After reading these stories about stay-at-home dads, do you still dare to say that men don’t know how to take care of babies?

Every time I take my baby out in the community, it’s a beautiful sight. In the baby-walking circle where mothers, grandmothers and grandmothers gather together, he easily earned the title of \”Super Dad\”. What the neighbors saw was a big stay-at-home dad wearing a T-shirt and slippers, patiently helping his children play on the slide, playing in the sand with them, and laughing with them on the lawn… However, in the eyes of me, a mother of three, he took The baby\’s groove can almost go around the earth, and there are countless days in the year. If he is asked to go to sleep with Xiao Pai, he can ride on a spinning bike for 20 minutes first; if he is asked to take his second sister Ningning to play, he can take him to eat his favorite noodles first; if he is asked to tease Lisa, the third child After playing for a while, he could calmly take out his mobile phone…until I saw the media reporting a story about a Chongqing man who couldn\’t bear the hard work of his wife and quit his job to take care of the baby at home, which became popular online. When he was being interviewed, his positive energy, high awareness, and ability to take care of a baby made me suddenly brake and calm down – all good husbands come from other people\’s families. No matter how good my father is, he will never reach the level of a full-time nanny. I can\’t look at the height of a mountain. How awesome is this Chongqing full-time nanny dad? First of all, in terms of his ideological consciousness, he never believed that it was natural for a woman to give up her career and take care of her children. He broke away from the shackles of the traditional thinking of \”men take charge outside and women take charge inside\” and felt from the bottom of his heart that \”raising children is not only a woman\’s job, men are also important.\” He works in the machinery industry and has a stable income, but he will think rationally from the overall situation of his family. His wife is a pastry chef and loves her pastry business. When she gets busy, she cannot take care of her children. He cannot bear to let his wife give up this career, and he does not want her to regret interrupting her career. Originally, he could have asked the old man to help take care of the baby, but the old man was old and he felt that he should enjoy his old age in peace. In the end, he decided to quit his job to take care of the child because he felt that \”a man\’s career can be restarted, a woman\’s energy only lasts a few years, and a child\’s childhood is only once.\” After sorting it out in order, his decision became logical. Secondly, he is really interested in learning how to raise a baby. His baby is now 1 year old. He follows a lot of parenting public accounts, including those about baby food supplements and about developing good habits for children. He also told the reporter who interviewed him: \”Who says a man can\’t raise a baby well? If he is willing to work hard to study, he can still raise a baby well.\” Of course, the most important thing is to see how well he does. Changing the baby\’s diapers and coaxing the baby to sleep are all basic skills, not to mention a stay-at-home dad. It can be used as a complementary food for the baby, and it is also very stylish. Looking at the pictures he posted online, in addition to the staple food, he also made finger food for the baby. He also said that he couldn\’t stand it anymore, so he spent a lot of money to buy his baby eating equipment – a valuable angel clothing, just to feed the baby and teach the baby to use a spoon at the same time. Mothers are most afraid of their children getting sick. My father\’s baby once had vomiting and diarrhea for several days. He was given salt water and probiotics, and was later sent to the hospital. The most surprising thing is that my dad also has a big golden retriever, which is at least three times bigger than the baby! Can you imagine such a situation? A man, besides taking care of a 1-year-old baby in all kinds of situations, and had to serve a big dog, but he was able to hold it, and he was willing to stay at home alone for five months. Even if it were a mother, she would have been unable to help but growl in her heart, \”I want to go to work!\” Who is this man? Just as I was admiring the full-time nanny dads in Chongqing, I saw media reports that there are also such full-time nanny dads in Wuxi. The Wuxi dad’s daughter is 5 months old, and he is doing everything he can to breastfeed, play with her, and take her to early childhood education classes. But when I saw one of the pictures of spending time with my baby, I couldn’t help but laugh out loud. Well, here’s the picture below↓Dad looking at the computer screen with his 5-month-old baby! What a familiar scene, it’s exactly the same as when my dad was filming, okay? I suddenly realized that even if I became a stay-at-home dad, I still couldn\’t change the brain circuits shared by men. They are generally more generous than us mothers who raise children… They can just talk about it if they don\’t agree with each other. You can lift your baby high, of course, you can also put your baby who can’t sit on your neck to look cool. What’s wrong with taking your baby to watch TV on your phone or play on the computer? Even so, the wives of these two stay-at-home dads unanimously praised their husbands during interviews, saying that their husbands were better suited to raising children than themselves. The wife of a Chongqing nanny said that she has an impatient personality, but her husband is very patient. “He is indeed a very competent father when it comes to raising children. He is the main force in raising children, and I only help and cook. Now I am very I feel happy, and thank him for understanding me.\” Wuxi dad\’s wife said: \”He is much more patient than me, and his temper is gentle. I feel relieved that he takes care of the children, and I can also work hard outside.\” Look, to If you want your father to be the main force in raising children, you need a woman who can put things at ease, get likes, and be lazy. I saw a full-time nanny sharing his experience on Zhihu, saying that if you want to be a nanny, you must have patience: In terms of correcting children\’s bad habits, you cannot be rude and rude at all times, you must calm down, think, and be patient. But I can’t be so bad-tempered just because I see my child making mistakes. I’ll have a Dillahulme Light Flow on the left, a Zapelli Ao Light on the left, and finally an Ultra Flying Kick. Sincerity leads to gold and stone. Believe in the children, believe in yourself, and be patient and the children will accept it. Haha, this mess of \”Dirasium Light Flow\” and \”Zapellio Light\”… I checked and found out that it is Ultraman\’s special move. When men talk about their parenting experience, are all men’s brains so strange? This reminds me again that there is also a \”women\’s friend\” who works as a part-time nanny. Because his wife is busy at work, he became a freelance worker, taking care of the children and working part-time to earn some money when he was free. Every time the familiar mothers in the circle get together, he is the one carrying his 2-year-old son carrying a large bag on his back, and the child\’s mother is always talking and laughing while traveling lightly. Someone asked me, dad, what do you think is the most important skill that men need to learn when raising babies? He said with a serious face, he learned to recite a mantra – my dear, my dear, my dear… After he finished speaking, he actually closed his eyes and started to recite! The whole audience was amused by him and laughed. These fathers, even if they are full-time dads, may not have rich parenting theories, and may not be willing to read various parenting books, but when they take care of their children seriously, at least theyAbove the passing line. We always complain that our fathers are too weak in raising children, mostly because they do not meet the standards in our minds. If we never let him do it again just because he doesn\’t do it well, then we must also bear part of the responsibility for the \”widowed parenting\” caused by it. Sometimes, let’s put aside our expectations and standards and take a look. Even if the man we carefully choose to raise a child is not as good as the top, it is not as bad as we imagined.