After seeing an intimate scene between a man and a woman in a movie, my 8-year-old daughter actually said this…

Picture | ANA MARIA NALE When I was just pregnant, my husband and I still hoped to have a boy. My husband is a traditional male chauvinist, but I think today\’s society is more complicated, and girls will have a hard time, and being a mother is too worrying. When our daughter was born, looking at her pink and jade little face, we had long forgotten all our previous thoughts. My husband bowed his head before and after, and even in his busy life, he did not forget to remind me: \”Such a beautiful baby must be taken care of.\” Come on, don’t let the pigs take over the cabbage that you have worked so hard to raise.” Mencius said, when heaven is about to entrust a great responsibility to a man, he must first strain his mind, work his muscles and bones, starve his body and skin, deplete his body, and make his movements chaotic. What he did, so he moved his heart and forbearance, was beneficial to what he could not do. If you ask me, it doesn\’t have to be that complicated at all, just let him be the mother. From a young age, I dare not lack any of the cultivation of IQ, emotional intelligence, physical intelligence, and reverse intelligence! Especially in the Internet age, there are many and complex sources of information, and society is more open. It is more extensive and easier for children to acquire all aspects of knowledge. How to filter and screen, and how to eliminate the bad and keep the good is an issue that parents must always pay attention to. Ever since she was a child, my daughter would ask curiously: “Where did I come from?” and “Why can mom and dad give birth to babies?” My husband and I also followed the instructions from experts and picture books to explain to her dad’s seeds—sperm. , and the mother\’s seed, the egg, met and became good friends, and a baby was conceived. Unfortunately, my daughter\’s thirst for knowledge was so strong that she insisted on asking us the truth. She kept asking us: \”How did dad plant the seeds into mom\’s belly? Did he dig a hole in her belly like a small tree?\” \”Is it hurting?\” The mother\’s stomach didn\’t hurt but her head hurt. She had to patiently explain: \”Love is a very magical thing. As long as two people truly love each other and get married, their seeds will grow because of love. They combine together to produce magical power. So love is also sacred and can only happen after growing up.\” The daughter nodded seriously and said: \”I understand, the seeds of mom and dad are like Ultraman, they merge and transform. , and then it became me, then, mother, did you give birth to me like a hen laying an egg? Then I am an Ultra Egg!\” Looking at the dancing \”Ultra Egg\”, I silently muttered in my heart: I do this. Not enough! After entering elementary school, we occasionally took her with us when we went to see some foreign blockbusters. However, there are more or less intimate scenes between men and women in foreign movies. Since my daughter is timid, if there is a fight scene in the movie, she will hide in my arms and not watch, so I follow the same pattern. Once there is an intimate scene between a man and a woman in the movie, I immediately tell her that there is a fight. Then I quickly put her in my arms and didn\’t look at her. At first, this method worked very well. She lay in my arms obediently until I let her go. Later, she realized something was wrong and asked me strangely: \”Mom, are they fighting? Why don\’t I hear the sound is different!\” I quickly made nonsense: \”They were originally going to fight, but then they felt that fighting was not good, so they There was no fight.\” Until one time later, I saw that the hero and heroine were about to enter the \”state\”, so I hugged him as usual.I tried to hold her, but she pushed me away impatiently and said: \”They have finished kissing, please stop covering me.\” I finally understood that my little girl was growing up quietly, and she already vaguely understood many things. . It is normal for children to be interested in love issues. Movies, TV dramas, games, advertisements, classmates teaching each other, and all kinds of love concepts invade the child\’s little mind in different ways. The information about love she receives has exceeded ours. imagination. If we parents are still \”disloyal when talking about love\”, then we are ignoring the facts and covering our ears. We should treat children\’s curiosity and confusion with a calm attitude. Covering up is not the way to solve the problem, face it squarely without avoiding it, guide it correctly without blocking the obstacles. Once, we went to see the movie \”囧\” together. That day happened to be the premiere of \”囧\”. At the end of the movie, director Xu Zheng brought several actors to the scene for a \”fan meeting.\” My daughter was very excited when she saw a \”real\” big star for the first time and acted like a \”fan\”. Finally, Director Xu said he wanted to ask the children present a question: \”At the beginning of the movie, what were the male and female protagonists doing?\” People who have watched this film may still remember that it was the male and female protagonists doing \”human-making exercises\” on the bed. . I looked at my daughter with some anxiety and was thinking about how to explain this problem to her. Unexpectedly, my 8-year-old daughter stood up very calmly and answered loudly and calmly under the gaze of the entire audience: \”They are relieving constipation.\” \”(Because the male protagonist in the movie has constipation, the heroine always asks him to take medicine.) After three seconds of silence, the audience burst into thunderous laughter and applause. Director Xu Da also held back his laughter and said jokingly: \”Thank you to this brave little girl for opening up our thinking. It\’s true that the waves behind the Yangtze River push the waves in front, and the waves in front hit her to death on the beach!\” As my daughter grows up day by day, and the level of contact becomes wider and wider, I vaguely feel that sex education is also It should be put on the agenda. Like other peers, my daughter likes TFboys, Lu Han and other young and beautiful stars. I specially found reports about Wang Junkai and Lu Han as top academics to read to her, telling her that these people are already very smart and successful, but They still work hard to make progress and encourage their daughter to learn from her idols and strive to be the best version of herself. In the third grade, the subject of “Science” began to be added. One of them asked the children to raise snails for observation. My daughter and her friends caught several snails and put them in transparent plastic boxes. They gathered together to observe and discuss them as soon as school was over. One day, her daughter suddenly shouted: \”Ah, a male snail and a female snail are getting married!\” Everyone gathered around and asked her why. The daughter proudly pointed at the two snails and said, \”The male snail climbed onto the female snail, and they are going to get married if they kiss.\” Then, a group of naughty children started to tell \”gossip\” about snails as if they were going crazy. \”Why does a male snail climb on a female snail to get married?\” \”The BBC documentary tells that a male animal woos a female animal, and the female will only allow the male to hug and kiss her if she agrees.\” The daughter moved out. I learned about the mating knowledge in the animal kingdom from the TV documentary I saw before. \”What are they going to do after they get married?\” \”Stupid,Of course, enter the bridal chamber and then give birth to the baby! The daughter confidently spread the \”knowledge about marriage and childbirth\” to her companions. Then they collected leaves and built a \”bridal chamber\” in the \”dwelling\” because the daughter said that giving birth to a baby is a very private matter and cannot be seen by others. Well, at least she understands the correct order of courting first, then getting married, and then having a baby. At least she understands that this is a very private matter. My daughter said they are \”post-00s\”, and she calls us \”European queens\” , out and old, are also Obasan and Ojisang. In the electronic age, they are the original people, and we are the later immigrants. But no matter how times and concepts change, love has always been one of the most beautiful and greatest emotions of mankind. , in the child\’s perception and feelings, the emotions she experiences are real and valuable, even a trivial heartbeat is an emotion that she regards as a treasure. In the family, if we want to cultivate a correct view of love in our children, we must Let the child be cultivated by love from an early age, know what love is, and let her learn to give love and enjoy love. Only then will she be able to establish true love with her significant other in the future, without seeking any benefits or benefits, just because Only by falling in love with each other, supporting each other, and working hard to move forward for a common family, common offspring, common career, and common future can we reap the fruits of happy love.