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The ancients said: Haste makes waste, and small gains mean big things will fail. Download the electronic version of the best-selling book Primary School Mathematics Helper with 36 volumes in full color and ultra-clear PDF. Education should always be a slow and elegant process. Teaching a child well cannot be rushed. Raise children slowly In today\’s society, there are two words that everyone can\’t live without, one is \”fast\” and the other is \”hurry\”. Because the pace of life is so fast, even educating children requires quick solutions and one step. But once people become impatient, it is easy to become anxious and anxious. Once impatient, a lot of education cannot be done well. There are many anxious parents around us who send their children to various interest classes and training classes when they are in kindergarten. When their children enter elementary school, they are eager to enroll them in a cram school for every subject. \”It won\’t work if you don\’t sign up. Your child\’s grades won\’t improve. Besides, everyone else has signed up for the class. If you don\’t sign up, you\’ll feel like you\’re sorry for your child.\” Are you really sorry for your child? Are you sure your child is willing to accept it? In fact, the matter of enrolling in classes, to put it bluntly, is just for parents to have peace of mind. Children who can learn do not need extracurricular tutoring, and children who cannot learn will not be helped by tutoring. It is also possible that good intentions lead to bad things, because you enroll your children in too many classes and put too much pressure on them, causing them to hate learning more and more. In ancient times, some farmers were eager for success and pulled up the newly planted seedlings, thinking that they would help it grow. Unexpectedly, they died the next day. Nowadays, some parents are eager for success and want to train their children to become \”geniuses\” and \”prodigies\”, but they ignore the normal growth patterns of their children. Children should be educated slowly, and at the very least, they should respect their growth patterns. Teach your child to walk when it\’s time for him to learn to walk, so that he won\’t injure his muscles and bones in a hurry to run. Give your child a push when he relaxes so that he doesn\’t have a nervous breakdown from being pushed too hard all the time. Black Young Dragon, known as the \”Father of Chinese Carnegie\”, once said: \”Every child is a flower, but the flowering period is different. We must learn to wait patiently.\” Wait patiently and cultivate slowly. We seek temporary speed and efficiency, and we also hope that our children can take every step steadily. Some people ask, \”Just wait for the flowers to bloom\”. Does it mean that parents don\’t have to worry about anything and just wait for their children to grow up? Of course not. How can seeds germinate without long-term cultivation? How do flowers bloom? Many parents misunderstand waiting for the flowers to bloom and think that letting their children go is letting them do nothing. It turned out that the child became more and more \”crooked\” as he grew up, and eventually became a look that even he hated. I have a classmate who was often late when he was studying, and his class teacher would ask his parents every few days. His parents disagreed, saying that since the child couldn\’t get up in the morning and was growing, it would be okay to let him sleep more. Later, this classmate was not only late, but also often skipped classes to play games in Internet cafes, picking up many bad habits. After graduating from high school, his parents sent him to study abroad. I heard that he returned to China within half a semester. Because he often skipped classes and failed to hand in his homework, he had seriously violated school discipline and was expelled from the school. If you don\’t educate your child, there will always be someone to educate him hard for you. Children should be left alone, but they should never be left alone. The true free-range education frees up children\’s thinking and cultivates children\’s habits. Children are born with a thirst for knowledge and are interested in learningIf there is a strong interest, parents cannot curb this interest, but find ways to open up their children\’s thinking world. No matter how big or small things are, try to let the children make their own decisions. Even if they encounter difficulties, they should be encouraged to challenge bravely. Parents only need to stand next to their children and help them develop good habits, form correct outlook on life, and become a moral, responsible, and courageous person. I have seen a very interesting metaphor: \”herding\” children is like \”herding sheep\”. The shepherd should take the sheep to fertile pastures and let the sheep eat grass to their heart\’s content. Parents should also lead their children to a broader and more meaningful world and stimulate their interest and desire to actively seek knowledge and explore. Parents should give their children the space to grow freely, but not to let go unprincipled, but to control in a principled manner and grasp the degree of education. There are standards for raising children and educating them. Parents must abide by the standards of parenthood. We are not children and cannot decide or arrange everything for our children. Otherwise, children will become puppets of their parents and lose their own personality and even their entire life. \”Strange Story\” BBking Zhan Qingyun, a doctor of law from Harvard University, has not been outstanding since he was a child. When she was a child, her grades were not good and she had no improvement after transferring to another school several times. However, her parents gave her unconditional trust and support. Zhan Qingyun’s mother is very confident in her daughter and tells her every year: You will definitely become the best student in the school next year. Her father never restrained her, taught her to read various books, took her on business trips, and gave her wings to fly. Because of this unique education method, Zhan Qingyun finally found the most suitable learning method for her – she does not need high pressure, only long-term accumulation. Her mother\’s encouragement made her very confident, and her father\’s teachings gave her a profound knowledge reserve. She became the first in her class from the second year of high school, and later was admitted to Harvard University, a world-class university. Not all children are suitable for the same old teaching methods. Only by adapting to their personality and characteristics can we find a suitable growth path for our children. There is no family environment that is most suitable for children to grow up, and there is no best way of raising children. Along the way, all parents are crossing the river by feeling the stones. Parents should play the role of a watcher, watching half the time and guarding the other half, allowing their children to have the courage to try, take the initiative to challenge, and develop valuable qualities such as independence, confidence, and bravery in practice. Education is a slow and elegant process. There is no \”success\”, only \”perfection\”. Parents watch over their children, make arrangements for their children as early as possible, slowly exert influence, silently nourish their nature, and guide their children to become themselves, which is the perfection of education.