After watching the tragic video of a girl falling to death in Gansu, as a mother I suddenly felt so scared…

The day before yesterday, on my way to the second level EFT marital therapy training, I saw a frightening message in my circle of friends. In Gansu, a 19-year-old high school girl was about to commit suicide by jumping off a building. The fire truck was downstairs. The firefighters even grabbed the girl\’s hand. The rescue took as long as two hours, but the girl chose to give up in the end. What made her resolutely give up her life was not only the depression that caused her great pain, the obscene shadow that she could not escape from, but also the indifferent cheers and applause of the onlookers below. The girl suffered from traumatic stress disorder as a result of being molested. The person who molested her was her class teacher. Two years ago, when the girl was resting in the teacher\’s apartment because of a stomachache, she was kissed, hugged and torn off her clothes by her class teacher on the pretext of visiting a doctor. The girl was in great pain, but had no way to seek help. The severe physical and mental pain and shame made her suffer from depression. She increasingly felt that death was the best relief, and began to commit suicide many times, taking medicine three times and jumping off a building once. She was rescued in time, but she did not come out of the shadows. On June 20, the girl left her last words on her WeChat Moments and attempted suicide again. After receiving the alarm, the fire police launched an all-out rescue operation. Although the girl rejected her father\’s plea and the police\’s persuasion, she did not refuse the help of the firefighters. The girl knew this firefighter. The last time the girl committed suicide, it was this firefighter who saved her. So this time, she accepted help from the firefighters, too. The firefighter came to the girl and kept comforting her. Such efforts were not ineffective. The firefighter grabbed one of the girl\’s hands desperately. However, at the critical moment, the hundreds of people watching below couldn\’t hold it in any longer. They cheered and applauded below. Instead of trying to save the girl\’s life, they shouted \”Hurry up and jump\” and \”Why aren\’t you jumping yet?\” Someone said The live broadcast on mobile phones was also started. The booing and indifference of the onlookers became the last straw for the girl to completely give up hope. After gently saying thank you to the firefighter, the girl broke free from the firefighter\’s hands and jumped from a height of 30 meters. come down. The moment the girl broke free, the firefighter cried heartbreakingly. And what about those people who were watching and applauding? What is chilling is that none of them felt guilty about the girl. Some of them said, \”Don\’t cause trouble for the police.\” Some said, \”You danced right, otherwise I would be sorry for so many people watching.\” Some said, \”I was just making noise. Who knows?\” Can she really jump?\” The police promptly detained some of the people who took the lead in the heckles, but I believe these people will not have any regrets. Maybe they will also resent the girl, thinking that the girl has caused them such an unfortunate experience! Those who have not been punished will pat their chests and say: \”Fortunately, nothing happened to me…\” Think about it, do you feel chilling? The behavior of the onlookers was really chilling. Facing a living life, instead of showing anxiety and sympathy, they told her to die quickly. Think about it, for people who are already desperate for life, such indifference will not help except intensify their inner despair and make them once again confirm that \”this is an indifferent society\” and thus give up the last chance. Especially for people suffering from depression, this is the cruelest push. So depressedChoosing to commit suicide shows that their emotions are on the edge of life and death. They cannot feel any warmth in this world. Even the strongest sunshine in summer will not eliminate the ice in their hearts. Life has nothing to do with them. attraction. For them, suicide methods such as jumping off a building, lying on the train, cutting off drugs, etc. are not only not scary, but a kind of relief. Their main feeling is: \”Nothing is more painful than being alive!\” In this mentality, they only I want to free myself quickly. Those shouts of \”Why aren\’t you dead yet?\” \”Hurry up and die!\” are a call to death to them, which will make them move toward death without hesitation. In this incident, it was the indifferent onlookers who were hated, but how did they develop their indifference? Perhaps it is a question worth pondering more deeply. I couldn\’t help but think of a friend who told me a frightening scene she saw at the gate of her child\’s school a few days ago. After school, maybe the child behaved badly and was criticized. The parent became angry and beat his son severely in front of a group of children regardless of the occasion. Seeing their classmates being beaten, none of the children in the same class stepped forward to stop their parents. Instead, the children cheered and shouted: \”Well beaten!\” \”You should be beaten hard!\” Such cheers were endless! My friend said that she was stunned when she saw this scene. She suddenly felt so terrible. When did our children become so cold-hearted? Are these children who are watching and cheering exactly the same as those who watched and cheered when the girl jumped off the building? The mentality of the children when cheering is: \”Anyway, I am not the one who is being beaten. The harder the beating, the better!\” The mentality of those watching the suicide is: \”Anyway, the person who committed suicide has nothing to do with me. I can just watch her after she is dead.\” Fun!\” Is it similar? Is it scary? Why is the indifference behind this not chilling? The indifferent hearts of those who watch suicides can no longer make them enthusiastic. But what about the kids? Do we really want to make their hearts become so cold and selfish from childhood? They are still so young, their lives are still so long, and they represent our future and hope. If these children who represent hope for the future have such a cold mentality, if they lack respect and love among their peers, how can we expect that our future society will be warmer and full of hope? Are children who grow up with such an indifferent mentality more likely to kill their peers for their own benefit, fighting for life and death? When they encounter setbacks, when their lives hit a trough, when they are vulnerable and helpless, how dare we expect them to have sincere friends who can lend a helping hand in time and help them? Where can I find trustworthy friends? Maybe you will say that there are no trustworthy friends in this world, so we parents are the most trustworthy people for our children. It is enough for me to help. It is true that parents are the most trustworthy people for their children, but can parents help their children for a lifetime? Can parents help their children solve all life problems? Can the relationship between parents replace all relationships in the child\’s society? impossible! All people are social beings and grow up in society, there must be interpersonal communication and interaction, the growth brought about by the care between friends, the intimacy between best friends and best friends, and the competition of conscience among colleagues, which are also the driving force for a person\’s growth. If a person has no relatives, no friends he can trust, no best friends he can confide in, and no partners he can trust, how painful would it be for such a person to live in the world? How hideous would such a life be? Do we really want our children to grow up in such an indifferent environment? Do we really want our children to be left alone and helpless, with no one to help them? Don\’t think it\’s a fluke. If we allow our children\’s hearts to become more and more indifferent and selfish, the tragedy of this 19-year-old girl will happen more and more in our lives. Parents cannot protect their children throughout their lives. What kind of future we should create for our children is closely related to our current education for our children. If each of our parents integrates the cultivation of their children\’s attitude towards life and their sense of responsibility for society into every aspect of their children\’s growth, only then will their children be able to be nurtured into a warm, loving and respectful person. On the other hand, if we tell our children in normal education that as long as they are happy and don’t care about other people’s pain, or we tell them that as long as they are fine, they don’t have to care about other people’s lives or lives, the children will become more and more selfish and indifferent. … Should we give our children a future full of warmth and hope or a tomorrow of indifference and despair? Perhaps each of our parents should seriously think about this issue! This world is not always smooth sailing, nor is it like spring all year round. When the cold comes, only warmth can resist the wind and cold!