After reading Zhuangzi 3 times, I finally know how to solve mental internal friction.

\”Zhuangzi\” records such a story. A man was walking on the road and accidentally saw his own shadow and footprints, thinking he had encountered a ghost. He ran quickly. Unexpectedly, the faster he ran, the more footprints he left, and the closer his shadow chased him. So he ran even harder until he died of exhaustion. Many times, the reason why people feel pain is not the matter itself, but the inner conflict. Just like the person in the story, he is too sensitive to the outside world, and the slightest disturbance will arouse emotional waves. In the end, he was completely crushed by his own entanglement and anxiety. Mr. Wen Yiduo said: \”Chinese culture will always retain the imprint of Zhuangzi.\” For thousands of years, Zhuangzi\’s wisdom not only contains knowledge about how to behave in the world, but also contains good medicine for repairing the soul. When you live in trouble and pain, you might as well read \”Zhuangzi\”. 01 Don’t complain about the hardships of life and learn to change your mentality. \”Zhuangzi Dasheng Chapter\” tells a story. There was a man named Sun Xiu who was very old but had accomplished nothing. He farmed in his hometown, but the harvest was poor every year; he went out to seek an official position, but met with obstacles everywhere. He was indignant all day, and once complained to his teacher Bian Qingzi: \”No one has ever questioned my morality and courage. I am in this situation only because God has arranged an unfortunate fate for me.\” Bian Qingzi After hearing this, he shook his head and said, \”You are completely intact. You are not deaf, blind, or lame. This is lucky enough. Why are you blaming God instead?\” After hearing this, Sun Xiu couldn\’t help but wonder. He said no more words and left in despair. Writer Zhang Defen said that complaining is the most energy-consuming and useless behavior. There are many people like Sun Xiu in life who always like to find someone to complain to when they encounter difficulties. As everyone knows, complaining not only does not help, but also surrounds you with negative energy and continuously consumes your own energy. Psychologist Angelou said: \”If you don\’t like something, then change it; if you can\’t change it, then change your own attitude.\” Only by complaining less and reflecting more and taking action can you get rid of internal friction. quagmire. In the second year of Qingli in the Northern Song Dynasty, Zeng Gong, a great talent, took the Jinshi examination, but unexpectedly failed. At that time, many people who had failed the list complained one after another. Some accused the examiners of being too harsh, while others complained that they were too unlucky. Zeng Gong didn\’t say a word, but silently packed his luggage for his return home. Before leaving, his teacher Ouyang Xiu called him over and said to him with regret: \”What a pity.\” Unexpectedly, Zeng Gong shook his head and said: \”I failed the exam because I didn\’t meet the requirements. Please ask the teacher Don’t worry, I will continue to study and take the exam again next year.” Faced with failure, Zeng Gong did not complain and criticize, but clearly recognized his own shortcomings. After returning to his hometown, he devoted himself to books and studied hard. Finally in the second year of Jiayou\’s reign, Zeng Gong took the exam again and passed the Jinshi examination with fourth place. \”Huainanzi\” says that those who know their fate do not blame heaven, and those who know themselves do not blame others. In the face of setbacks and misfortunes in life, instead of blaming others, it is better to change yourself and change your mentality. Hold an umbrella by yourself when it rains, get up alone when you fall. Only by not avoiding problems and attributing them inwardly can we turn complaints into motivation and easily overcome the difficulties of fate. 02 Don’t care about other people’s opinions and live your own life. \”Zhuangzi\” records, in the far north, there is a Kunpeng. Its back is thousands of miles long, and when it takes off, its wings are like clouds hanging in the sky. Kunpeng took advantage of the whirlwind to circle up and fly to the far south. When passing by a low-altitude area, the sparrow saw it and sneered: \”I flew up as soon as I jumped, and then fell down a few feet high and hovered in the basil bushes. This was also an excellent flight. Why are you so stupid? You want to go there.\” What about flying south at an altitude of 90,000 miles?\” Faced with the sparrow\’s ridicule, Kunpeng remained unmoved. It continued to soar, and finally flew to Tianchi in the south, gaining true freedom. In reality, we often encounter people like sparrows. They like to make random comments and are keen to point out. If you care too much about the scrutiny and criticism from the outside world, you will only suffer yourself in the end. In 1999, writer Yu Qiuyu was invited by the TV station to serve as the guest host of the documentary \”Millennium Journey\”. Unexpectedly, this \”appearance\” would attract huge slander from the outside world. Many readers and even critics accused him of being \”unpopular\”, \”fishing for fame\” and \”bowing to money\”. Faced with the overwhelming malice, Yu Qiuyu simply said: \”A horse travels a thousand miles without washing away the sand.\” In the following years, he traveled to more than 10 countries in Central Asia and Western Europe to explore historical sites and pursue the evolution of civilization. In the end, it took him more than four months to write classic works such as \”Walker Without Borders\” and \”A Thousand Years Sigh\”. These thoughtful and readable works have become the most powerful response to all doubts. Zhuangzi said: \”Praise the world without persuading someone, and criticize someone without discouraging someone from the world.\” We don’t need to be excited about the world’s praise, and we don’t need to be depressed about the world’s criticism. Only such people can live in their own rhythm without being disturbed by the outside world. Life is not easy, learn to let yourself go, don\’t be easily swayed by external noise, and don\’t kidnap yourself by other people\’s standards. When you block out the gossip from the outside world and focus on walking the right path, you will naturally be able to live your life well. 03Don’t get entangled in everything and live a relaxed life. The painter He Duoling once expressed a point of view in \”Thirteen Invitations\”: It is better to be more relaxed about everything. Living a life that is too tight will inevitably lead to tension and anxiety. Only when you relax can you untie yourself. There is a story in \”Zhuangzi Tian Zifang\”: Sun Shuao served as prime minister three times, but there was never any joy on his face. He was dismissed from office three times, but he never felt any sorrow. My friend Jianwu was very curious, so he asked Sun Shuao: \”How do you feel when you have been in office three times and dismissed three times?\” Sun Shuao replied: \”I think there is no need to refuse what should come, and you can\’t take back what should go. Gains and losses are your own. If you can\’t control it, why bother with it?\” As the writer Yi Shu said, life is about gains and losses, so don\’t be resentful. Facing the ups and downs of life, the best attitude is to adapt to things as they come, without worrying or fearing. During the reign of Emperor Gaozong of the Tang Dynasty, Lu Chengqing, the Minister of Civil Affairs, was responsible for the inspection and assessment of officials inside and outside the court. At that time, there was a transshipment envoy who was supervising the transportation of supplies for the imperial court. The ship encountered wind and waves on the way and lost a lot of grain and rice. Lu Chengqing gave him an evaluation comment: \”Lack of food due to bad luck, mid-range test\”. Seeing the evaluation, the official was very calm and turned around and left without saying anything. Lu Chengqing is verySurprised, you must know that the assessment level is directly linked to promotion and salary. After thinking about it, he felt that this person was very generous, so he changed the performance appraisal to \”beyond his ability, but he passed the exam.\” Unexpectedly, after the official found out, he still looked as calm as last time. Lu Chengqing appreciated this very much, and finally changed his performance evaluation to \”don\’t be surprised by favor or disgrace, pass the exam\”. Regardless of luck or misfortune, this official always had a calm mind. In the end, he gained inner calmness and was rewarded by life. Writer Wang Zengqi said: \”Don\’t be entangled, be less vulgar, be content with the situation, have an original intention, and cook life quietly and slowly.\” In this world, no one knows whether what will greet us tomorrow will be sunshine or wind and frost. If you are always worried and worry about everything, it will be like putting a pair of shackles on yourself. You might as well relax a little and take things lightly. In the chaos of life, only by remaining calm can you face the wind and rain with a smile and find a turning point in a desperate situation. \”Zhuangzi\” said: \”For external punishment, it is metal and wood; for internal punishment, it is movement and passing.\” External suffering usually comes from the instruments of torture; while internal suffering comes from the conflict between oneself and oneself. . Everyone is the creator and end of his own spiritual internal friction. Read \”Zhuangzi\”, and from now on, sort out your heart, don\’t complain, don\’t care, don\’t be anxious. Give it a like, get rid of mental internal friction, and live well every day in the future.