After she used this trick, the child changed from a gaming fan to a reading fan!

Hello everyone! My name is Zhang Mei, from Taierzhuang, Shandong. I am a mother of two children. The eldest is a son, 13 years old this year; the younger is a daughter, 8 years old this year. Because I was busy with business and neglected to accompany my children and family education, I suddenly realized more than two years ago that I have continued to learn, grow and change myself. Through my own learning, growth and change, I also explored many practical methods through getting along with my children. . Therefore, I want to tell more parents my story before and after the change, and I want to use my own personal experience to awaken and help more parents! I hope more and more parents will pay attention to family education and their children’s inner health! How to make children fall in love with reading? Today, I will take our two children as an example to share my experience with you. 1. Role reversal to make my daughter fall in love with reading. I remember that my daughter liked to listen to stories when she was very young, but at that time I was not very aware and was very busy, so I didn’t have the patience. It wasn\’t until my daughter was more than 5 years old that I insisted on telling her stories every night. She listened happily and was very happy every night. She always hoped that you would keep reading forever. To be honest, reading stories to children seems simple, but in fact it is not easy. Sometimes my throat is tired and uncomfortable. But fortunately, I persisted in the end. After my daughter entered first grade, I bought her some pinyin reading materials. One day, I suddenly thought, it would be great if the child could read books by herself, so that she could practice pinyin. So, I thought of a way. I said to my daughter: \”Baby, you like listening to your mother tell stories, don\’t you?\” She nodded, and I said: \”I feel very happy listening to others tell stories. Unfortunately, my mother never heard others tell me stories. When I was a child, Your grandma never told me a story. But I really want to hear other people tell stories from the bottom of my heart. Can you read a short story to your mother today? Fulfill your mother\’s wish, okay?\” The considerate daughter listened. Finally, he happily agreed. Next, my daughter told me a story. I looked at her seriously and listened attentively. My daughter has just finished learning Pinyin and is not very proficient yet, so when she encounters a word she doesn’t recognize, she will stop and look carefully, but even so, I will not interrupt or tell her directly. After my daughter finished telling the story, I would say in a very surprised tone: \”My child, what you read is so good and vivid, as if you let me step into the story. I am so moved and touched. You have grown so big.\” This is the first time since I heard someone tell me a story that she is still my daughter. Do you know how happy I am?\” After saying that, I quickly hugged her. Although my daughter didn\’t say anything, I could tell from her expression that she was very happy inside. Unexpectedly, she said: \”Mom, how about I tell you a story every night from now on?\” I was really touched at this time, and this was exactly the effect I wanted. I looked into her eyes and said, \”Of course. If I could hear my little cotton-padded jacket telling me stories every day, that would be such a blessing!\” (Real shot of the bookshelf in Zhang Mei\’s home) From then on, my daughter would sit down every night. She would tell me stories, and I would encourage her exaggeratedly every time. By reading stories by myself every day, I found that she likes to read more and moreBook. Then, I tried to discuss it with my daughter: \”Baby, I have a suggestion. I feel that it is very hard for you to tell me stories every day. Do you think this is okay? Starting from tomorrow, I will read a book with you, that is, we will sit together Together, you read yours and I read mine. What do you think of this idea?\” My daughter happily agreed, so we started a new way of reading. In fact, I had planned these in advance, and I am really happy to see my plans being realized step by step. After persisting for a period of time, no matter whether I read it or not, she would go into the room to read a book before going to bed, and she would be very immersed and focused in reading, and she would reluctantly put the book down almost every time. This is how my daughter fell in love with books. I believe that there is no sooner or later time to train children to read. As long as everyone is patient and attentive, our children will fall in love with reading. 2. Reading helps my son consciously stay away from video games. I remember that when my son was in the third grade of elementary school, he really wanted to play games, so I discussed with him and let him play for half an hour every Saturday. My son was very happy and kept his word, and he took the initiative to close it when the time came. But I gradually discovered that every Saturday he was extremely impatient, as if he couldn\’t wait for that point to arrive, and couldn\’t concentrate on anything. I feel like there\’s a problem. At that time, he already liked reading, but he was not as obsessed as he is now. I planned to make an article from the book, so I found an opportunity and asked him in a very respectful tone: \”Son, what do you think is the biggest gain since we started playing games?\” He thought for a long time, as if he didn\’t know why. answer. I said again: \”Son, have you noticed? Ever since we started playing games, have you been looking forward to Saturday very much? You can\’t feel at ease and are looking forward to playing as soon as possible? I can\’t blame you for this. It seems like this Games are indeed easy to get addicted to, and I think I will be like this when I play. In fact, if we think about it carefully, apart from being a little exciting, the game really doesn’t have much to gain. And it’s also very hard on the eyes.” After hearing this, my son said sheepishly He laughed and said that this was how he felt. I then said: \”Shall we do an experiment? Let\’s stop playing games for a month. I know you like reading books very much, and I will buy you more books. If you have time, read more books. When you read, Imagining the characters in your mind is like playing a movie in your brain, and you feel the magical scene. A month later, we will talk about this topic again, and see what your true feelings are? If you still think of playing games It\’s better. Mom respects your choice. If you think reading is good, I will buy you more books. As long as you like it, mom will try her best to buy it for you. What do you think? Let\’s try it, shall we?\” The son listened. Finally agreed, and just like that, we started this experiment. Since my son prefers reading animal novels, I bought him many animal novels. A month later, my son said to me very firmly: \”Mom, I choose to read. I still think reading is interesting.\” In this way, my son chose to give up the game. This incident made me realize that once a child falls in love with reading, The appeal of electronic products to him has been greatly reduced. Of course, the child\’s reactionIt may also have something to do with my communication method at the time. If I had accused and reprimanded my child and forced him to obey, the effect would have been opposite. Therefore, the communication methods and skills between us and our children are also extremely important. We must respect and understand our children. 3. How to choose suitable books for children? 1. Listen to your child’s voice and find out his or her preferences. When children first start reading, they must focus on their interests. Parents should not be too impatient at this time. The books recommended by experts and teachers are indeed very good, but it also depends on whether the children like them. We believe that once children fall in love with books, they will be happy to accept our recommendations. 2. Respect the child’s interests according to their age. Every time before buying a book for my daughter, I always ask for her permission and buy it according to her preferences. Therefore, she is very happy every time she gets the book. The required reading recommended by school teachers is indeed very good, but it doesn’t seem to attract children’s attention. Younger children are more interested in picture books. I never force my daughter to read the required reading list. I think, as long as the child is willing to read it, as long as it is a healthy book, what can’t be read? Just watch it and you will gain something. After children slowly fall in love with reading, they will naturally be willing to read any book. If we force them to read books they don’t like, imagine if children can still be interested in reading? 3. For children in the middle and lower grades of primary school, the number of reading books should gradually transition from picture books to text books. Children in middle and primary schools need to read some books related to traditional culture, including fairy tales and novels. 4. Some misunderstandings about children’s reading 1. Try to let children read the original work instead of the adapted version. After reading the adaptations of the four major classics, my son said that he felt that the original works were no longer very attractive to him because many of the plots were already known and were not as interesting as reading other books. What’s more, the quality of some adaptations was not that good. There are certain differences in the original work, so it is recommended that children with basic abilities would be better off reading the original work directly. 2. Don’t let your children read with the task of writing a review. I think reading should be a very free and enjoyable thing. If a child reads with a task, he will not be able to relax and will lose interest in reading. Therefore, in terms of reading, I have no requirements for my two children. 5. How to carry out parent-child reading. At the beginning, we can read to the children, do not use our own language, and must read according to the language in the book. In fact, the earlier parent-child reading starts, the better. Many experts and teachers have talked about it now, so I won’t say more. During this process, parents must be patient and not anxious, as long as their children are willing to listen. Later, we can encourage the children to read to us. After listening, we must encourage the children, so that the children will have a sense of accomplishment and turn passive into active. This is how my daughter fell in love with reading. Another important point is not to force children to talk or narrate the book after reading it, as this will reduce the child\’s interest. Just because he can\’t explain it doesn\’t mean he hasn\’t absorbed it, nor does it mean he hasn\’t taken it seriously. As long as the amount of reading increases, the knowledge from books will be integrated into his thoughts over time. In fact, when they really like reading, they will be more interested in reading.You don’t need to ask about the story, they will tell you the story proactively. Parents are their children\’s first teachers, and the influence that parents have on their children\’s lives cannot be overstated. As long as parents recognize the importance of reading to their children and are willing to guide them, their children can be nourished. It\’s never too late to start taking action.