful years of her life. I have no regrets in my life. I hope you can also pursue it boldly. Perseverance is the biggest factor in success. Ruyi is the heroine in the counterattack story. The three years of being relegated to the cold palace were the three years that Ruyi suffered from neglect and suffering, but she did not choose to give up when she felt the worst. On the contrary, the three years she spent in the Cold Palace were also three years of training for her. In three years, Ruyi suffered a lot and was harmed three times and four times. He almost died due to poisonous cakes, fire accidents, and poisonous snakes, and he also experienced the tragedy of his father\’s death. But with her perseverance, she not only supported herself through it, but also built a core team to help her aspire to the throne of queen. During the three years of Leng Gong, Ruyi successively acquired five confidants including Lingxin, Hailan, Li Yu, Jiang Yubin and Ling Yunche. These cronies are not only trustworthy, but also powerful assistants in assisting her on her way to the throne of queen. Ruyi\’s perseverance is exactly the quality that is most valued in educating children in the United States. Angela Duckworth, associate professor at the University of Pennsylvania, once said in a TED speech: \”Towards long-term goals, persist in your passion, and still be able to persevere in your efforts even after failure. This quality is called Grit – perseverance.\” From 2005 Since the beginning of this year, Professor Angela Duckworth and her team have spent nearly 10 years conducting research on thousands of high school students. They also observed and analyzed West Point Military Academy, National Spelling Bee Champions, top universities in the United States, etc. Her team found that: No matter what the circumstances, grit is the most reliable predictor of success compared to intelligence, academic performance, or appearance. index of. Life is always full of ups and downs, never smooth sailing. A weak person may be defeated in one blow, but for a perseverant person, difficulties are often an accelerator of growth. The reason why successful people are successful is that every time they encounter setbacks, they are particularly calm, able to put down their emotions, learn lessons, quickly adjust their status, and get up wherever they fall. Such perseverance has transformed them into invincible little heroes. Children, as girls, we have to admit that due to gender differences, you will encounter more difficulties and obstacles. If you want to grow up, you will hit the ceiling faster than boys. Before society gets better, you need to use your perseverance to break through the difficulties and barriers caused by gender differences. Please learn from Ruyi and remember that perseverance is more important than talent and IQ, and is the most important factor in determining your success. Learning to protect yourself, sticking to your goals without forgetting your original intention, and possessing perseverance are the skills Ruyi learned during her counterattack on the throne of queen. They are also the traits every girl needs to live her life as a \”queen\”. Life is like a drama, drama is like life. There are many truths. It is like this in the play, and it is also like this in life.