After watching All or Nothing, I discovered: As a parent, you must teach your children 3 things in advance

Some people say: Life is an inadvertent choice between one thought of heaven and one thought of hell. I deeply agree with this. Especially recently, the movie \”All or Nothing\” has been very popular. After I took my children to watch this movie, I suddenly realized that we still have a lot of shortcomings when it comes to educating children. On the way home from the movie, our family\’s milk beans asked me a lot of questions one after another like \”One Hundred Thousand Whys\”. Moreover, children\’s perspectives are sometimes very different from those of us adults. So, after returning home, while I was thinking carefully about my children\’s problems, I also began to realize that the movie \”All or Nothing\” not only teaches adults how to avoid some risks, but also teaches many parents how to educate their children. It brought a lot of enlightenment to the matter. It is precisely because of watching this movie that I realized: As a parent, you must teach your children three things in advance as they grow up. 01. Teach your children to “choose friends and recognize people.” On the way home from watching a movie, our family asked me: Dad, can it be said that a trustworthy friend will really deceive himself one day? I didn’t answer at the time because I felt that telling the child the answer to the question too directly might hurt the child’s cherishment and concern for friendship. But now, I have changed my mind. If I answer this question again, I will definitely tell my children: Yes, just because they are good friends, they have more opportunities to get close to themselves and hurt themselves. The answer, although heartbreaking, is indeed the truth. Just think about it, if you met a stranger on the street and he said he could make a lot of money with you, would you believe it? I think most people will think that the other party is a liar. But then again, what if this person is your friend? Maybe many people are not too suspicious, and even get into the game in a daze under the other party\’s persuasion. Therefore, telling children the correct answer does not mean making children no longer believe in friendship, but it means being more thoughtful when it comes to making friends. Because, many times, deception from friends is far more frightening and terrifying than from strangers. Therefore, as children grow up, we must teach them how to \”know friends and make friends.\” Although there is an old saying among the people that \”knowing people, knowing faces, but not knowing hearts\”, if children can understand from an early age, whether it is making friends or dealing with Emotions take character as the first element, so the risk of being hurt can be avoided to a large extent. Once you find that the other person\’s character has problems or flaws, you should be more distracted and know how to get out immediately, so that your normal life and life will not be damaged by some \”bad friends\”. 02. Teach children to \”control desires.\” As the old saying goes: Indulging desires is instinct, while restraining desires is skill. Everyone wants to take shortcuts, earn more wealth, and gain a higher status, but if we use losing the bottom line and cheating as methods and means, then the status and wealth earned can really make us Is it something you can have with peace of mind? Perhaps, for most people, they hope to achieve a counterattack in life through their own hard work and efforts. But in fact, when money and profits reach a certain level,There are also some people who are willing to take risks. For example, the villain in the film, Manager Lu, knows exactly what kind of path this is, but still abandons his conscience and bottom line, and enjoys the pleasure of wealth through illegal means with peace of mind. After the movie ended, our children asked me this question: Can you really make more money by deceiving people? Although I don’t want to admit it, the reality is that sometimes lying can indeed make making money easier. Moreover, everyone may have the dream of getting rich overnight, so when their \”desire\” exceeds their \”ability\”, they will take some extreme measures. But the question is, when using such \”means\” to seek wealth for oneself, can one gain peace, and will he really not regret it when he needs to face legal sanctions? Therefore, no matter when it comes, you cannot be bound by \”desire\”. You must know that being practical is the best shortcut to making money and the best way to satisfy your wishes. And those so-called \”shortcuts\” may take us further. Therefore, it is very necessary to teach children to \”control desires\”, because only by adhering to principles can you guard your life. 03. Teach children to stop losses in time. In the movie \”All or Nothing\”, the most memorable line is probably this sentence: People have two hearts, one is greedy, and the other is unwilling. Just like the character A Tian in the movie, he accidentally saw an advertisement and finally became out of control. He always wanted to get it back, but in the end he fell deeper and deeper until he paid the price with his life. So why are people \”unwilling\”? In fact, there is a term in economics called: sunk cost. What does that mean? That is, when people decide to do something, they will not only look at whether it is good for them, but also whether they have invested in it in the past. Everything that has been paid, such as time, energy, money, etc., is called sunk cost. To give a simple example, you spent 40 yuan to watch a movie today, but the movie turned out to be boring. At this time, you will have two choices: leave midway, or bite the bullet and watch it. I think most people will choose to bite the bullet and watch the movie to the end. The reason is very simple, because 40 yuan has been spent, and even if you don\’t finish reading it, the money will not be returned to you. So for this 40 yuan, I have to finish it no matter what, otherwise I will feel that I have lost more. This is actually a sunk cost problem, and many of the difficulties in our lives come from this. So after watching the movie, I feel that as a parent, we must teach our children one thing, and that is: stop losses in time. As the writer said when I sleep late: In life, you will always experience various failures, go in the wrong direction, love the wrong person, and choose the wrong path. At this time, stop loss is the great wisdom of life that can be used to save lives at critical moments. I deeply agree with this. Most people get into trouble in life and cannot get out of it. Most of them forget the correct path of \”stop loss\”. Therefore, as children grow up, we must tell them: It is not terrible to make mistakes, it is not terrible to take the wrong path, and it is not terrible to love the wrong person. What is terrible is that you have to go your own way.Black, you have tricked yourself for the rest of your life. We must understand that the great wisdom in life is to admit that we have made mistakes, and to find the right path while facing the mistakes head-on. In fact, I was very lucky to watch this movie with my children, and I am very happy that it gave me more inspiration on the road to raising children. Therefore, I also hope that every parent can share his insights with his children, so that their children\’s lives will be more protected and less dangerous.